Have you ever been adviced by someone as how to speak?

The only thing they told me about speaking is to speak louder.

only to be respectful of elders and I havent got to many of them above me lololol and if you have no one to talk to about things on your mind it can be harmful to your well being!

I have definitely learnt to be very careful what I speak about and to whom, particularly in the workplace. I work in a large organisation and it's very easy for some gossip to be spread around and twisted to make everything so much worse than it actually is. It's definitely best just to share your good news and keep your mouth shut about the sad things in life as people will just exaggerate things anyway.

We were taught at home, don't discuss money, religion, or politics. At school we were taught never argue, never raise your voice, and always use manners.

Even my parents are the same, they are always giving me tips on how should I address others and so good manners, I am grateful to them though that today I am able to talk well and be good to others too.

Dreamhome - I have not been very lucky in that department. Partly because my father too has been very innocent in this. He lost his parents early on in life, so there was nobody to guide him, and he became an open book sort of person. Having said that - I think many people dont take no when they are told so, either with hints, or bluntly. So at times rudeness becomes essential in my case. I am normally inclined to be very polite, except when somebody is trying to be shrewd. As to sharing grief, I think it should be shared - once, with everybody you judge as close to you. That would help them understand you better, and put up with any variation in your behavior, apart from becoming a therapy. If you bottle up your pain it wont subside. It will find a way to hurt you. However, non-stop crying can led to others getting bored. So anything like that should only be shared once.