Would You Tell Your Friend If Their Hubby/Wife Was Having An Affair?

I feel like if it was me I would definitely tell my friend, but my mom is in a situation where she can no longer hang out with this one friend, because her friend's husband has hit on mom on several occasions and my mother doesn't want to be around him. She feels guilty for not telling, but they are a really nice couple and they have four kids together. But like you said do you tell them and have them get angry at you? or do you just sit back and let things happen the way they will?

No. No. No. I would not tell him or her based on past experience. I once told a friend that I saw her boyfriend out with his ex wife and they were so chummy that it made me wonder if she was really an ex. What do you think happened? He fed her a line which she swallowed hook, line and sinker. She got angry with me and I lost a friend. She later learned that he had not only never divorced the "ex" but that they were still living together when my friend was dating him. She later found out that what I told her was true and she apologized but our friendship was never the same. At the end of the day, I would have rather had her friendship than let her find out by herself. All of the clues were there. If it was my best friend, I'm not sure how I would handle it. I would have to find a way to put her on the track without actually telling her. When it comes to matters of the heart, you have to walk a very fine line.

This happened to one of our daughter's best frienda. Our daughter went directly to the husband at work and talked to him about the fact he had been seen with another woman several times. He admitted the affair and my daughter told him that if he didn't tell his wife she was going to do it. He finally told his wife because so many people had seen him with the other woman. It was a mess for awhile but they went to counseling and it's all straightened out now. My daughter's friend stayed with her husband and they are still the best of friends. I really believe this type of situation depends on the people involved as to how it should be handled and the strong bond between friends.

Hello Nadia!In this case when my friends hubby is having an affair and that I am really able to confirn the fact then without a doubt I'll tell her about it though not in a very direct way.Probably I would start by telling her to try to watch her that i care about her a lot and then I would start giving her a hint of taking a closer look on her husband.It would be best that the truth about the issue should really be seen by her because only then can she believe it.As a close friend, I consider it my responsibility to protect my friend from harm or devastation.The earlier she knows about it, the easier it will get resolved.Some people may think that it would be best to stay out of the issue because it's their own family.I don't buy that ideaa though because If i'll put myself on my friends shoe then I would loveto be notified so as to be aware and confirm it and in that way I could decide on what to do after.

We'll if that happens to my friend? I wont have second thoughts. I'll tell them that their partner is having an affair. It hurts to know the truth at that very moment but the earliest time you tell them the better because the more pain it will cause if you tell them later. Later that they already know the situation.

I have an experience with that one. I have a friend and her boyfriend and I work at the same unit. Her boyfriend keeps on flirting with other girls in our unit, and there in this one beautiful girl that he really likes a lot because everyday he keeps on touching the girl and sometimes he just have a surprise kiss with that girl. But the woman doesn't like my friends boyfriend and she just keep on ignoring him. One day, he told the girl that if she wants to go with him abroad. And then I asked my friends boyfriend, if what will he do with my friend, then he replied.. I can take the two of them together. I really hate my friend's boyfriend but I just can't tell my friend about what he is doing. Sometimes I just tell my friend that I don't like her boyfriend because he does not appreciate the love that my friend have to him. I don't know why, but it is just that my friend does not care. I don't like to hurt my friend and I don't want to be the first one who will ruin their relationship. This is a big dilemma.

It's better to hear it from a friend than to hear it from other people or for them to find out. If you know that their husband or wife is having an affair, you need to tell them. It won't be easy, but they have to hear it. Best thing to do when telling them is to be sincere about it. Tell them that you do care about them, which you do, and you don't want to see them hurt, and that you don't think that they should be with someone who is hurting them and doesn't care about their well being. Of course, I would also confront the person having the affair as well, and tell them that you know what's going on and that you think that they should man or woman up to what they have done and that they need to spare their spouse anymore pain and suffering. I have seen affairs happen before and they never end well, but you have to do the right thing.

I would probably just drop hints. It is very hard to meddle with other people's affiars. If the cheater is my friend, I wouldn't have second thoughts on talking to him and telling him or her to stop.

First of all i would need to be 100% sure that it was happening, and it depends on which friend it is. If it was a very close friend of mine i would tell her/him. Of course i would tell them in a way that they wouldnt freakout. I would try to be sensitive about it and tell her the facts. How i know about the situation and everything.

It's not easy to know when to stay out of a relationship when you see a friend in trouble. It would be painful, but if i didn't tell my friend their spouse was cheating, I wouldn't feel right when i was with them. If my friend found out that I knew and didn't say anything, it would put a strain on the relationship. i would have to find the strength and courage and heart to let my friend know what is going on. they would deserve to know.

I think I would let her find out the information but not directly from my mouth. I would take her out to places you know where her husband has been going with this other girl. I would put it in her face so she would have to confront the truth, but I would not just tell her if there was no way I could definitively back up my statement. A lot of times your friend might not believe you and then she will also still be with her husband and you have just lost a friend.

Well for me I think I'll just let her find out that her husband is having an affair. But for the sake of friendship I'll just give her a clue or maybe tell her a story most likely similar to her situation so that she could have an idea of what's really happening. Because the truth will really come out and when she discovered that I already knew, maybe she will get mad at me that I didn't told her.

I would first assess the situation. I would consider how strong his love is for her, because the fact that he is cheating does not mean that he doesnt love her. Its a man thing dont try to figure it out!If it is a case where I have a good relationship with him, then I would find some way to let him know that I know what is going on. I probably would want to let the old co-worker know that his wife is a very very good friend of mine. That would be a diplomatic way of letting both of them know that if they dont stop Im telling! But i wouldnt tell right away i would give them some time to end it, if there are no signs of them ending it. Then i would have to find some subtle way of telling my friend, i'm sorry i would have to risk the friendship but i will not let my girl get hurt!