Aspergers Syndrome
@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
United States
August 19, 2010 7:44pm CST
I want to write a story, and my main character will be a guy that is "special." I'm not positive about what condition I'm going to give him, but I've been reading up on Aspergers syndrome. I'm also going to get the movie Adam (2009) from Netflix because the guy in it has Aspergers, and I can see if that's how I want my character to be.
Now, like I said I've been reading about it--but I've been finding sites with so much clinical talk! Some of it's hard to understand. So if anyone knows ANYTHING about Aspergers, or has any experience with it, I would appreciate the information. Remember, ANYTHING you can tell me will help! :)
Thank you
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@spiderlizard22 (3444)
• United States
20 Aug 10
Watch 3rd rock from the sun. D i c k Solom acts like he has asperger's syndrome. Imagine Asperger syndrome as someone from another planet who landed on earth and don't know earth customs and they try to figure it out.
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@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
20 Aug 10
That is actually a really good way of looking at it. There was also a character in "Boston Legal" that has it, and there is a character in the book "An Abundance of Katherines" that has it. This isn't a new condition, but it is sad that many people don't know much about it.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
20 Aug 10
I have a friend with this condition, and just because people have this condition does not mean that it is the end of the world, or that they cannot live a normal life, it just means that they have a lot of trouble socializing. People with Aspergers are usually really smart and intelligent people. They can run circles around people with their knowledge, but when it comes to social situations, they don't connect with people too well. It's hard for most of them to read emotions or to form relationships. They with time and a lot of work, but it's not easy. They cannot see when they offend or hurt someone, or they cannot see when someone is hurt emotionally. Now, human beings, by right, have to be taught how to read emotions as a survival skill. When you see that someone is angry, you often know to stay back, to move away, or not approach them, a person with this condition doesn't always know that, or they can't see that.
For my friend, I have to cue her sometimes when she is saying or doing things that she shouldn't be saying or doing, and I have to cue her when to stay away from someone because I think that they might be a potential threat at that time.
This is also a form or Autism, but it higher on the spectrum. Many people who have this condition can and do go on to college and do get their degrees. They can still live normal lives.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
21 Aug 10
Well, your character shouldn't be a complete outcast. In the story "An Abundance of Katherines", the main character socialized with people, he just wasn't very good at it. He was very smart, and he went to school and had friends just like anyone else, but when it came to relationships, you know, with women, he repeated his mistakes over and over again. I think he dated 19 Katherines. No Kates, Katies, Kathys, or Catherines.
These Katherines all had the same spelling name and they were all called "Katherine". I still have the book at my house. It's a great book. Again, he was just like a lot of us, but when it came to relationships, he made the same mistakes.
In certain social situations, he didn't always know when he was being obnoxious or annoying, and his friend would have to tell him, but other than that, he was every bit as normal as you and me.
@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
21 Aug 10
oh I'm not going to make him an outcast. He's actually going to be living somewhere that doesn't have a ton of people (no big city) but he is going to have a neighbor that visits him every couple days or so.
19 Katherines for one guy??? Wow! lol
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@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
21 Aug 10
Thank you for the good description rogue, it helps a lot!
My character is definitely going to be living a pretty normal life--living by himself, happy, friendly, etc...so I'm not going to make him seem like he's some dark social outcast lol
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
20 Aug 10
I'm sorry lily, all I can say is "congratulations" for your desire to write this book..I looked up what aspergers is and yes, a lot of talk I don't quite understand, not enough to write about it. I hope someone has some info for you, I know what it is like to write about something you don't know about..Like my next book is going to be set in Israel, yet I never been there. But in college I am going to take a course in the history of the area, and aren't you a college student? Maybe there is a course, not as a medical credit, but maybe a subject that does talk about this disorder???
@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
20 Aug 10
Yes I'm a college student. I'm not sure if there are any classes I can take to help. I did take Psychology and we learned about some disorders in that class, but I don't remember talking about Aspergers. Maybe I'll look it up in that text book for that class.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
20 Aug 10
That's a good idea or talk to the teacher and see if they have a good book for you to read..
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Aug 10
Irish would disagree with me, but I think I have a mild version of Asperger's (undiagnosed). I just feel very awkward in social situations, very out of place among most other people, very introverted, not good at expression emotion, etc. But it's there, most people just don't get to see it...
@pogi253 (1596)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
I once read this article that asperger syndrome is an autism disorder, with people showing difficult social interaction with other people, with people who have it shows repetitive interest in certain things that might not show in other people. While none reslly knows where or how it is even caused, with scientist still studying to find out where it comes from or how you get it. I've learn from hearing that it is possible to get better over time if a child has it but it could also lead into adulthood.
@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
20 Aug 10
Yeah I read that if someone has it they have it all their life, but it's just more mild as an adult.
I also read that they don't like change, and like to stick to a schedule.
Thanks pogi
@Catana (735)
• United States
20 Aug 10
Try this forum: http://www.wrongplanet.net/forums.html It's for the whole autism spectrum, so there are people there who are diagnosed with autism, and a lot with Asperger's. I have Asperger's, but at the very high end, so my experience probably wouldn't be very helpful. Mainly, you need to understand that there is no one typical way that Asperger's expresses itself. The saying is (and it's just a play on the general saying) that when you've seen one person with Asperger's, you've seen one person with Asperger's. Just try to avoid the stereotypes and pity. It's too often portrayed as a disability, but since it has many "co-morbidities" and they range in severity, most of us consider at least some of our "handicaps" as benefits.
@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
20 Aug 10
Thank you for the link!
So if I want to write my character with Aspergers I have a lot of wiggle room to go with it? There's no one right way to write in a character with Aspergers?
Thanks!
@Catana (735)
• United States
20 Aug 10
Lily, yes, there's lots of wiggle room, but also lots of room for showing the wrong things. Not to criticize albertwhisker at all, but not being good at math has nothing to do with Asperger's. In fact, one of the (false) beliefs about people with Asperger's is that they are all are good at subjects like math, science, computers, etc. Since Asperger's is a fairly new diagnosis and our understanding of it is still developing, even people with Asperger's don't always know that much about it.
Another stereotype is the one that Irishfrndly describes. The typical Asperger's person is supposed to be cold, unsympathic, unemotional. But there are just as many who are overemotional and empathic.
The important thing for someone writing fiction is not to present any symptoms as typical of the whole spectrum.
@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
20 Aug 10
Well if I give my character Aspergers I definitely don't think my guy will be the typical/stereotypical/cliche type. He is DEFINITELY not going to be a cold unsympathetic guy, that wouldn't work for my story.
Catana did you happen to see Mercury Rising? With Bruce Willis?
Thanks for the help Cat and albert!
@quita88 (3715)
• United States
22 Aug 10
Hey sugar, I do not know a thing about this disease.
But, I'm sure by now you've got the info you need. I've just been busy all week and even today that intended to rest some, has turned into a moving furniture...especially my ironing board type day !
My male cat, Flash loves my ironing board..but he turns over my iron and two days ago that hot iron landed on a pair of scissors and melted the handle into the ironing board......what a mess !!!. Nothing too bad but that iron is going to get broke.
I just cannot keep him off it....
So, in my sewing section today I've moved my exercise bike, two tables a shelving unit and lots of sewing stuff just so he might not get on my ironing board !!
Anyway, sorry bout me not having any info...
I hope you get this story done and it's a best seller :)
hugs,
quita