How did the pain change you?

I had often wondered myself why it was that losing friendships seems to be a lot harder than losing a relationship or being laid off from a job. It's not easy to end a friendship because there's no script, there's no specific reason. You can't tell your friend of many years that you're not talking to her anymore because he/she leaves the toilet seat up or because your s(e)x life is terrible. You can't come up and say "It's not you, it's me. I need time for myself. " You either drift apart or you have one huge explosive confrontation that leaves you wondering if it was the right thing to do. Let's admit it, sometimes our best friends come short of our expectations, but it's hard to find "someone better". So you settle for the one's you have. It's hard to make friends in this busy world anyway.

I've had two "best" friends just dump me for unexplained reasons. Well, one of them explained and it was a misunderstanding but she wouldn't listen or let me explain and that was that. These two experiences made me very cautious about who I opened up to and who I "let in". I am still, more than 10 years after the last friend dumped me, cautious and less trusting. Luckily, I have some very close friends who have managed to knock down the walls and get into my heart. My life would be so much less without these women! Even after all the heartache, I'm very lucky!

It made me stronger. I learned how to deal with conflict when it came to people who I knew weren't going to be my friends anymore, or who were going to turn on me. I learn to be careful of who I trust.

Yes, I have few good friends but they did not last longer than we would want it. It is because we need to separate and get a life of our own separately. We just lost contacts with each other. It is kind of painful especially when you get to see them again and realize that it is not like they way you were. Well, what I have learned from the experience is that cherish your friends while they are still there and never take advantage of them. True friends only come once and once they are gone, they are gone...:)

I had a close friend in high school. I asked her one day what would happen if I fell for her brother because he and I were good friends. She told me that would be ok, to just be honest with her so I told her when we started dating. Then he and I moved in together but I didn't know at the time that he had a lot of problems including a sleeping disorder. He went to a family gathering with me so didn't sleep as long that day and he fell asleep driving his car to work that night. He got mad at me because I told him that it wasn't up to me if he stayed home or went to work that the decision was his. When he wrecked his car he blamed me and so did his family, his sister started yelling at me when I was over for a visit and I yelled back. He and I broke up and so did my friendship with his sister. I wish in a way that I could be friends with her but I know it is not possible so I just moved on with my life and made new friends.

A friend is a make your own mirror them as people.From a friend where you will discover from the advantages and disadvantages.A true friend is outspoken.They will be the error because you worry about you, rather than gloat over the side.Live among friends inevitably there will be some small contradictions,but not affect your friendship,the key,the key is to have a sincere heart.If you think you hurt the friendship,it may be your idea of a moment.Seriously think about the problems between you will definitely find a solution.

I think that you have just had a Shallow friendship. i do believe that sometimes in our lives that we accompany the wrong person. We don't know them very well. On the other hand, ask yourself what are your mistakes maybe you are the one who's to blame but you cannot admit it to yourself. I had a friend before that we used to be liked brothers but one day we didn't have any communications at all. However, one day we had a reunion but I tried to approach him but I felt that there was a division. We weren't comfortable to each other that something setting us apart. i realize that sometimes time changes one's friendship. Friendship means constant communication.