Leading a well organized and well patterned life...
By kiran8
@kiran8 (15348)
Mangalore, India
August 20, 2010 6:21am CST
[b] I regularly visit one of my old aunts who is about 77 years old or probably more ...She lives alone having lost both her husband and son in an accident. Her only income comes from the rent she receives from renting out a portion of her house to a working couple.I always admire her for the organized and well patterned life that she leads..
She has many health related problems and finds it difficult and painful to move about, but , inspite of all this she keeps her home neat and tidy with the help of a part time maid .Everything is kept in its place , according to her saving time and energy...plates are neatly stacked right next to the dining table and so are cups, side plates,spoons etc; but there is no clutter.It is the same with her bedroom and the bathrooms which are all kept squeaky clean. She herself is a picture of neatness in her housecoat and hair neatly brushed and tied up. She loves to have people around her and makes sure that they are well taken care of ...I learn some new aspect of life each time I visit her..[/b]
5 responses
@dudsdoojaxi1 (166)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
I want to be like her. I'll try my best I know having 2 kids and 1 in the way is not an excuse to be as organized as her. I want to meet your aunt.I hope she's like those old lady that I know, so organized yet so cranky.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
21 Aug 10
Yes we tend to let ourselves go the minute we have added responsibilities, it happens with most women.I too feel lethargic at times and tend to overlook things.As long as it happens once in while it is fine but otherwise it can become a habit...Thanks a lot for participating, have a great weekend 
@dudsdoojaxi1 (166)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
oops sorry I mean 'not like those old women I know so organized yet so cranky'.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
20 Aug 10
Kiran, we all should lead a well organized life. We all have to face the old age. It is better not to depend on others,even sons or daughters. I have only a daughter. If my wife goes before me I shall not go to my daughter's house. My wife also says like me. We have a shelter like your aunt. By my small savings I think I can face my old age.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
20 Aug 10
Yes bhanu, what you say is very true...we all have to think of being independant for as long as we can also make provisions for our old age.I too would prefer never to burden anyone rather try to be independant and be of help to my children for as long as I can ..
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
20 Aug 10
Hi Kiran,
Let me first say that it always amazes how most people become lonely and useless in their old age while some others have the vigour in them to lead a more meaningful life…I’ve always admired the later coz I’m sure that in my old age, I’ll be like the former *sigh* and then look at your aunt..having to lose one’s husband is bad enough … to lose a son is the worst nightmare of any parent, yet whatever is in her heart, she hasn’t given over life yet…she wants to be in her best and to take best care of whoever visits her…incredible how she manages!
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
20 Aug 10
Hi sudipta, Yes thats the spirit ! she was desolate for a long time , but pulled herself up when she got arthritis and realised that she could depend on very few people for help.I guess certain conditions in life makes you become self sufficient out of necessity as it happened with my aunt....Have a nice evening sudipta
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
20 Aug 10
Kudos to these old people Kiran! I am mentally kneeling down before her .And so terrible for her to be forced to live a life without her husband and son. I also had an aunt-in-law[mother-in-law's own sister and this lady was similar to the one whom you have described.SImilar in many ways, --lived without her husband [who passed away some 36 years before her and son[who also passed away when he was 14].To add to the misery she had elephantiasis and I myself have been witness to her multiple fractures.But I have never seen such a lady, an expert cook and she occupied all her time as an official in Trichy Seva Sangam.She was President for a very long time.She maintained her own bungalow and had so many friends at her beck and call. I marvel at these old people .As Sudipta pointed out, these are all special characters to be emulated.Admirable!
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
20 Aug 10
kala I know, the older generation was made of a different stuff altogether.It is nice what you wrote about your aunt in law, look at the strength of character they have .My aunt has gone through different stages of suffering in her life and now has come to accept all without feeling too distressed about it...I get a lot of happiness and satisfaction visiting and being with her ...
