How do i know my friends arent being fake behind my back?

United States
August 20, 2010 9:00am CST
how can i trust my friends when im not with them, how do i know if they aren't saying bad things behind my back?
6 responses
@jugsjugs (12967)
20 Aug 10
I will be honest with you,there are alot of friends out there that are genuine and then there are a few back stabbers.After a while you get to know what kinds of people they all are.Remember never to tell anyone anything that you do not want them to repeat to any one else,that way less to worry about.I think that i have learnt in the past by listening to them back stab a person then seeing them sucking up to them the next minuite.
@MeNme1 (125)
• United States
20 Aug 10
Good day jugs, are those person you are talking about are vampire? Just jokking!
• United States
20 Aug 10
i just wanna add that u may think a person would never treat u that way even tho uve seen them do it for or to other people. i got burned by a bestie cause i thought "she'll never do that to me." ive caught her in lies and caught her trying to blame someone else for what she was doing. finally i said im tired of fixing ur problems and i also said that i was tired of her causing problems for me to have to go behind her and clean up. i guess what im saying is start asking questions behind her back. if shes a true friend she wont be mad at u for asking. jugs, u r rt about not saying something u dont want all of the world to hear. my ex called her ex,s friend an oger and it came back that i said it and i didnt i was just repeating to the same bestie what my ex had said thats when i started asking questions
• United States
20 Aug 10
thank you so much, i know your right, im just the type of person who think's so much and dont want to get hurt !
@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
20 Aug 10
I wouldn't really worry about it or think about it too much. Yes, some friends will be genuine friends, while others won't. Yes, trust is important. But unless you have some kind of evidence to support your worries, I wouldn't focus to much on this. Just trust that they are your friends and have fun with them as much as you can.
• United States
21 Aug 10
i dont know, its like i feel like they arent being true to me?
@diamania (7011)
• Netherlands
20 Aug 10
I don't think you should worry too much about it. Just have fun with them and do with you do with them. You'll find out soon enough if they talk behind your back. Even more so since you're a woman, they tend to pick up such social things quicker than men.
• United States
20 Aug 10
thank you so much for your time!
@kurumi (85)
• Singapore
20 Aug 10
Don't worry about things you can't see, hear or predict. There are bigger things to worry about, like global warming etc. Your friends might also be thinking about the same things as you, who knows. When you are with them, enjoy every moment you are together.
• United States
20 Aug 10
i'l try not to worries or predict anything, and your so right so many others things to worries about then people who i have bad feelings about!
• India
20 Aug 10
You should believe in you friends even if they make fun of you behind your back. Even if you get to know that they are making fun of you behind your back you should act normally as you do. Friendship is a very precious relationship you should believe in it.
• United States
20 Aug 10
your right, i just dont need to let it get to me, if they do then oh well, god will deal with them
@MeNme1 (125)
• United States
20 Aug 10
Trust is a key of lasting frienship. If you always worried about what might your friends be doing behind your back then the frienship will be over soon. Leave your friends alone if you heard something that your friend doing bad thing behind your back then that's the time to act. Too much worried can lead to unpeaceful life. Have a great day!
• United States
20 Aug 10
thank you so much for your time! and thought