A bit of respect would be nice.

I respect and expect to be respected. Some think that they should respect me because I am a woman, others because I am older than them while I think that I deserve respect just beacuse I am me - and I will respect you because you are you, whoever you are. It is the only thing that we have left that is free, has no limits or language barriers and costs nothing to use it.

Hi sweetie! I always treat others with due respect either am here on mylot or in real life. I think it is essential on our part to behave decently, if we wish others to respect us and like us. Carelessness towards others could prove otherwise.

I think that everyone deserves respect until they have fairly consistently proved otherwise. Being deserving of respect is NOT (or should not be) a function of personal likes and dislikes: there are many people whose attitude, policies and personal philosophy I disagree with and positively dislike who, nevertheless, deserve respect for something in their behaviour. Love, also, does not automatically carry respect with it (though it tends to do so): it is quite possible, fortunately or unfortunately, to love someone but to hate and despise what they do. On meeting or encountering someone for the first time, I usually see them as a 'blank slate'. Very quickly, of course, one forms 'first impressions' - usually from the way they dress or the way they behave in the first few seconds of the encounter. It is often very difficult to not let those first impressions sway our judgement of whether that person deserves our respect or not. Very often our 'first impressions' are wrong or based on a parochial, insular and dogmatic attitude of our own (in other words, more than likely, WE are the ones who are less deserving of respect!) No, you can't go to the shop and buy respect but you can try to make sure that people's first impressions are positive to begin with. Smartness of dress, apparent wealth and an air of confidence and authority are all ways in which people try to make a positive impact on others. Sometimes we have to show others respect simply because they have the power to provide something we need (a job, money, influence, success in a law case or whatever). This is a temporary and somewhat artificial kind of respect (though it is real and valid while the conditions exist). REAL respect, as you say, is always earned but it generally should begin with the conditional 'blank slate' respect that everyone deserves.

your heart saph... "do unto others what you want others do unto you" everything you do will be bounce back to you..so i guess saph we have to work for everything that we want to gain like respect...because i believed respect begets respect..dont expect to gain if dont know how to give one....

We are supposed to have respect and treat others with good respect..This is the original point of humanity!! Whether they are elder or younger, poor or rich, u have to give them all respect and when u talk u should talk properly with respect.. I always talk with giving respect to others.. In the case of friends, this respect is not needed..

I wonder how you define respect. My definition of respect would be giving value to others opinions and lifestyle, and not dismissing them lightly. I value your opinion perfectly sweetie, even when you differ with me, because I see some merit in it. If I tease you, it is not serious - please understand that. If you want me to avoid teasing you, I will.

I try to be respectfull to everyone I meet. I will give my respect until you take it away. For me it isn't a matter of earning it in the beginning, but a matter of keeping it. If you do me wrong, I will no longer respect you, then you have to earn it back. If a person snaps at me when in conversation, I notice I will snap back. People treat you the way you treat them and people treat you the way you let them treat you. If you let someone continuously disrespect you and you don't stand up for yourself, you are telling them it's okay to treat you that way and they will always treat you with disrespect. I know this from being in a very disrespectful relationship with my ex for 12 years. I let him disrespect me and so he did. And then after 11 years of it I had enough and I tried to stay in the relationship and tried to teach him it wasn't okay anymore to disrespect me but it was too late, he didn't believe a word I said, and so when I said I would leave him he didn't believe me and so when I did leave he thought I would be back. But I didn't go back and it's been 2 years and he still begs me to come home but I won't. I've had enough, I'm done. I will never let anyone disrespect me again, right from the beginning because once you let them get away with it, it's hard to change them, it's hard to get them to even believe you.

of course.It's the best to respect each other.But I really wonder how we should do that when the others treat me without respect firstly? on which even if I respect him,and I may be rewarded? sorry,I can't think so!This must due to what character of whom.

Hello saphrina, I am a very simple guy and easy on trusting others. You are absolutey right, one cannot gain respect unless you they treat others with respect. Those people who treat others low and think they deserve respect are all jackasses. The best thing is to be friendly with everyone and automatically everything falls into place.

"Do unto others" is a great rule to implement. Treat others with the same respect you would like them to treat you with. In some specific areas respect might have to be more of an "earned" reward, but, you've got to start somewhere.

Of course i show respect. Atleast you know me. And i would not show someone respect unless they really deserve it. If you have not earned it, dont expect me to show it. And i believe respect is needed in this world to actually survive out there.

I swear I respect you Saphrina! And I want to do more than that. I mean, to respect you more, we need something more than 'internet conversation'. "Kidding" Okay when you give respect to someone , you get the respect from that person possible and not necessarily from that person only, but from the other people in the society. Even those who are mean and bad to you. This is what embarrasses the one who is mean to you. I have been through the same situation.

Hi saphi I do respect..all ..even if I don't expect back....but I need some.. thanks for the topic.. have a great day/night..

well I tend to be nice and treat people with respect by the nature already. that's who I am and how I was taught, but of course, if people do not show respect towards you, you're not entitled to being respectful towards them either, though in the worst cases I still try to be nice, but sometimes nice is not what people care for or deserve.

Hi sweetie, good discussion. It's true that we need to respect people to get get respect from them. But other than that if you are rich and having a big status people will respect you, it may be artificial though..

Alright, I am just going to come out and say this, but I hope that people will read it and try to understand. I respect people for who they are, what they do, their unique abilities or talents, and how they treat others. However, I get really annoyed when people tell me that I am supposed to respect my elders. Why should I? I mean, I do not think that I should disrespect them, either - that is not what I am saying. I just do not think that they deserve any more or less respect than anybody else, and I will treat them the same as I would treat anybody else. I do not think that the mere fact that you have been alive on this planet for longer than me means that I should show you respect no matter what you do. That just does not make sense to me, especially when these same people often do not show respect for individuals that are significantly younger than they are.

There are several situations when it becomes difficult to 'respect' someone and yet one is forced to and this is normally seen in a boss - subordinate relationship. But sometimes the subordinate will disrespect the boss and proudly announce that the boss was placed well and good. This the subordinate feels is an achievement little realising there are better methods to deal with the situation without compromisng on one's principles. Respect is the boss's due and it has to be given. The giver loses nothing in the process but gets respect in return. The same rule applies to a child-parent relationship. In other situations one needs to have mutual respect for each other and the one who does not give it needs some therapy.

I try to. I don't go about my business expecting anything more than common decency, which is sometimes lacking. However, those who treat me as if I were something that they had trodden in, can expect to be left on the doormat.

every individuals needs to be respected..even criminals has s right to be respect.

The world would be a better place if everyone would just respect others. Most of the problems that we are now experiencing stems from the lack of respect for the people around us, for our family and friends. Trouble starts when we value ourselves more than others. It's the "ME" mentality that makes us lose respect for other people's feelings and welfare. Whatever happened to the Golden Rule? Is it still being taught in school? Or. are we just too caught up with our busy life that we have forgotten the basics. It wont hurt to slow down once in awhile and reflect.