Is this being childish?Or responsible? ( rant)

I think it is being responsible. Living nowadays is really difficult. Prices are getting high. A lot of people are unemployed. If you will have many kids, how could you be responsible parents. How could you provide for them. Not wanting one now is very understandable. But not wanting one forever, I think that's impossible. You marry someone because you see future with that person and having kids is part of that.

Hi sarah! It is one's own perception and choice and there is nothing childish in it, if anyone does not want to bring up children. Everyone cannot be same, she could have different circumstances, mind set and environment and different experiences in her life, which guide her to take a life affecting decision.

I don't think it's childish at all. Or selfish, for that matter. If anything, a person should want kids because they want kids. Not because society says they're supposed to, or it's "the thing to do", or whatever other reason that someone else puts on another person. If a person doesn't truly want kids then I think it's selfish to give in to society's views. Because they're still thinking of themselves and what others think of them. Not of the child they'd be bringing into the world. Also, people can't force themselves to want something. If you don't want kids, you can't just turn a switch in your mind and suddenly want them. As far as needing to have kids to be adult, that lets out a lot of people. What about people who are unable to have kids? And, I say people, but I realize that it's mainly women who get criticized for not wanting kids. That stigma doesn't fall on men.

If you don't want children... the best(and only) thing in the world for you to do is..NOT HAVE ANY! IF you don't want them but have them cause you think its for any other reason but because you want them.. you won't love them enough to take care of them. Why bring a child into the world if it isn't wanted? And if anyone complains to you about it... you tell them.. "Why would it make you feel better if I had a child that I didn't love?". IN this case, the most adult thing a person could do would be to not have a child that they do not want. Not that you hate children.. you just don't want that responsibility. How adult is that!

sararuthbeth no not selfish really just being true to your self. after all if you do not want children and bear a child that child is going to be so unhappy as he or she has a mom who does not want an ,ugh, child! no all you women who dislike children or the idea of bearing them save the abused children by not ever getting pregnant. go get the tubes tied or whatever. No an adult is not deemed an adult when they bear children. While I myself would have been so unhappy if I had not had children, I can respect a person who does not want to bear children at all. I may not understand it but I will respect it, as too many women go throught the motions of bearing children to please others, and then mistreat them. Read the book named A Child Called It it will show you that some women should never bear children at all. ever.But think about this, what if your own mother had not wanted children and made sure she never had any?

I am a bit traditionalist so I just had to have children, so I did. But, I've always considered people who go beyond (or against) tradition as very smart. Specially if they could back it up with a good explanation. Not wanting to have starving children, and choosing not to have any, I would consider as a bold nontraditional way. And something not to be branded as simply childis.

Having no children is your choice and if people can't except them well screw them! There are many chidren out there that are born that should of not been born or put up for adoption! To many children grow up in single parent homes with out fathers who could care less about them! You are not childess or selfish to not have children! It is your choice and you are sticking to it!

I am a mom and I don't regret it. There are women though who don't have children who would love them as well as women who should of never been allowed to have children. NO, I do not feel your being childish about not wanting to have children, that is a choice you have made as a grown knowledgeable person who knows herself well enough to make a conscious choice.

I don't think it's selfish not to have children.I,for one,don't want to have children of my own.I believe I am not capable to be a good mothers.I would rather have my own pets.I don't want a responsibility as big as rearing a child/children.I would rather enjoy my freedom.also,the world's population is already booming at an alarming fast rate.I would rather enjoy my life on my own terms,that let it be dictated by a child's schedule.

i dont think i could call it childish. It is actually your call if you want to have kids or not.

Not everyone is ready to be a parent. i don't think it is childish not to want children. You are just not at a point in your life where parenthood feels like a reality. there may be a time when this changes in your life. It can be a wonderful feeling to be a parent and raise a child. it's just not what everyone wants from life.

Wow! I don't think your childish or selfish actually. Not at all. I think it's better to know that you don't want any children and not let it happen rather than having children that you don't really want and giving them up. I think it takes an intelligent individual to know what you do or do not want and be happy with that. I think it's up to you what you want or don't want in your life. =)

Not wanting children is a preference, and no one can convince otherwise. Think about all parents today, completely neglecting and not nurturing their children, now that is selfish. So you not wanting children is a responsible decision.

No its not selfish. And its your opinion and if they don't like it they can deal with it! munchieman69 (^_^)

I have a friend who also chose to be childless...and she said it's because she is too selfish....and I think I like the honesty! I don't think anyone who doesn't want kids should have them or be labeled! Personally there are too many out there that have them for the wrong reasons. That is bad for both the child and mother...but you are not chldish for not wanting that part of your life!

I really don't understand how that is childish or selfish. Whoever believes that should look out into the world where there a bunch of unwanted children who need a home. Children that have been abandoned. In my opinion you are an adult when you have a job and are able to provide yourself, but then there are still some people who have jobs and provide for themselves and still act childish. But I'm getting off topic now. I think that it's very sensible to not have children if you don't want to. I myself don't really know if I want to have children. Actually I do know, I've always dreamed of having twin boys. But I don't know what the future holds for me. I don't think you are a child or a selfish b*tch. I applaud you for knowing what you want and standing up for what you want. You shouldn't let anyone else judge you for something that you have a right to choose. Happy mylotting and don't let people get to you! ^_^

No , it's not being selfish or childish if you don't want to have kids. It's your choice and your life. If people around you can't respect that, it's their problem.

It's not childish. It's how you feel. I think having a baby even if you didn't want one is childish.

It isn't childish or selfish. In fact, as far as I'm concerned, it's just the opposite. It's time to let those old ideas die, that a male isn't a man until he's fathered a child and a female isn't a woman until she's borne a child. It's that kind of nonsense that helps contribute to overpopulation, and to a heck of a lot of unhappiness. I wonder how many children suffer because their mother never wanted them, but didn't have a choice.

It's a matter of choice of not wanting kids.You know what you were very mature the way you think..I like it