Infidelity: Is it a man or a woman's fault?

I think I had a similar discussion before and I have to submit that whoever initiates is the one at fault. Men denies to be at fault and justifies their act by saying that they are seduced by the girl. A man has the ability to pretend at first than the woman.

i don't know who is at fault :) all i know is if your husband or boyfriend loves you so much, he will not dare to break your heart by cheating on you.. if he is cheating or he cheated on you, he probably don't truly love you

Its the fault of the cheater. Plain and simple. If your relationship is not gong right either work it out or leave. Believe me I know how it can feel if you have a spouse who is abusive or ignores you. It makes you want to run to someone else but you have to be the better person. There is just no excuse at all.

i believe it takes two to tango so i think both is at fault especially if the woman knows that the man is in a committed relationship and the man still took the bait.

It's the infidel's fault. We've heard of women who cheated too.But they should never blame it on the neglect of their spouse nor the temptation of the third party. Temptation is everywhere and we should be wise not to fall into them. That's what leads to infidelity, taking the bite of the apple, so to speak. It's not infidelity if you just let the apple sit there and rot. Some blame it on the spouse. They say the spouse have neglected their relationship so it's all but normal to satiate their needs from someone else. That's not normal. There are other ways to fill the need without resorting to infidelity. Take up a new hobby, focus on your work, focus on your kids. We are all adults now and we are responsible for all of our actions. We can't say she drove me to look for someone else, or she tempted me, or I'm just weak (blaming it on the weakness not the decision). They're all just finding ways to get out of the sin guilt-free. So, to answer your question, it's still the infidel's fault at the very beginning.

I have heard stuff like this as well. I had a friend tell me that I had to give my husband attention all the time. Well we have five kids sometimes it's hard. There are things a woman must take care of home, kids, husband, clean, cook, etc. At times I feel guilty when I do get caught up with so much but at the same time I feel if he wants that much attention he needs to help out so I have time for him. I know women can be seducing, especially those who put everything aside to satisfy a man. In reality though once the fog has cleared can he see who she really is or will become? Honestly and once he decides to make the move can she honestly say she would like to keep this man who has proved unfaithful? I guess if they both want to play with fire then let them burn. Men just think differently at times... but come on women we should be smarter than that...don't you think?

I'd say both. Man because of their lame excuse that "they are just a man" like you said. Woman because of seducing a man or falling for a married/committed man which would not happen if only she'd limit herself from doing so. So both. Every individual has the option, has the power to choose what to do with their lives. In the first place, if you're already married.. you have marriage vows to follow. And cheating is so not one of it. If and if I'll be in that situation where I caught my man cheating, I'd slap both of their faces. But come to think of it... If you're a married man or woman, you shouldn't be hooking up with somebody else other than your husband or wife. So it's the married men/women who are at fault in the beginning.

there's no saying someone has to go through with cheating for these reasons.

The cheater's fault. Happy MyLotting!

Infidelity can fall to the blame of either gender. Both men and women can be guilty of this. If infidelity is an issue or concern, there has to be something troubled in the relationship. if you are committed to each other, infidelity shouldn't be something to worry about. Sometimes it is the actions of someone who is jealous of what you have together that brings infidelity into the picture.

The one who's having an affair or not being loyal to the other is at fault. There is no valid excuse for doing that thing. They can say things like the partner seems cold, that the partner have changed and any other reasons but that don't give them any right to had an affair. So it doesn't really matter if its the man or the woman. Either one is at fault.

As a man i would have to defend us men that are not cheaters. Cheating is the fault of the cheater period. If one is deluded by the excuse that temptation could not be resisted, I would have to say wake up and smell the coffee. If i truly love my significant other, there is no temptation that will cause me to cheat on her. I have never cheated and to my knowledge have never been cheated on. But I believe that the first time my supposed lover cheats will be the last. So the answer to your question would have to be yes, if a man cheats he is at fault likewise if the woman cheats she is at fault.

Hi! I keep on hearing that so lame excuse that it's the girl's fault why boys cheats on their partners. What the heck did that lame and S-T-U-P-I-D excuse came from anyway? It's not always like that. Girls/women have the right to do whatever they want to do. Some guys are just so weak and and are easily tempted when they see a beautiful girl,sexy lady and or something that they've wanted in a girl. Sometimes,a girl's nice or friendly attitude is being misunderstood by some guys. Then they try to get close to the girl that eventually they want to have an affair with the girl. What I mean here is that,that saying is not so true,is guys will stand in that saying,then girls should also stand in the saying that men are born womanizer.

it depends on the situation. if youre a cheater person by nature its not right to expect your partner to be loyal to you. if youre sleeping with other women then u shudnt get mad when your woman sleeps with other men. it shud be fair play. let the boys play if they really love you they come home at the end of the day.

Well, depends on the situation. When a man cheats on the woman, it is his fault, and when a woman cheats on the man it is her fault, but there is always a reason for why women and men cheat. Some people cheat because they just aren't happy with one person, some people cheat because they get bored with their spouse, some people cheat because they are angry at their spouse, some people fall in love with someone else, but just fail to tell the other person, and some people cheat because they want to get even with their spouse for something that spouse has done. I have known some cheaters, both male and female. The male cheaters were just weren't happy with one woman, and be it that they were in the military, they had what was called "port women", you know, one woman at every port. As for the women, it was because they fell in love with someone else, but didn't know how to tell the person that they were with. They eventually did tell the other person, but it ended badly, well, badly in a financial sense. Not everyone cheats, but let's face facts, humans weren't really meant to be with just one person. In fact, humans were made to fall in love with a persons pheromones so that they could reproduce the strongest off-spring. Humanity survived so long because we mated with people who could give us strong off-spring.

for me i dont feel its an either or situation.most who stray male or female will say it was because they were getting something that was not on the menu at home.now that could be any one of many things but it has made whichever partner feel the need to look elsewhere for that need to be fullfilled.so if this is the case who is to blame? for me its both as they have failed to discuss their true needs with each other and if you cant do that then you are with the wrong partner to start with.if you cant trust your partner to tell them your needs in all honesty and find them willing to fulfill them then better to walk away than have some seazy affair and blame everyone else for your own failure to trust your partner to satisfy your needs.