Just Ask Me Out

I'm a guy and I admit, guys have a big egos that's why it's hard to ask girls out because we're afraid to get rejected. That's why, some of us, prefer to test the waters first if we're going to be rejected or not. I believe your friend is waiting for a reaction from you if you're interested in the place or not. He's just feeling things first before he makes a move. If you want to go out with him, why not show eagerness to see the place, then maybe he'll have the courage to ask you out. We're just really afraid of rejection since it's kind of hard to face the one who rejected you.

if he is asking about places, he is doing research about you. He wants to know what kind of food you like before he takes you any where. At least thats what I would do if I liked a girl and wanted to ask her out but was not ready too.

Men are sometimes too coward or just too shy to invite a girl out. There could be a lot of factors and rejection is one. Another one is the fear of uncertainties like how to deal with you on a date. Date is a different setting than you are just casually seeing each other in the office.Or maybe , he has no money to spend.LOL (This is silly, of course). You two are friends, right? And both of you are comfortable with each other (I read your other post "I LOVE YOU). So the next time he mentioned those places, why don't you answer him back by saying "Why don't you take me there and show me what's the place got?" Do not hesitate. Pretend that you aren't eye-ing him romantically. Friends can easily said those words to each other. THere's nothing wrong with it.:) Goodluck.;)

There is two possibilities. Maybe you got him wrong, he doesn't actually want to ask you out; he merely suggested some good places to go, and would like to share with you as a "friend". Not anything further than that boundary. second possibility is, like what you said, you might be right, he is shy, and he is afraid to ask you out at the first place, and he is still shy. If you want to go out with him, try to hint him into asking you out.

Is it because they are shy? Or they fear rejection? Both. You should ask me in a casual way, like "Yeah I have heard of that place, maybe WE can go there sometime?"

For me its usually just being scared of being rejected or laughed at. I don't ask a lot of girls.. probably for that particular reason but other then that being shy is the only other reasonable answer. Like sure I'm a nervous guy but when i get around girls i know I'm fine, but when i know they like me or if they know i like them i just get a bit ancy and its kind of more awkward.

i believe his very shy.or doesn't know when to be straight forward. IF i were in that situation, yeah, i would freak and stop getting to the point and ends up saying senseless things. it's easy said than done, i believe you should get to know this person and his past relationships before you could go on a date with him. at least try hanging out with your female friends then ask him if he wants to join, that you can get to know him, instead of waiting for him to ask you out.

i have read my fellow my lotter suggestions, s o you two seems to like each other but are both afraid to say what you really like for him to do. You can ask your guy,, " do you like, you wanna tell me something" that would be a good start to get the topic going.

Yes many guys do fear rejection and they are also shy. So even though he doesn't ask you out yet maybe he will get the guts soon enough. Yeah I know what you mean it's kind of weird for girls to ask guys out. My friend really liked a guy so she flirted with him and gave him a lot of hints that she was into him. Then one day he asked her out and they are boyfriend and girlfriend they make the perfect couple. Maybe you should do the same too and hopefully it will work out. Wish you the best of luck take care, ANIME123.

aw maybe he is shy^^ or maybe he is waiting for a sign of you that you like him too so he will ask you out^^ for sure he is interested in you or he wouldnt tell you so many restaurants^^ i guess maybe he was searching just to approach you more^^ give him a sign that you like him too^^ that way for sure he will ask you out^^ if he doesnt ask him if he is asking you out? just be direct if he doesnt ask^^

Hmmm...I think you are beautiful, educated or just simply guys just want to hang around you because...you are you. If I were the guy, maybe I just want to be with you because you're fun to be with. And maybe, I am asking for these places because I want you to treat me? Joke. Or I want to determine which restaurant is the one you really like and if I have the budget for it. If I do have feelings for you, maybe I will be shy of asking you out. Maybe I'm not that attractive to begin with. Maybe I just don't want to be treated as a friend. That's what I would do if I were him. Maybe if I have to guts to spit it out and accept the consequences of the outcome then, at least I have asked you out first. I don't think I'm making any sense here...I'm not asking you out but can I ask you to be my friend in mylot?

...there are many reasons why we can't ask you straightforward to go out on a date with us ( guys )...shyness is one of it..rejection is a bigger factor too...or he is merely making a survey to know you better and what are the places or things that you like most..i used to do that sometimes...afterwards if I found the "best" place, I go ahead and ask her to go on a date with me.. other reasons could be, you're just a test subject and he is actually going to ask someone else...hehe ( just kidding )...if it is shyness, why not try making the first step in asking him out? i don't think there is something wrong with that...