how can you tell your friend that a guy is not good for her?

Hi Sophie, Welcome to Mylot!! Unfortunately there is not much you can say to your friend about this. Unless she asks for your advise or opinion, all you'll likely do is to alienate her and I know you don't want that. Deep down, it sounds as if she knows that this is not good for her if she has admitted that he is a womanizer and she is spending too much money on him etc. This does not sound like a relationship that is destined to last long. As a friend, you can be there when this all crashes down on her. She'll need a good friend.

You just have to tell her. Just explain to her the situation and also tell her that you are doing this because you are her friend. Its obvious that she's not thinking straight. Unstable emotions and high credit card balance is not a very good sign of a good relationship. Go and have a serious talk with her.

I'm afraid there's nothing you can do other thasn being close to her if she breaks down or something. If you say something against the guy you could ruin both your and their relationship. Just listen to her if she wants to talk about her problems with him, and if she openly asks for your opinion, well, you can be frank then. I hope she will be happy.

The best you can do is be there for her and pray (if you believe in that) or hope. Sure you can tell her that he's no good for her but I'll bet she already knows that and he's just got her brainwashed or too dependent on him.

Ciao Sophie! She may be your friend but you need to wait until she seeks your opinion before you start acting the new Ms. Nosy Parker. We know that you love your friend dearly, and that you are concerned about her but she is now way past the age of being able to decide what's best for herself. Just wait until she comes running to you for advice then that should serve as your cue and you could start telling her your thoughts and concern. As to credit cards, unless she asks you to help her pay her bills, keep still and stay out of it. Who knows she's just been buying things for herself so she would look good for him?

well it her decision to make she should know what best for and not,and if she can't get her self to know the guy is not good enough for her,that when i come in make her see reason's why the guy is not good enough and leave her to make the decision,if she stay with the guy maybe she is trying to say every one deserve a second chance and if the guy never change then she should be able to take heed

If I were in your shoes, I'd talk about it slowly. Like asking her what she really want in life. The type of guy that she wants. Then in the conversation, open up about the guy and ask your friend if she loves him, if she is happy . Try to be happy for her if she says so. But try to pour out in the conversation about what she truly thinks about their relationship(or special friendship) with the guy. And if I were really in your shoes, I'd be straightforward and ask her if she deserves that kind of guy who 1. is a womanizer ; 2. doesn't wanna be in a relationship with her. 3. could probably just use her. Your friend might not be able to take it lightly but as a friend, its the best thing to do. Be a friend. Best of luck

Women who are in love are most of the time blind and all they can think of is that they love the guy no matter what.I think the best way to tell your friend is not by telling her but let her catch them(the guy and her other girls).If you cant do that well,maybe its easier if you pretend to be a spy and take pictures of the guy with her other girls then send those pictures to your friend but don't tell her they came from you so she wont think that you're spying on her man.If she still doesn't believe you maybe its time to let her be.I mean let her realize it herself and in the end she will say"I should've listened to you".Goodluck and God bless

Telling a friend that their partner is not good enough for them puts a strain on the friendship. They may see you as being jealous of the relationship. This can cause bitter feelings and words of regret that can't be taken back. if you feel your friend is making a wrong partner choice, it is better to show them than to tell them.

Just tell her directly that the guy is not good for her. State some reasons why its not good for her to have a relationship with that kind of person. Say it in a nice way and in a way that she will feel that you truly care for her and not just try to meddle with her affairs.

Hmm.., this guy sounds unsafe for fragile hearts like your friend.., and if you are really indeed a good friend.., Now is the time to prove your point.., and never allow your friend to end up being hurt with this kind of guys.., Tell your friend and let her see your point..That will give her the option to g on with her feelings for that guy or give up and safe guard her own heart.., Whatever happens.., It's her choice and what youd did was just help her..,=)