are men gold diggers?

United States
August 22, 2010 12:26am CST
hello mylotters, do men require the women that they date to make 50k or more annually? i've dated a number of men who have refused to consider me for a serious relationship because i make less than that. they have always tried to steer me into more lucrative professions, like law, etc. or they have asked me to quit my "stupid nursery school job" or they have asked me, "is that all you want to do with your life, work with children?" are all men at heart calculating gold diggers? women mylotters, i am dying to hear of your thoughts concerning this issue. if you are in a low paying profession such as teaching, have you ever been romantically rejected because of your low salary? men also feel free to respond if you have any thoughts about this situation?
2 responses
kurumi
@kurumi (85)
• Singapore
22 Aug 10
No, not all men are gold-diggers and not all women are. It also depends on where you are and your culture.(society). Where i am, men are considered the breadwinner, so i don't think they have this mentality of women must make 50k or more annually. But on another side of the story, if society is fast paced, and every minute and seconds concerns money, then having both husband and wife gainly employed and making enough to feed the family is considered important criteria when a man chooses a woman for a partner.
kristin19
@kristin19 (86)
• United States
22 Aug 10
hi kurumi, actually that does make sense. i live in an extremely fast paced and expensive area. housing both to own or rent is extemely expensive. i feel that as a preschool teacher i cannot ever compete with women who make $100,000 or more per year unless if i change professions. but if i do end up making much more money than my present salary, i'm not sure if i could ever believe that the man i'm with loves me for myself or just views me as a financial partner or even meal ticket. i feel like i have to choose between my profession or finding a husband, which i'm not sure is even worth it. maybe i should just go back to school, enter into a more lucrative profession, and keep my money to myself. oh well, thanks for responding. it is always good to know how men in other parts of the planet think about this issue.
ehartung
@ehartung (22)
• Portugal
30 Jan 11
not at all... there might be some that hit your description, but there are also sincere man who want to join a date and have fun and a good time. For my part I preferr simple and small woman. Dont have any intences to find out how much somebody earns. Sure.. money can make things easier but you can always have fun with oor without money.. and that is what i am up for.