How do you deal with people with huge pride and egos?

Philippines
August 22, 2010 7:41am CST
Hmm. You can say I'm in desperate need of an answer. =/ Say, you have a friend who assumes that you're having a growing affection for him/her, and started to push you away without even having the decency to confirm his presumptions, what would you do? Say this friend of yours has a very huge and fragile ego that'll really burst out on one prick, so you tried to apply reverse psychology: apologize for your response to his/her wrong doing, as a polite yet sarcastic way of telling that there's something wrong, but having a huge pride and being a professional the ego-tripper he/she is,he/she would of course be more resistant, as if to dare you for a chase. What would you do next? Do you just drop him/her off your life despite all of the good memories you shared, considering that this is the first big fight you've ever had, or do you drink your pride, bottoms up, and get everything out of the way to talk to this boneless friend of yours and continue your epic attempt of settling things?
4 responses
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
23 Aug 10
hi hanna!i can't stand dealing with that kind of person.so i will just ignore them!i will make things clear first by telling them what kind of person they are and then bye bye.that's the best thing i will do.huge pride and egos will bring you nowhere and they need to get realize that they should change the attitude first.~TATA~
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• Philippines
23 Aug 10
i couldn't agree more. pride and egos love attention, and it's always best to deprive them of it 'till the starve! thanks for your time! i appreciate it! =D
• Philippines
23 Aug 10
Well you know Hannah, your discussion really caught my eye since I have a misunderstanding with someone that I consider as my best friend. She is pretty, sexy, have money, have rich boyfriend and what she wants to do she can do, and what she wants she will get according to her. So boastful and so proud of herself for all the material thing she wants in life. And because of this she has lots of pride and ego that when it comes to misunderstandings she is always right and she said I always picked things wrong as if I didn't get it what she meant. That it seems I'm the one who never understand. And now I will tell you how our misunderstanding started. Of course she's my friend and I was a little bit worried if I haven't heard from her for days. And when I look in her facebook she told her other friends that her boyfriend is coming (because her boyfriend is a foreigner) and she's happy. But she never even bother to tell me that. Then last night she send me a message to go to her house but i said I can't because I feel bad about what she did that she just dumped me for days. And then she told me she's so busy why on earth will she have time to send me a message. She never bothered to send me another message. I mean it's her fault so why don't she say sorry and explain right? Why did she just drop off our conversation like that? So what I did is I delete her among my Face book's list of friends and even her number on my cellphone. I don't want her to be my friend anymore. She wants me and notice me only if she had something to boast on. I'm not available to this kind of people. :-(
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• Philippines
23 Aug 10
i did the same to my old friend. not only did i have him deleted from my facebook, i also had my facebook deactivated. :)) and i did have his number removed from my phonebook. i guess we've done our parts as their friends, it's time that we do our parts in keeping our dignity, right? so good riddance i guess? how are you coping now?
@arystine (1273)
• Philippines
23 Aug 10
Hi there. I will still give my friend a second chance, based from the situation given. You mentioned that it is your first fight. However, I will also keep in mind that conflict and that ugly attitude--the colossal ego. If my friend commits the same mistake again, and if my friend proves to be incorrigible and egoistic, (after the forgiveness) then there will be no more "third" chance. For me, the second chance is always the last chance. After that, I no longer have trust for the person. Ergo, a friendship/relationship without trust is no longer a relationship at all. That's the end of the friendship.
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• India
22 Aug 10
Just got 4 words 4 u! STAY AWAY FROM THEM! Eventually when they are ignored by everyone they will know by the time its too late. If they don't then don't mind them anyways because no ones would really care about them...
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• Philippines
23 Aug 10
i shall stay away from them indeed. they can get a bit contagious, yee. x_x thanks for your time! :D