my husband's "best friend" doesnt like me...so?

Hi! I think you are right, it is not necessary for you to become friend with your husband's so called best friend. He may be having his own priorities in keeping friendship with her, which may not be true in your case.

Hi, p3ks626. I don't understand why a woman can be friend's with your husband and not like you at all? If she likes your husband then she better had like you too. Why, like your husband and not you? You should not kiss her behind either. Are you sure that she does not have the hots for your husband? Sometimes it can be this way, especially when a woman prefers liking your husband more than she likes you.

From what you're saying, I have my doubts if you should. You've mentioned that you smile and she doesn't seem to respond. Even if you continue to try, I doubt that she would do her share and try in return. If she did seem willing to try, my answer might be a little different. I do think that you should explain this to your husband.

There is no point in trying to be friends with her. She obviously wants your husband and you need to watch how "friendly" she is being. You also need to make sure your husband respects your marriage enough to know when to separate himself from this so called friend that he has. Why is he pushing you to be friends with her anyway? Have you asked him the real reason for this? As long as you and the girl aren't fighting and pulling each others' hair then I don't see the problem. You two just have to be civil because clearly you two are both in love with the same man..unfortunately for you this man is your husband and she is threatened by you.

that was suspicious ahaha,,, I smell something fishy,, joke...

Isn't it odd that your husband has a girl for a best friend? when you should be the best friends. Most married couple are best friends and life time partners. It is understandable if your husband has a buddy, a guy best friend whom he talks about man stuff, but girl for a best friend? that is quite scary especially if he confides with his best friend whenever you do not go along well, or if you have issues... You can be civil with her and your husband should not insist that you make good friends with his best friend. By this time, you should be your husband's best friend for God sake why some other girl?

That "friend" is very suspect, the way I see it, she is trying to take over your empire, you must not sit by and watch this happen, tell her to keep off, and remind your husband that his friendship with the woman is ruining your marital bliss!

Well if she doesn't like you and you don't like her, I don't see how a friendship could be built. I think the most that he should expect is that the two of you are civil to each other when faced with each other and he should not have to listen to either of you putting the other down.

hi I think its time to break up that cosy little sideline with your hubby and so called bestfriend, is he also with fringe benefits? if so I think she wants you out and her in as the next mrs. whats it, and i would nip this in the bud r ight now.,tell your hubby you do not want to be wife one in a harem but wife one and only. tell the woman to get her hands off my man or else.Of course she does not like you as you occupy the mrs spot she sees for herself.There is no point in being friends with your enemy who at the very least would probably stoop for mistress if she could not oust you from the wifes role.Your husband cannot see that this bothers you cause maybe he does not care. I dislike this thing with the hubbys bestfriend being another woman.

You certainly have to respect their relationship if they were friends even before you were a couple. Now having said that, your husband should also respect the fact that your marriage should be more important over their friendship. So, hopefully he doesn't have to choose, because you'll keep an open mind about their relationship. And that your husband would see the real 'her' if she keeps behaving this way.

There's no use of doing it. You can be civil to her since she doesn't like you. You as a wife I think must and should be the most valuable person in your husband's life so why should you'll be the one doing the first move. I mean a wife is a wife and a friend is just a friend.

have you ever tried to tell your husband that you smile at his best friend but she just didn't smile back? let him know that you have made efforts and his best friend must make efforts, too.