Giving & Taking - In your case which has more weight? Give or Take?
By thanks1961
@thanks1961 (7035)
India
6 responses
@Capsicum (1444)
• United States
24 Aug 10
I have given my time and friendship to many.I sometimes ask myself for what.
I have always been there for any charity ,the underdog and friends.
Its very hard to take ,When your nature is to give.But I am finding it to be very rewarding to do so.When my husband was put on third shift ,I came to recognize just how spread ,I was.They say if you have one good friend feel lucky.If you have two feel blessed.
I am blessed with both and a wonderful husband.I have also stopped giving and started taking.My life with this limited crowd is enough for me.I have been sick,stayed a wake many night and pulled many out of troublesome situations.Now it is time for me,The people that I helped are still doing the same thing(let them) They have left me broke and broken in the name of trust.Tired of being a doormat.Sorry if this sounds rude,Its a harsh reality trying to help others without nurturing yourself.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
25 Aug 10
Hi dear,
Being so close to them you suffered a lot.
Some people used to say, a military type of life is good for a better living.
Sometimes even I used to think in such a way. Being good and nice to the people is just a nature only. In fact, they will take advantage of it or exploit our openness.
Due to the nature of my 'giving', I'm somewhat on the roads now.
It is the law of nature. We have good heart and the goodness in the heart are exploited by the 'understanding' crowd around.
However, thanks for your valid comments and best regards,
Thank-s
@rocket2020 (524)
• India
24 Aug 10
Giving!!! yes absolutely b'coz it satisfied my soul,but not to the people who have made it their business most of the time its been noted that the beggars who generally can do some jobs,but does not do so deliberately,b'coz begging is more easy then to do some hard work under the sun,and the irony is that all my educated people of today's generation and the few older people just give away to these beggars knowing fully that they are crippling the man or killing the very idea of self-reliance.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
25 Aug 10
Hi dear,
Yes, I think it is our duty to help other who is suffering. But as you said, there are a group of people who are taking advantage of such situations. But what to do, we can say bagging is appropriate than looking for a job. We can assume, a bagger fed up with bagging and trying for a job is impossible.
In India, we know all type of bagging business and the 'pure baggers' are to suffer due to the artificial ones.
A help to other is just a feeling for us. Giving is divine also.
Thanks for your comments.
Regards,
Thank-s
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
22 Aug 10
Dear Suresh Gopi Sir,
I do give if I have enough to give and take if I do not have or want to have it. Hence I give weight to both give and take according to my want and capability to give. In opting only one I would much like to give, as it will occure if I have enought to give.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
23 Aug 10
Hi dear.
Thanks for your comments.
Nice thought. Giving and taking has an indirect relation to our present state where we are and what we are. But there are people who changes the proportion when the conditions are getting changed.
Regards,
Thank-s
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
24 Aug 10
I don't enjoy receiving things as much as I used to before. There is a lot of weight when you receive things, they come with a price if it superficial. I don't really enjoy giving much things either right now, because I lack funds but I would give away free smiles and thoughts and care anytime whether I am poor or not. And when people receive that and enjoy it, that is priceless.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
24 Aug 10
Hi dear,
Thank you for your comments.
Yes, certain things will become priceless, when we handover to them in love and affection. A pure giving and taking is worthless in kind, but having much value when it merges with relationships.
There the value measures.
Thank-s
@liweiwei0909 (403)
• China
23 Aug 10
I prefer to give rather than take. When I give something to some people, I will feel pleasure in my heart, it means I get the satisfied in my soul from the people I give to.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
23 Aug 10
Hi dear,
Always the state of mind is the factor which decides how it is. Many are enjoying by extending hands to others. It is a joy and pleasure while we share the things with other and it is a social customs that prevails every where.
It keeps the relation strong and more harder.
Also, the accepted things will give us a memorable period in the course of time. We prefer to keep things in memory of some one who given some gift for ever.
Thanks for the comments and
Regards,
Thank-s
@evemare03 (28)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
hi
for me it's giving. although taking is nice and will give you benefit. but my mom always say that it's better to give than to receive. :)