Chilren and Chores

If I was to know the answer to this one, I think we would both be much better off. I only have one child that is actually old enough to do chores, but she absolutely refuses to do them. We have tried everything that I can think of to get her to do her chores but it absolutely to no avail. The main conclusion that I've come to when it comes to children doing chores is that you really have to start assigning them simple chores from the time that they are very young.

chores help children understand what needs to be done to run a household, it is also establish helpful habits and good attitude about work.

i did the samething with my kids, and my parents did the same with us. i think its good for parents to do this so the kids can learn how to do things and learn about responablites. my kids are grown and took this to work with them. i think parnets who babies thier kids hurts them more then anything. i have neices and nephews have no idea how to cook, clean or anything else. my mother in law used to tell me i was for having our kids do things around the house, they need to be kids. no they need to learn how to listen, take orders, and learn how to take care of themself. not be lazy and have us wait on them. why my wife had no idea how to cook when we got married, she didnt know about washing dishes or anything. yeah at 7 and 8 my kids do thier own wash

Hi ladgator, I know many things in our society has shifted. Responsibilities definitely is one of the big shifts. Mom and dad go off to work and the older kids are responsible for taking care of the house and the younger siblings. You didn't say how old your two older children are, but their age may be a big factor in them getting the chores right or done all together. I think children should have chores, but they should have either or, not so many at once. In our house it was doing the dishes for a week or clean the bathrooms for a week. Of course everybody had to take care of their own rooms, but none of them did the family laundry. All or most of the chores did not go to the children. Maybe the children are feeling a bit overwhelmed, if they have multiple chores. Of course, you know them better than anyone else, so you would be the only one who could really say what is going on. Most kids, unless they are neat freak will do any chores that given, the right way. They will, most time, do sloppy work, but that is because they are kids. I think a lighter load would help keep the peace in the house.

i think you have to do those things together with your children. It is a good form of bonding with them. I think you don't need to give them all of those chores at the young age. You should not give them their own laundry at the very young age. So you have to do laundry every Sunday and ask them to put their laundry separately. Then all of you should go to the laundry and do the laundry together with them.

Try not to overwelm them with the chores. I remember when I was little and my parents would have me do chores all the time. Eventually I got really tired of it and started to lack in effort. I would advise you to give them a reward or praise them for their hard work.

Hi, I believe you are a good mother,since your kids are young, you have trained them to be a responsible person by giving them some chores at home to do, at least,they are trained to be responsible to themselves and get their own things done. However, I know it is not easy to train kids to do it and they may object to do it too.they just want to do their own ways or even can't be bother about it. For me, I trained my son to keep his own toys after playing when he was 15 months old. Of course, he still not able to understand much on my instruction,so I have to do it together for him and as time pastby, he slowly get my meanings and he can do it himself. There is always the time when he started to get naughty and refuse to keep his toys after playing. I will slowly tell him to do it and sometimes I need to be fierce to get it done. No choice, when I get fierce,then he will scare and will do it. Of course, I will help him up sometimes,at least, we are doing it together. Once a while, I will give him some rewards to show his hardworks. He was quite happy with my rewardsa and I hope he will always remember to do his part. Slowly , I also train him to be more independent,feed himself,help up in putting his own clothes to laundry basket,wear his own clothes,etc... My son is only 3.5 years old and he is still young to do other housechores,slowly I will train him step by step. As he grows older , he will be able to be independent and be a useful person.