My Boyfriend is still mourning over his brother's death...

The grieving process can be a long drawn out process. Whether it takes long or short periods depends upon the bereaved. It is important to understand that it is a normal occurance and time is not the important focus. What is important is that he faces and overcomes grieving through the individual stages. To say that it is about time he move on is to deny his feelings about the lose. Grieving according to the experts occurs in five stages. denial, anger, bargining, acceptance, and moving on. Be there for him through the stages and help if he asks. That is all you can do. If he does ask, perhaps the best question to ask him is how does he think his brother would feel if he were alive? I ask myself that every time i make important decisions. I consider what my mom would say. It helps.

People handle their loss of loved ones in different ways. The period of grief and mourning is a painful experience to go through. When we lose someone , we go through a healing process. All you can do for someone who has lost someone so close to them is to be there for them. There is so much trial for the heart to go through at this point. Just being a friend and caring for those left behind is the biggest step in comfort we can make.

I guess it is important that he knows that you and his family are there for him anytime he needs and anytime he can already talk about his feelings. boys never do talk about what they feel and with this it makes them more vulnerable to the pain - because they hide their feelings... in your boyfriend's case it is manifesting in his dreams... I would suggest that you do talk to him if he would seem receptive at any time of the day. Just ask how he is doing and that what his plans would be perhaps for the rest of the day, etc... start with small talks and i am sure he will soon respond to you more and more.

Maybe he still feels sad and even blame himself for losing his brother. Maybe he thinks that he did not do his best to save his brother,or he even think that,why it is his brother and why not him. Well,sounds scary really. Just give your boyfriend all the support that he needs and never show to him that you are almost giving up. Give him more care and attention,and if possible why not take him to some other place for a vacation.

I would've felt the same if i was him. And i'd suggest some space for me to be alone.

Losses like this take some time for some healing. Honestly though you never really get over it, you just learn to deal with it more. Don't try to keep getting your boyfriend to talk, just be there to listen to him whenever he wants to talk. Men especially are more quiet and sometimes need some space to deal with what they are going through.

oohh so pity , you're just need patient and give your boy friend support :)