Why would you marry someone you knew was psychotic?
By Laurenzigzag
@Laurenzigzag (48)
United States
August 23, 2010 4:25pm CST
psychosis is defined as having loss of contact with reality, which is basically what my stepdad suffers from. He used to think that me and my sisters sat in our rooms all day talking about him and that every time we left the room we were trying to insult him. Basically, everything we did was to insult him. Maybe that's some form of paranoia or something, I don't know. But anyway, he's also an alcoholic (which probably doesn't help his mental state) and my mother knew this before she moved us in with him. He started being a jerk long before she got pregnant by him and he did all sorts of stuff while they were engaged. So, my question is: Why did she go ahead and marry him? He broke the key off in the lock and wouldn't let us in one time because she didn't tell him where she was going. He smashed his fist through a glass table and called me all kinds of names because I told him I wasn't into gardening. He yelled at my sister for half an hour one time because she left a sweater laying on the floor. And my mother tolerates it. Even after me and my sister got tired of it and moved out, she still tolerated it. Now, after living with him for nearly six years she is finally taking steps to get divorced. But, why did she marry him in the first place?
3 responses
@Galena (9110)
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24 Aug 10
the same reason you'd marry anyone.
because you love them.
my husband is Schizophrenic.
he's also the sweetest, kindest, most loving, most generous, most caring, most tolerant person I know. I couldn't love him more if I tried.
people with a mental illness are not unloveable. just like any other illness.
you wouldn't ask "would you marry someone you knew was diabetic?"
we were together for about 8 years when he got ill. two years later I married him. he's still the same person, he's just got an illness.
the only good reason to marry is for love. and loving someone with a mental illness isn't abnormal. you love the person, not the diagnosis.
@Laurenzigzag (48)
• United States
24 Aug 10
I don't think that is quite the same thing. My stepdad used violence (physical and verbal) to intimidate my people. And I don't think he does this because he's mentally ill. I think he's mentally ill because he does this and hurts the people around him in a way that he intends to hurt people and I think it's disgusting.
I would marry someone who was diabetic if I loved them.
I would NOT marry someone who verbally abused me and my children.
I wouldn't love someone who did that.
@Galena (9110)
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24 Aug 10
it's not fair to use terms like psychotic to describe someone behaving in a nasty and unpleasant way.
psychosis is an illness, not a character flaw.
when people use the word psychotic to describe someone being nasty, they cheapen and stigmatise the illness, and there is enough stigma associated with mental illness as it is.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
25 Aug 10
For the same reasons a person would marry a well normal person it is called LOVE, LOL 
I think it's cause by various unusual experience or bad experience I may say.