Personal space in married life
By earnfun
@earnfun (50)
United States
August 23, 2010 6:30pm CST
Marriage is one beautiful phase of life, which has to be enjoyed thoroughly. It has it's negative side too like extra responsibilities, respecting patners interest and choice etc. But in between all these things, I strongly believe that everybody need some personal space. There has to be an "I" in "our". I saw many couples who makes sure that there are no secrets in between them. Not one of any kind and the patner have to be informed of everything and to obtain an approval. I some how don't thing this is write. There will be few things that will keep you happy when kept as a secret, and some things are not supposed to be discussed at all.
Do you agree with this or I am on completely on the wrong side . What do you think.
7 responses
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
I am the kind of person who wants details. I need to know something and be informed about everything, so I can make an approval. It goes the same way with my husband, he also wanted me to do the same thing. I guess it depends on the couple on how they are going to make a relationship work, whether they are going to have an "I" in "our".
@akopoaysi (739)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
i think it is good to still have space between two partners so the person inside oneself wont lose and just be a partner. . :D
@chenxiaoyue_713 (2165)
• China
24 Aug 10
I'm stronly in favor of the idea that there should be personal space in married couples. Everyone has his/her privacy and this should not be changed just because of marriage. I can't understand those couples who share absolutely no secrets and seem to be almost one. Couples are supposed to be intimate, but having no privacy doesn't mean intimacy.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
24 Aug 10
We are individuals above all and yes there is a lot of compromising and no secrets when in a marriage.
However we do have to have a bit of space somewhere as it makes it all the while worth seeing each. This space means individual friends where from time to time you are able to hang out and have innocent fun without one another. I do believe this should be an agreed arrangement.
@czanwell_30 (717)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
Yeah I agree that when two people get married it's like the song when two become one. You share now your life with your partner. There should be no secrets between the two of you within the marriage and that concerns the marriage. But I also believe that there should be a space and you should also have a privacy like some thoughts that you are to keep, emails, cellphone calls or messages are some of the private things that should be keep. In marriage it's also exciting if there are many surprises, mysteries and secrets as long as you are not cheating your husband or wife it's ok. It's good in a marriage if it have some thrill, and I like it personally.
@mabey1 (334)
• Romania
24 Aug 10
i have to agree with you. you enter a realtionship as an individual, and you have to maintein a part of your individuality. yes there will be things on what you will have to give up, but if you want your marriage to be working on the long run you hav eto have personal space, something that is only yours. that can be your work, a hobby, some personal time. it won't ruin your relationship, i think it will make it better.
@chinoxads (255)
• United States
24 Aug 10
I think that in the marriage your partner has a space where can take a time for him or herself, like go out with friends not the commons friend of both, a partner has needs to feel good for themselves, of course those things has to be in the good way and healthy for the relation in the marriage.
