Do you marry when you found many friends got married by age.
By Shinyqiu
@Shinyqiu (119)
China
August 24, 2010 5:39am CST
The time goes fast like arrow,I have graduated from college for three years,all the time worked as a shipping clerk in a foreign company.
But i found that many of my closest femal friends all told me her goodnews what she will get married with her bf one after another.
As the position to her good friends,i am 100% sincere to congratulate this sweetly pairs for everyone with a big smile.at the same time,i don't why i so frustrate about the marriage because i thought of my disappinted love.Why do they successly to marry with bf but my bf opposite to betray to who he once deeply loved.
What can i to do?maybe i will be a single if i have not waited my luck belongs me.
I am 25 years olds,be regarded as a goodlookng,brilliant,smart girl.but why many of girls like me who was called by"left lady".where is my ms right.!!!!!!!
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11 responses
@aluan1980 (11)
• China
24 Aug 10
if you don't mind,i suggest you often go out whith your closely friends and their BF,i think they really like to introduce you some good guys,for now just open your mind and enjoy your life
@GreedyMoney (146)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
I agree. it ain't easy to just judge and justify something that is not good.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
24 Aug 10
In my opinion people are not marrying very young anymore. At age 25 please this not what we call an old maid. An old maid would be considered at well over 35 so you need not worry about that.
Secondly how many of your friends that were married younger than you are truly happy in their marriages. That would be the true question here.
My motto better to be single than a life long full of misery.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
25 Aug 10
It may come dear, one day when you least expect it. Good Luck and chin up. 
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
At 25, I don't think that you should regard yourself as 'left lady' or 'left by the bus', I am 30 and am not yet married still, neither do I have a boyfriend to begin with. I am haunted by technology regarding the matter more and more each day when family, friends, past-colleagues and past classmates share their momentous events (wedding, children, babies, showers, engagement, etc.) in the social networking sites I also belong to.
I do try most of the times to just brush off the insecurity, but I tell you, regardless how I try, the insecurity of not finding the right one is always there within my heart. I often thought that perhaps there's something really wrong with me that's why men wouldn't see me as someone they'd want to be their wife.
These days have particularly been tough because I just broke up with a boyfriend of 5years because he decided to find someone else.
My love life must seem so sad, but I cannot wake up each day feeling sorry for myself. Yes, I do want a life with someone special and a family. But, we can never force anyone to live life with us if they don't want to. It's beyond my control and being depressed about being single won't help at all.
Now, I try to live my life day-to-day. Searching for the special moments in my day which I consider as happy. That is what I am longing for each day. It's pathetic, I know but beats being negative all the time. Doesn't it?
Just remember to be thankful for what you have and stop wondering how others are living. Be happy, or at least try to be. We may not find out Mr. Right this lifetime, but don't waste time searching for something or someone or a life that we may not be really destined for.
Live well.
@Shinyqiu (119)
• China
25 Aug 10
Hi,laydee,thanks for your reply.
You know,a girl more than 25 years old still not get married was called by"left lady"in our country--china.And this is a commen phenomena by 80s generation in 21 centray.
but,yes,i found that you are a brave,strength girl according to your lifetime which i must learn some excellent spirits from you.
But do you think that sometimes i may not find our Mr. Right if we stayed at home lonely or do nothing with the communicating with nice male.So i think you must go out and learn to acquaint with a lot of male friends.i will try to do.
good luck,hope us to look for a romantic love,fighting!!!!^^
@aldawn22 (224)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
I am also at the same age as you and like you almost all of my friends are happily getting married. Marriage for us woman is a big deal and seeing other people getting married with their love one is hard because of your situation that you don't have as of the moment your prince charming. But don't be sad, not all people will have the same destiny, maybe Mr. right is also busy looking for you. Why not enjoy being single after all it's only a limited time that we enjoy this stage. Sooner or later you have your family and you will realize that everything has it's own perfect timing.
@mahesh7 (22)
• India
24 Aug 10
hiiii, here
Usually we see that after 20 or 21 years old people is getting married.. It happens in the world.. Every people is getting married.... One friend also want to marry looking his friend that he is getting married, why don't i ??. So that is also a reason of marry..... According to my opinion I'll marry when I complete my study..
SO when you are telling to your Parents that you want to mary ????????? huh.......
@omaisauchedoden (1)
• Vietnam
25 Aug 10
your question very difficult, I think you shoud marry soon, don't care your friend, you need marry, and it's very important, you should take it.
@chenxiaoyue_713 (2165)
• China
24 Aug 10
Why do you think so, friend? All your friends got married doesn't mean you should also get married. You know, I'm three years older than you and many of my friends got married and some of them already have kids. But why does this matter? Everyone has his/her own choice of the time of getting married. And why should I get married when I haven't found the right one for me? Actually, I enjoy the time of being single. I love all the freedom I want and can do whatever I like. But after marriage, it will be differnt.
So don't be pressured by this. You need to relax.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
24 Aug 10
Dear friend,
I had some people marry from the compulsions of their parents. But I hope it would be better marry someone whom one do think is able to understand each. Moreover the love is getting more materialistic now days, as it has become difficult to get the pure and original love, those who got is really more than winning a big jackpot.
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
25 Aug 10
You`re 25 and you`re in a hurry to marry? Come on, you`re still young! At my age I still think that I`m too young to marry, and I`m older for that.
What I mean is that you should marry when you`re prepared for it, and only if you want to, but not because others do that. Live your life without comparing yourself to others, and you`ll be happier
