Destiny or not.. needs help please...
By audsalas
@prettyauds (258)
Philippines
August 24, 2010 6:55am CST
Hi guys! I need your opinions. It's about my best friend. She's confuse. Here's her story. she had a childhood friend,who claims that he loves her ever since they were young,(he only admitted it her just recently)but the guy has a family now,but is not doing well ever since the guy married his wife. And my best friend,has a child now. After they graduated in grade school,my best friend's family relocated. Since then they don't have any communication at all. Unexpectedly,they bump into each other. They were both happy to see each other,but very much was the guy. He just got married that time and was expecting a baby. He told my b.friend that the reason why he married his wife is because she got pregnant. He said that he was looking for my b.friend for so long.
Unfortunately,my b.friend is about to get married,but she doesn't really love the guy (she'll be marrying),she has to do it because of personal reason. When the guy knew about it,he pleaded my b.friend not to get married,instead to wait for him. But my b.friend doesn't want to make any trouble with guy's life,so even though she had feelings for this guy,no matter how hard the guy pleaded my b.friend to wait for,she avoided him. She knew it was the right thing to do.
Time had passed,he kept on seeing my b.friend unexpectedly,but the guy didn't had the courage to approach my b.friend,for he thought that maybe my b.friend really wanted to avoid him. Years passed by,really unexpectedly :),they met again. But this time,they thought that destiny finds it way for them to see each other. There have been so many instances from both of them that they shouldn't have been in that place at that time. The guy saw my b.friend first,when he saw her,he was overjoyed to see her. He wanted to approach her,but he was afraid that my b.friend would avoid him,so he decided not to approach my b.friend. But things happen (just like in fairy tales) no matter how much he tries to avoid her,destiny had it's way. She was at the food counter ordering her lunch,and he was at the end of the counter line waiting fir his friend who also happened to buy some food. Then as soon as my b.friend was passing infront of the guy,he called her name,when she saw who was it,she almost threw the tray of food in surprise. He gets her number,then he left. He has to go back to work. He tried as soon as he left the place,the started dialing her number,just to check if she had given the right number. When he heard the voice at the other line,his heart beats so fast. From then on,he didn't stopped texting and calling her. But not so long after,his wife went back to his home. He was confused and afraid that my b.friend would avoid him again if she knows that his wife went back to him. However,he manages to tell her about it and was ready to plead my b.friend to still stay. Until now,they were still talking to each other but my b.friend is trying to avoid meeting the guy,for she doesn't want to have trouble with his wife. No matter how much the guy insist that even though his wife's back with him,he doesn't love his wife anymore and would want to be with my b.friend no matter what the consequences may be.
Question: Do really think that they were destiny for each other? That they were meant to be with each other? Hope we could help my best friend. Thanks! :)
3 responses
@franne32 (694)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
How were you able to tell that the guy's heart was beating fast etc.? I mean, from both angles it seems you sure know a lot on what's happening between them that it was as if it came from a novel. Anyway, it's really up to them whether they end up together or not. It's hard to push your friend to get together with that guy especially since the guy did not take into consideration how his wife would feel...would he do the same thing to your best friend if ever he grew tired of her? If he really doesn't love his wife then in the first place, he could have just avoided the marriage and just give financial support to their child. As for your best friend, it's not good to have a relationship with a married man. But that's just my opinion.
@prettyauds (258)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
Hi! I can't help smiling with your comment on "the guy's heart was beating fast",this was told to me by my best friend,every little thing that they were doing,she shares with me. Anyway,that was also what I told her. She can't assure that the guy wouldn't do to her the same thing that he did to his wife. If he really does love her,he should have ended his marriage the time that they meet when she was still single. She said that the reason why the guy married his husband was for the sake of the child,so it wouldn't be an illegitimate child. She is still confuse even though I kept on telling her that there's a lot of single guys out there that would still accept her and her child. She just have to wait.
Thanks for sharing your opinion! :)
@franne32 (694)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
Well I do hope she ends up with the right guy and be happy with her life. As a woman myself, I want to hear a happy ending to keep me thinking this world isn't that cruel as we sometimes think it is. If they are indeed meant to be together, what they're going through now is just a trial and maybe in the end it will be all worth it. Indeed, having a child does not mean she won't be loved again. If a guy loves her, he should love her child as well.
@prettyauds (258)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
Hi franne32! Thank you so much for your response. That's what we kept on telling her,that she don't have to be discouraged that a good man will love and accept her and her child someday. If the guy really loves her,he'll accept everything and everyone in her life. We just really hope that she'll made the right decision in choosing her partner. Have a good day! :)
@prettyauds (258)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
Hi atchmon,indeed it's really complicated now. Especially on the guy's side. Maybe my friend was so confused way back the then that's why she let go of the guy. But I think she did the right decision,only that after a long time,they've met again and their feelings for each other is still there.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
31 Aug 10
yes for sure they are meant to be^^ bcs still they tried so hard to be away from each other their ways always catch each other ahah ^^ i think that your best friend should wait him to get divorced^^ and your best friend must not feel guilty or bad for it bcs the reason why he wants the divorce is that he never loved his wife so he can never be happy with her^^ so your friend must be happy bcs he loves her and both can be happy together^^ your friend shouldnt be away from him anymore. she should talk with him and say she waits^^ im sure he is going to be so happy and will ask his wife for the divorce^^ is time already for them to be happy and for their ways to be together all the time and not separated and catching anymore like playing hide and seek ahah^^ they for sure are destined to be^^ by the way their story is so cute^^ i really am happy to know this ^^ and please join them together^^ tell your friend to trust this guy bcs even he was married he always was finding a way to meet her and all those years that pass by he always waited her to be with him so she must trust him and say she waits^^ and dont think is her fault if his wife be sad bcs is not. he never and will never love that woman bcs his heart doesnt feel that. so your friend must say she waits and for sure in minute he listens this he will ask the divorce ahah^^ tell us please how the story goes^^
@prettyauds (258)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
Hi sweetloveforeve! Your comment is so sweet.. and hopeful.. To update you from what's happening to them :) his wife was back to their house. But as what I recalled,my friend and the guy should met the other week to unwind. My friend is asking me to accompany her watch a movie,but I wasn't able too. I just don't know if she went out with the guy. As of this morning,my friend told me that they haven't spoken again since last week. I ask her if there's a problem,she said not. But she was crying the other day,she said that she feel lonely,empty. I pity her,but I can't help her. That emptiness is almost eating her up. I can see it to her. I just hope that she'll be happy again. I know she is with her child,but everybody needs a companion isn't it? (sigh...)
