So this is what he told me!
By hotpink89
@hotpink89 (134)
United States
August 24, 2010 9:33am CST
i've been talking to someone for about a good month now, and hes a great nice guy and pretty much were really into each other and attracted also. but this is the problem....
i seen him two days a go and this is what he said to me
" i feel like your trying to open up to me and i feel like your pushing me away"
i was shocked he felt like this, yet idk why i'm being like this, maybe i've been hurt to many times and scared to open up or just not feeling love anymore !!
my main point why am i changing ?
1 response
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
I know it's never easy opening up yourself to others again after being hurt too many times before. It's just normal for a person to be that way. But if you know that you have already moved on from the breakup and that you are ready to meet new people, then why hold yourself back from expressing what you truly feel for him? Maybe it's still to early for you but if you really like the guy, then don't make him feel that your pushing him away. Since you are attracted to him, pay more attention, give him time. Start opening more about yourself if you still haven't. Don't hide yourself under the shadows. Establish "TRUST" . I know you can't just hand over trust, people should earn that from you. But you said he's a good guy and that you're both attracted to each other. If two people such as you and him are getting to know each other a little too well, then give it a chance to develop.
If he has earned your trust, give it to him. Be open. Share more things about you. Not just share and tell, but listen to what he has to say as well. Try to examine and think of what you really feel about the guy. It's not like he's asking you for marriage. He just wants to get to know you more and be with you I guess. At least he is being honest by indirectly telling you that "please don't push me away".
Best of luck .
@hotpink89 (134)
• United States
24 Aug 10
thank you so much hun, i know what your saying i think i just time to think about everything and see if this is what i really want and overall i feel so stressful because i dont wana to hurt him or lead him on by any way, so i think i'll just give myself time and will see what happens, i'll try to not push him away anymore or try to be more open! thank you so much
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
You're very much welcome. Also, just put yourself in his shoes. It's like , if you really want or like someone, does it give you pain when he/she pushes you away instead of pulling you closer?
@hotpink89 (134)
• United States
25 Aug 10
yeah i know your right, but i guess im just to scared hunii