Husband and wife should both stick it through thick and thin

Hi Catana. I agree with what you say that many make wrong choices because they did not spend much time learning about the person or some thinks that they can change the person. When one gets into marriage, it is not really a bliss. Close family members of mine failed. I've seen a lot of people failed. There are some that I know who were able to work it out with their spouses. But according to them, it is not easy. It is hard. It's just that they love the person and they stayed with them learning to accept their differences. I fear I don't have all the will power to do the same. Or maybe, I've been traumatized by the many failed marriages I've seen. I think this kind of mentality can be change though if I learn to look deeper and find underneath to make relationships work. But I guess this is not the right time. I commend those who found the key to make their marriage life work out.

Life is not easy. That is what I learned from my parents, our ministers and my boss. I agree with you... many no longer understand the true meaning or value of loving and marriage. Many, when they felt difficulties refused to go on and keep the relationship which they have invested much.

I think we have the same idea and belief. If couples would only have this mentality, they will not fight much and make the children suffer. I hope and pray that couples will be able to weather their storms for the sake of their children.

When two people fall out of love, I believe there are ways to bring it back again. It requires effort because loving is a verb. Couples should agree that both of them are still willing to be with each other. Maybe, they fall out of love and separated because they lost the effort and interest to get engage. That's when the possibility of sticking to one another fails.

If couples separated, maybe because it is not really God's will that they'll be together. But sometimes, people don't realize that the family is the foundation of a good society. If only the government (my government in particular) would focus on teaching values to making a marriage work or for younger population not to marry early, unless they are financially, mentally, emotionally and physically mature, there would be lesser record of divorce or separations.

Hi Dochappy. I hope you'll be able to find someone that would actually fit your positive outlook. It's a good thing you have a good outlook in life. Match it with prayer so that you'll be guided in finding the right person.

I'm extremely lucky to have found someone that is for sure. We have been dating for 2 years now and she is the love of my life. We both talked about marriage and right now with everything else that is going on in our life we decided it's not the time. We have our share of arguments(we are not perfect) but I think what helps us the most is we never go to bed angry and no matter what we are open and honest to each other about everything.

Hi melanie652. I somehow agree with you. It's a sad thing to think that many have became selfish and forgot that caring and giving is an integral part of our humanity. When couples fall into difficult times, they tend to forget what they've vowed during their marriage rite, may it be religious or civil. But this should not happen. I believe faith, trust and respect can still bond couples and these are ingredients that should not be lost in a relationship.

I agree with you. But for those who came in early to marriage, they should not have divorce as an option but to focus the time that they have together to make marriage work for them. Loving is a verb that one must learn to continuously do it until end of our lives.

Commitment is just the right word. But commitment wanes when the hurt, discouragement, and lost of trust comes in. Forgiving should also be present and to find it in our hearts to forgive is to have great love towards the person. Yes, it takes two to tango. But what if the other person no longer wants to tango, will you give up? I learned from those who's marriage lasted, one key is that the other person should be stronger when the other one is weak. But as our ministers has taught us, having a God-fearing relationship is the best. It is the key to a successful marriage. Thanks for sharing your point.

My sister has gone through the same civil wedding rites. The one who initiated the wedding said beautiful words. However, after a year, they are going through rough times in their relationship. I wish they'll be able to work it out. I hoped they understand what the bible says about loving as stated in 1 Cor. 13:4 - 8. Only if they can embody it and internalize it. This way, both would learn to respect, give love, sacrifice and truly understand.

Yeah... they should. But what "should" is not actually what happens. Seldom do we see married people stay together, specially in this time. Thanks for commenting Jailo12.