Why is it easier to talk to her online?
By jonnifc
@jonnifc (1017)
Philippines
August 24, 2010 9:37am CST
I have a friend who I haven't seen for almost a year. Throughout the time we were apart we would talk a lot online. We would comment on each other's facebook info, chat about anything, even our fears, feelings and hopes, and also email each other to discuss about each other's problems. I was so excited to see her when I visited the city where she works. But when we got together, I felt we could only talk about trivial and mundane things. We talked a lot about other people. But a lot of times we get awkward silences. Why is that?
9 responses
@mikaela8132000 (144)
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
maybe cause u both shy in the frist place or maybe u guys have some feeling for each other and when u guys meet up it make it grow more
@Absinto (2385)
• Portugal
25 Aug 10
When you talk to somebody online it is like they are just a machine talking back. I mean you know it is a frind of yours on the other side talking but you dont see her face to face. She is an internet pal to you i guess. Sometimes when you meet in person it just isnt the same as if you were talking on the net.
@Andi21 (85)
• Germany
25 Aug 10
In internet and especially chats it is much easier to talk to your friends because nobody can see you but you talk about all important, interesting or also private things. The same it is with a friend of mine. But the internet cannot be better than real friendships like going eating ice cream, shopping or travelling.
@murriaguirre (20)
• Mexico
24 Aug 10
People are like porcupines, they have sharp spines. You got too close to her online, and online people are not present at all so there are no spines, you can get closer and closer to her without being hurt by the spines. But when you saw her in person again, the spines appeared and separated you both. Good luck with that.
@murriaguirre (20)
• Mexico
24 Aug 10
People are like porcupines, they have sharp spines. You got too close to her online, and online people are not present at all so there are no spines, you can get closer and closer and never be hurt by the spines. But when you met her in person, the spines appeared and separated you both.
@jailo12 (332)
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
hahaha ..maybe you just miss that person that when it comes in person you have this feeling to get silent ..i had this experience too ..it really is awkward when she's near but if it's online chatting ,i could talk to her any topic she want ..^^
@franne32 (694)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
It's just like that with one of my friends...we're more open to each other through emails. Well, it's probably the long gap of time you haven't spent with each other in person. Maybe if you spend a lot more time together, the old friendship you both have will return and the awkwardness will disappear.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
24 Aug 10
I find people have a whole lot of subjects and matters to discuss when they are online, they feel they are not getting upfront critics and people are more apt to agree online then they are in person.
Some people truly over exaggerate who they are online then when they are in person. Perhaps your friend is a bit on the in person shy part.
@treefolk7 (69)
• United States
24 Aug 10
I notice it is a lot easier to talk to people online then face to face. A lot of times its easier to put into words online then have to interact up front with the person. I have anxiety and it is better for me to talk to people online. I guess my advice would be next time you meet to talk about more topics if you could. That way to eliminate the awkward silence.
