can you stand gossip?are you strong enough to ignore it? how do you deal with it

The effective way to stay out of reach by gossip is to stay in the house all the time. Don't do any thing that people might start to feast on gossip. And even if there is something a gossip started out of me. I wont go to any down level for every ones satisfaction. Let them gossip about me as long that it's not true and wont hurt me that much. I don't really give a care about it. Those people who love gossip are the people who got self low esteem they feed on other peoples live.

Hi hotsummer, I really despise gossip, it destroys so many lives. I once heard gossip compared to murder because although you don't kill them physically, you destroy a person's character. As you say strong people ignore it and it quickly goes away. That is really the only way to handle it because it's like a fire, without fuel it will soon die. Small towns are famous for gossip as are workplaces and of course churches. Just remember don't add fuel to the fire. Blessings.

there's an instance that i am the subject of a gossip, it's very stressful, people will asking you about what had happened, etc. you have to explain again and again same story with different persons, until such time that i feel tired of explaining, now what i'm doing is to laugh whenever somebody is asking, i just laugh at them and go..

yes I am strong enough to ignore it. i am single mom and being one is a taboo here in the Phils, so I never listened to anyone who kept on syaing bad things behind my back. the only thing you need to remember is that they didn't give you food when you need it, you earn for your living so why do you need to be bothered by their gossips?

I have learned to not get affected by senseless gossips.I too was a victim of gossip in my company before.I really had to confront the person who started it all and it felt so good that I was able to make him reverse what he said.In the long run though I felt like there really is no need to do that if it's not true at all. Believe me if you just keep ignoring them then it would just die down naturally. I am also invited to participate in a gossip but I never commented and it just works to just know what is being talked about but forgetting it right there and then at the same time.It is easy to ignore gossip as long as you just keep your mouth and your ears shut or sometimes even your eyes literally.

I have heard a lot of gossips. mostly were no true, i just ignore them and i just do what ever i can to prove that their gossips about me were all wrong.

I think everyone has been the subject of gossip. And you're right it definitely doesn't feel good. Because it's obviously not praise if it's gossip. Personally, I hate it. And like you, I cannot be in an environment where it is condoned. This is why I try my best not to get pulled in whenever a conversation like that arises. I even make it a point to try and say something nice about that person instead, sincerely of course. And when I can't say anything nice I just try my best to shut up and keep my thoughts to myself because it is not my place to judge. Most of the time we don't even know the whole story of the person we are talking about, right? Even our closest friends have secrets and I intend to respect each and every one of those secrets. Friend or not. For gossip not only tarnishes the name of the subject, but tarnishes more the name of the messenger. Nice topic hotsummer! ++!

I am a man, but a vularable man, honestly, I can not stand the gossip, It is hard for me to avoid it or ignore it. My heart is not strong enough to handle it. : )

As children, we enjoy gossip as long as it is not directed at us. there is even a children's gossip game where everthing is different when the game ends. As an adult, i try to ignore gossip whenever i can because it is usually hurtful and insulting to another person. I try to find polite ways to stop someone from including me in their gossip. Life is too short too let idle gossip of bitterness and misunderstanding interfere.

I had an experience about being the subject for gossip and I really laughed at it. Some people in my workplace were talking about me for having some sort of attitude problem. Of course someone tried to talk to me about it and when they told me what it was, I almost laughed at them cause it was not an attitude problem at all. Anyway, if its not true about what they say about you, no need to be affected by it.

I guess people enjoy gossip and no matter where you go, there will still be gossip around since no body is perfect. Just accept that gossip is part of life and if in case you are a subject of a negative gossip around then I guess it's better to ignore them because the topic would eventually die and another gossip will start.

hi hotsummer, i remembered a friend saying that a lot of people tend to remember the not so good things you have done rather than the things you have done right. In the final analysis, it is just pure human nature.

before, i am very affected everytime i heard gossips about me but now i learn not to be affected by ignoring them as much as i can.