what should i do

He's not good enough for you. It will hurt to break it off, but if you want to end up with a good man who loves you just as much as you love him, you need to cut off all contact with this guy. Don't let yourself waste time in a relationship that is going nowhere. There IS a guy out there that will love you more than anything or anyone else. But you have to break it off with this guy first.

Hi lilmuchang~ I am going through the exact same thing right now with my boyfriend of three years and we live together which makes things even more hurtful and difficult. He told me he doesn't love me either, that he cares for me, but isn't in love with me anymore. So, believe me I know how much it hurts and I am way older than you. I know that we have to break up and it will be even more difficult for me because we are living together. But, how can I stay with someone who feels like that? And how can you? I have too much self respect so I know what I have to do even though it will break my heart~

It's hard to push yourself to someone who doesn't really love you. You're not a toy after being played by him, he'll just dump you in the trash. You've given all you're love for him for five freakin' long years and it's time for you to thing about yourself now. It's time for you to love your self more, that you were with him. Be strong fruitcake! There are so many men out there who are better than him, men that will love you and will never hurt you. Stand up! Prove to him that you can live your life without him. All it takes is courage and by loving yourself. It doesn't mean selfishness because for the past 5 years, you've been self-less. For now, you should start being in touch with your own self. Elude him little by little, until you're far from him and he can never hurt you anymore. Every girl is a princess and you should not be treated like a doormat.

I am so sorry to hear that. Frankly, girls don't have many years of the golden time. Five years is not a short time. If he doesn't cherish you and even say so hurtful words to you, although it is painful, but I still think it is better to leave him. At least right now you are still single, things are not as complicated as you are married and have a child. You still have a chance to find a better man. I don't think he "changes" lately, it is likely he loves another and then his behaviors are different than before. Don't love a person who doesn't deserve to it. I love China

You ask what should you do? I would never ask someone that because it is something you have to make a decission about yourself. But advice is okay when needed so here goes. If it were me in the situation I would sit down and talk to him about your future and what he wants out of your relationship. Is he only keeping you around because it makes his life easier or does he want you there because his life would be bad without you in it. Would he miss you if you were to leave. Is there somewhere where you could go for a couple weeks holiday and see if he misses you much? I know 5 years is a long time invested in someone but you don't want to waste another 5 years if he no longer loves you. You need to go on your own and find someone who does love you enough that he wouldn't change his mind later on because that isn't love. Since this discussion is 13 months old I am wondering if you are still in this relationship and if it is better is so, or have you moved on and found someone who loves you first and himself second. Cheers, Chris

Wow you have got so close to him because 5 years is a very long time and that to for a boy. I am amazed you didn't have second thoughts that how could he be hanging with you for so long. It would be better if you let him be as he wants to be. You will find it hard at first to accept somethings because he has been with you for so long but at later you would move on. For a couple of months after you breakup now with him you will think a lot about him but you will understand what you went through and what could have been done. I suggest you leave him as soon as possible. A BOOK TOO CLOSE TO THE EYES CANNOT BE READ! Cheers!

This guy has hurt you and harmed you and you need to heal or else you will carry your pain to your next relationship. Better if you let go really quickly and be GLAD about it because he would have brought you more and more unhappiness. You are so much better off without him...remember to hang out with good people or else you will just end up with losers like him

He said it point blank he doesn't want to marry you? Then it is time for you to go. If you want to marry , then you need to find a guy who Wants to marry you. Your boyfriend may love you but he doesn't want to marry. You shouldn't wait for him to change his mind! If marriage is very important, then you need to move on. But... if marriage isn't a Huge deal And you Want to stay , then stay.You have to do what will make you the happiest. sit down and figure out what you Really want and need and go for it. Take Care.

send him packing - he wants to keep you around until he finds a replacement - don't be "handy" you are better then that and should be treated that way!

If you are looking for your soulmate you better keep looking because this guy has no plans for you in his future. He has said it. All you can do is accept it. Have a heart to heart talk. Telling him what you want and find out what he wants. If you do not agree then theres no future with him. Start looking around.

Lil, you can't make someone else love you. One of the reasons the generations in the past got married first, is because that weeds out most of the people who do not love you. This is why from here on, you should marry before you get involved with someone. As for this relationship, he does not love you. That's all there is to it. You can stick it out, and continue to be hurt, or break if off and move on. Yes that will hurt, but sticking it out to be hurt more, is not a good plan.

Hi lilmuchang You said it yourself, you will hurt yourself more if you stay together. You have other choices and weigh them according to how it hurts you the least. Sorry to hear what your boyfriend say.

Maybe this time tell u to leave him, u will feel hurt, but just looking forward, with a man do not love & care u, what should u do in the future? I think u may have to have a talk with him to know his opinion, maybe he also love u but have something u donot know, if he is sure he do not love u, now pls leave him and begain ur new life. Wish u happy!

Maybe he still love you, and maybe he is afraid of commitment. If he really doesn't love and you are not feeling very good with this situation, you need to be strong to accept that the relation is over and to go on your life.

He is not worth your time, he has told you how it is. You want more and should move on and find someone that loves you for you.

Let him go he is using you and you know you will be hurt more because when he finds someone else he will not want you any more It is not nice what he has said to you and then to say he wants you stay around, it is hurtful and nasty So I advise let him go

If he has changed, then he may be interested in someone else or just bored with the relationship. You deserve better than that. The person that you spend your life with should respect you and treat you right. You may want to express that some of the things he has said to you are very hurtful. If he is not willing to treat you right or respect you then you should move on. You need to learn to love and respect yourself more. You can make it without him. The moment you realize that, then you will be able to move on.

dearest lilmuchang, you are a tough girl. your boyfriend has moved on without you, that you should realize that. wake up honey. stop being foolish (am sorry for the word). i know how it is to be blinded by love and when you realize that he is not the right person for you, then that would be the day. i hope it happens soon. it is not going to be easy but you will be able to accept someday that the relationship has gone stale and sour. learn from it. and move on. find the real love .. the person who would be kind to you and respect you and make you happy, and most of all, someone you would love and who would love you through thick and thin. cheer up. ann

It is really a pity that you failed to understand a guy in toto. This is what they call, love is blind and here your senses have been totally blind. A true love involves two human, understanding each other, appreciating each other, supporting each other at times of distress, so on and so forth. It is not a lust, nor just an infatuation. You have become very weak in saying that you are ready to accept all his weaknesses, but why?. Why are you demoralizing yourself by this empty statement. The guy doesn't love you any more. That is the end of it. Make up your mind and just quit. I believe you are such a stubborn girl who can do this. Good Luck.

he did not say that he doesnt love you anymore.. he just said that he doesnt love you now the way he had the first time.. in this situation there is still hope for you to bring the spark and love back. you just need to think of the things that might affected his feeling.. think of the mistakes or problem that youve been through that might affect his love to be not the same he had.. if he loved you once you can do it again.. do things that will bring his love to be the same way he had when he said to you " I LOVE YOu" from his bottom of his heart..