Sue Or Not??

And what does anyone get out of this sueing? New York just got no fault divorce, so I think it would be a step backward for us.

I think it would depend on the situation. My opinion is, "it takes two to tango." If I thought it was about money and what she could gain, I might have a different attitude.

No, i wouldn't. She couldn't have been w/him if he hadn't ask her to be. It's always been odd to me that wives blame the other woman. What about that cheating husband????

I have experienced being cheated by my husband..That was years ago..here in our country I think there are cases which can be filed against people entering into a relationship with married man or woman.. But, I haven't thought of doing that.. I would like to use diplomacy on them. Then if it doesn't make them realize what a sin they're getting into, then I think I'd like to do that. It would mean they really have the motive in wrecking our family, which I won't allow.. But the again, I think I'll let my husband choose first between us, or his mistress..