Giving too much importance to people ...

Hello dear, When you use those bold letter indiscriminately, it seems as if the entire web page is on fire. Just kidding. One should reserve all one's sympathy and kindness for the people who deserve them the most. There is no such thing as a tested relationship. All relationships deteriorate in time. The most important thing is to be just and kind to yourself. If you are just you will always be clear to yourself. Isn't that something? You will be able to make the right decision irrespective of your surroundings. Also, when you are kind to yourself in the truest sense, you will invariably be kind to others. You have to give importance to others, because that is the essence of our society. You can't deny relationships. Whether you want it or not, you'll have it. What you can do is to get involved without expectations. Expectations is the killer, not the relationship. Thanks. God bless you

On the contrary, I think getting hurt by these certain people make you appreciate your siblings, close friends and relatives a whole lot more than before you knew of the bad kind of relationship. So I don't think it's a waste at all and you shouldn't regret it. Instead turn the regrets into love and channel it to those who actually deserve it.

Hi Kiran! The irony is many a times we realize our mistakes after we have already covered a long distance in our relationship. May be sometimes, we expect a lot from others and remain hopeful that our relationship will flourish in the long run and we keep alive our hopes till we face the reality.

kiran, I have wasted some precious time by giving importance to some people whom I thought they are my well wishers. But in the long run I realized they utilized me. In disguise they were my enemy. Really true friends are very rare. Thanks for your cautionary topics.

Hello kiran, Yes, you are right. I have received comments from my friends, like i stay lost these days, lost in my own world where there is me and of course...

Yea, you're right. Giving too much importance to other people is not a good thing. There is a saying which goes like, "The only person whom you can put your 100% trust is YOUR OWN SELF." I believe in this statement. We know ourself better than other people do. Yes, we have our own parents. They are the ones who took cared of us since birth. But more to that, they still do not know the "101% US." People who are involved in a serious relationship [bf-gf, etc] think that giving too much importance to their loved one is a good thing. Our friends also. We value them SOOO MUCH to the extent that we care for them, MORE than we care for our own selves. Giving too much importance to other people is not a good thing for me. Maybe we've known them for several years/months, but they cannot be with us forever. It's ourselves that should be given more importance than our acquaintances.

With passage of time,the color and glaze of all relationship change and turn up into different kind,no matter how close and tasted those may be. On several occasions, closer relationships break on some filthy personal grounds,and even a stranger turns to be the most important part in one's life. In building relationship,we need not ignore the people we meet at different places and on different occasions if we feel to share similar causes and to support one another,for mutual benefits. Thanks.

i agree with you very much kiran8. very good discussion

Hi, kiran8. I agree completely with you here. I have given too many people so much importance in my life. Now these same people seem as if they could care less for me. They act like I don't even exists. It really hurts me to see this happen. I am really learning how not to give so many people the special importance that they don't deserve. I am dealing with a situation now with my ex boyfriend. He is playing games and I have given him just too much of credit when he really does not deserve it at all.

I am sorry to say that I cannot agree with you. It's good to give more and expect less. A chinese adage says: just take acts of charity without caring the future.

I have done that in the past. With all past boyfriends really, I have felt as though they were the most important thing in my life, and often I forgot about the friends and family who were always there for me, and who always will be there for me. It's too easy when you get close to someone to forget about everyone else around you, and I always regret doing that, but there's nothing you can do to change the past, so all that you can do is try to change the future.

I agree with you , 110 percent,,at one time I attended a lecture,the wise man said,there is no need to be attached to ANYBODY,, as most will leave you sooner or later,since then I try to follow him,, then again there are people who leave precious moments spent with them,, as memories,,that change my thinking.

I have learnt that late in life...but its better late than never. You need to keep you head high and refrain from more than what is required. Treat people as you want them to treat you.

i completely agree with you.this will help you from unwanted emotional turmoil.