Don't meddle please!!

How I deal with meddlesome people?Hmmn, I just hold my breath, excuse myself from the person I'm having conversation with and walk away...I hate meddlesome people, it annoys me...What I'm up to is not their business, so when they show up to the scene and meddle for no reason at all, it's like a dropped bomb infront of me that makes me retreat. That also tells me about their character...

In my case I'm like the super lazy guy and I usually, although unintentionally, ask people to do things for me. Simple as they may be, I just have this habit of letting people do stuff for me and I'm perhaps a real charmer or a very good convincer because shockingly, most of the time they get to do it. Anyway, I'm sure I'm the type you hate, I understand that. I also do not like to be told what to do, but only if I already know what it is I'm supposed to do, am still doing something, or just too lazy to do anything.

I know how you feel, I don't like those people who have to know everyone's business when it is none of theirs. There are just some people who have to know everything and that have to judge everything and put there two cents in, and I am thinking, "Okay, get a life of your own and stay they hell out of mine." No, I mean it, my life is my life, and no one has to know my business but me. If I don't want other people to know about what is happening with me, then they aren't going to know. My aunt's mother-in-law was a meddlesome person and she used to make life hell for my aunt. My family said to her, "Why don't you all just move away, and not tell her where you are living?" or "Why don't you find her a boyfriend, or find her a life, so that she will stay away from yours?" "Where there is a will, there is a way" and to me this means that if you want to get away from a person, and you don't want them to know your business, then don't let people find out about your business.

I work for a company which I can call multi-national. It hires different people from different nationalities. And I can actually see a trend on one nationality which rubs me off as meddlesome or busy. At first I got so annoyed with them because they tend to be loud mouths and always wanting to be in the middle of things. When I saw the pattern, I realized that they can't help it. They're just like that growing up. I don't give them the silent treatment, or do anything bad to them. I just avoid them altogether. Just like the plague!

There are also people like that here in my my workplace. They meddle in all the affairs that you have even with the things that you say. How do I deal with it? I totally ignore them no matter what they say to me and about me.

If someone is bossy I ignore them and also avoid them. The person who has done wrong would then realise that he/she has overstepped the mark very quickly. Obviously it depends on the situation and environment.

I try to appease them....ignoring them sometimes leads them to follow you around. I recently helped my daughter with her son's graduation. I was making the salads and another visitor kept telling me that I should do this or that...I politely said...this is my daughters house...these are her recipies and I will do as she asked me to do. THis gal is always offering advice to everyone like she knows it all....well she doesn't...later my daughter told me that if I had changed the recipies to do what the other gal wanted her family wouldn't have eaten anything....putting her off in a nice way helped for the moment....but whenever anyone encounters her.....she offers advice. Go figure!

I just smile; say thank you and leave. Sometimes if I see a trend in this person, which annoys me too, I just avoid him or her.

It is fully understandable,what you are saying.A person who has no intimate or close relationship with us ought not to offer unwanted and unsolicited advise .People in the same rank as us ought not to boss over us.I might not avoid such people but i give them the silent treatment.

hi arystine - I'm afraid there are loads of people like that, especially in the corporate world. I will similarly tune out especially if they are not my superiors. Just turn a deaf ear and I'm sure they will take the cue some day.