Beauty has its own curse...

Hi biswa, Very good points against beauty, here you are talking only about the beauty of a human being or specifically a woman right? You may be right about most of the things and I agree but then what can one do if blessed ( cursed??) with beauty at birth.There is beauty of nature and beauty of what nature has created other than human beings which thrill us and I doubt if there is any jealousy or negative feelings there..,,enjoy your evening

Thank god i'm not beautiful, biswa. I don't have that problems in my life. TATA.

I think that people who are beautiful have problems with their looks as they get older. They are so used to being loved and being beautiful when they are younger, and then when they get older they see that that beauty fades. People constantly believe that beauty is everything and that beauty can last forever, and it doesn't. I am not really beautiful, and I don't see myself as being beautiful, so I don't obsess or worry about it.

Hi! You see it all depends upon the person, who consider himself or herself beautiful. If s/he gets carried away by her/his physical beauty and develop some false sense of pride about herself/himself, then all your logic stand almost correct. However, if a person who is 'beautiful' maintains her/his 'balance' and do not develop 'ego' on account of her/his beauty, s/he may impress others. It may not be correct to say that those who are 'beautiful' may not have other positive traits, they may have but again it depend upon them how do they show or utilize their traits. I remember (many years ago), there was one of our neighbors who was very beautiful, tall and gorgeous like Bollywood Actress Praveen Baabi, however, her voice was very coarse and rough and when she would speak all her beauty came to naught. It is also possible that those who are beautiful may be deprived of some other good traits by the great God. Good post!

I think that there is a certain curse to being beautiful. I think that it is harder for a very attractive person to prove that they are also intelligent. The reason that this is a curse to people is because a lot of people in this world assume that a person can only have beauty or intelligence, it is impossible for them to accept that it is possible to have both of these attributes in their lives. So, in that sense I think you are right.

Hello there! Nice and catchy topic you have here. Beauty really has some negative impacts. People regarded me as a beautiful person. Modesty aside, I think I am just blessed with a great personality. I am a very sweet person to almost everybody which sometimes misjudge me being a flirt. I just don't mind those people. I just treat them nice so that they will be the ones who will figure out what I really am. Some of my past relationships had big problems as well concerning how I look. They would be so possessive! They just thought of me as a thing that they could just own but then if that would be the case. I break up with them instantly. I sometimes being a trophy girlfriend too. That the guys I have dated with will sometimes be proud to introduce me with their friends and families. But only to realize these guys spreading some kind of gossips that they already had me! You are all correct with your statements. But it is really up to the people who are regarded as beautiful to build themselves up! They should not let people treat them that way. I always dress up in a very corporate attire so people will respect me and I am giving them an impression that I am always smart and not let them belittle me. Whenever I encounter people more attractive than me I always give them a positive remark and always try to appreciate them as well. And those remarks are all sincere. I don't have to be jealous from them because I am already confident with myself. I clearly know that beauty is skin deep and always think that someone out there is more attractive than me so no need for me to be bragging about that. But i wouldn't lie to sometimes take advantage of the looks that I got. I guess you know what I mean. The most important thing is the good attitude of the person. That is what matters a lot. I don't want to be regarded as "the beautiful girl" but instead "the nice and sweet girl" or "the successful girl". I hope I have pointed out something with your nice post. Thank you.

We normally associate beauty with certain physical attributes, like good features, complexion, well proportioned figure/physique beautiful hair etc..,. Now this is something that attracts the eye instantly. When people are immature enough to fall for the perception that the outward glitter matches inner beauty , trouble starts. This is very much possible in the teens. Nowadays, from my observation of boys and girls who go in for serious commitment and marriage based on the so called ‘love’ it seems a rational choice too because here looks have not entered the calculation at all. But here it is something that they do consciously after a lot of mature thought. As far as being vulnerable, if an adult is vain he/she has to pay for it. If a person is blessed with good looks it is an additional gift. You cannot call it a curse. It becomes a curse when you have exalted notions of this and build upon your own vanity without realizing that this is a God given gift and not of our making. It is transient. ‘ A thing of beauty is a joy forever’. When a man or woman is given this , the joy gets adulterated with his /her own failings. . Women especially are supposed to be vain,; you would have heard of the quote” Vanity ! Thy name is woman!’ We are all imperfect human beings and fall for the mundane characteristics like responding to flattery and being vulnerable We have to blame ourselves for it. This is when a person is ‘beautiful’ as in ‘attractive’. When a person is to make a choice based on this ‘attraction’ he /she has herself/himself to blame be cause he has not used his God-given brains to realize that ‘beauty is only skin deep’. As far as boys and girls falling for this, it is natural and a problem related to immature thinking. That is why, any decision must be made after a lot of thought when one makes the choice in young age, an age when hormones are running rampant.

I have never had the problem of thinking i was beautiful. I have been looking at this ol' mug in the mirror a long time, lol. I always heard beauty was only skin deep To me what's important is if u are beautiful on the inside.

Hello biswa2000, I know what you mean. Yes, i agree with this. Beauty has it's own problem, and also might catch more unwanted attention. But anyways, true loves foresees it all.

Hi getbiswas2000, You are so right, beauty can be a curse in many ways. Some relationships are started because of what a person sees on the outside. If the person that you are attracted to is physically beautiful, but has ugly ways from the inside, you should not consider yourself luck with this person. However, it the person is beautiful on the outside as well as on the inside, then you can consider yourself a winner. As the saying goes, "you can't judge a book by its cover." So, just because something or someone is beautiful, that doesn't mean that it or they will be your best your choice.

Beauty is somhing that we should be proud of. All of us have the beauty but this does not mean physically only. Beauty is not just in the appearance of the beholder but also in the inside. There are lots of people there who look for diiferent beauty. YOu have the point that beauty brings disaster to some but not at all. Sometimes it can be useful. I know of an example of someone who brought a thousand ship and that was Helen of Troy. But beauty can be useful in asking for assistance or help.

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder my friend. Sometimes we are so quick to judge we forget the entire subject at hand. Me, I well am a bit too trusting at times as I always a wait for the beauty within and sometimes that beauty is masked. At times the outer beauty can be so arrogant and swear they have it all except the beauty is ugly inside. So I try to always look within and make my assessments later.

What you say is true. Especially for women, with beauty comes danger. Because you are the center of attraction, you are the first target. Many relationships break when the beauty fades away. People who give too much importance to the appearance of a person will never stay after the beauty is gone forever. Such relationships are worthless and cause more heartbreak.

never forget that you get Thorns free along with a rose.nature has always given some advantages and disadvantages in everything. what you are saying is the disadvantages of beauty.if nature has made you a rose,thorns will come along with it,and its Free.no one could do anything.

Hi, getbiswa2000. Beauty can only be a curse, if it is misused in the wrong kind of way. It is only cursed when a person abuses the concept and perception of beauty itself.

I'm not beautiful by any means. I'm kinda funny looking, kinda deformed and limp. It's the truth. Even so I have never had a lack of dates. I had a classmate in college who was naturally beautiful. She was even more beautiful than the women in beauty pageants. She hardly ever had dates because men were afraid to ask her out. Girls didn't want to be her friend because they assumed she was stuck up. She wasn't. She was a really nice person and smart too. Poor thing. People didn't even try to get to know her because she was pretty.

A thing of beauty is a joy forever! That is the contention of a poet, and one that I totally agree with. But as in everything heap and in in our millenium world, beauty had been abused, too. The template look is the current craze. You just have to choose how aquiline your nose can get and how much botox your face can be restructured. It is difficult now to distinguish what is genuine and what is surgically enhanced. That is why beauty now cannot just be on the eyes of the beholder. Beauty, after all, must not be skin deep. It must be dermis deep!JOKE As to the owner of the beauty, getbiswa, sorry, I have no vanity problem. But you are correct, beauty can be uncomfortable at times, ha ha, I always am approached at for my looks. Double JOKE!

Beauty is not always mean good. People tend to judge from what they see from the outside. It is not really a good trend where people just focus on their appearances not something that is with the inner part. I had seen pretty ladies acting rude, criminals with good looking. Handsome or beauty they are still normal human, and that doesn't make them a special person.

aww that never was a big problem for me bcs im not that pretty ahah^^ actually im just a normal girl so not many guys look at me :) anyway is true that those that are so handsome or so pretty find sometimes lovers that want them just to show to their friends and everyone that they have a good looking partner. well this is very stupid. about me i dont really care if a guy is cute or not^^ actually guys i loved till now were never so handsome^^ they just were normal guys mostly^^ also you are right those that just think in being beautiful be jealous if find someone more cute than them bcs some just think they have their beauty and without it they are nothing. sometimes i wish i was more pretty but i wouldnt like to be harassed by some perverts like some pretty girls are. just would like that guys smiled at me when saw me :) anyway im happy that people also see my heart :) i wouldnt like someone to just see my face and nothing else mattered.

..well i guess that is how it is...and i don't think it is only applicable for those people gifted with beauty...there are also those people who have physical problems who were misjudge based on their appearance as well....back to the person bound to be beautiful, it depends upon how that person deals with the reality and he/she faces the consequences of having that gift...rather than referring to it as a curse, i would prefer calling it a consequences....but yes you are right, not all the time, beauty means good...it also has its downside...