Do they believe us anymore?
@raviteja_ravi84 (2620)
India
August 25, 2010 11:13pm CST
Life wasn't so complicated when we were kids. We had good loving caring parents who were with all the time to guide and encourage us. As we grow up they see a change in us and we see a change in them.
My question is:
DO THEY STILL TRUST US LIKE THEY DID BEFORE?
I mean when we are small and innocent they loved us so much. As we grew up their faith in us keeps on decreasing. Whenever they hear any talk about us from somewhere they tend to jump on us without believing or even listening to what we have to say. What do you do is such situations?
11 responses
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
I dunno. Maybe you did something wrong. My mom still believes in me.
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@mayur71091 (425)
• India
26 Aug 10
sorry, but i didn't want to comment on you.
Do you know Raviteja as we grow up our parents expectations to us also grow up, and it is common to all. I mean, now you are younger and can take your decisions by own, but your parents may be expecting something output from your decision which is exactly not getting. This is just an example but same or a like things happens with everyone in this life and that is how our parents do not believe in us as we grow up.
But still this drawback can be overcome, if you become more honest with your parents, once they realize that your ability then they do not want more from your side and the relationship becomes stronger.
I'll like to suggest every parents here "Do not expect anything, if you do so and cant succeed then this is so sad for you,but if you dont expect and succeed the it is a surprise and its more often best than ordinary happiness"
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
27 Aug 10
Well, that's a nice story you got there. And it's about someone i don't know, and frankly, am not sure existing or existed. I'm inclined to tell you that not all parents are like that. Maybe you're just looking at the bad side. Try looking at the good side.
@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
26 Aug 10
Poor parents, They don't know how to tackle these sort of problems. When you become young they get old. Over stress and tiredness. You are young. Now it is your turn to show love on them. Why don#t you excuse them. Help them a little in their house work. Every thing will be ok.
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@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
26 Aug 10
It is ot their problem..they are parents and throughout their life they thinks us to be kids and the try to protect us from any harm. And this is the reason that they try and jump into our world that we have created....it is not about faith it just that they don'twant us to get hurt and so they try to want to know everything that we do and are about to do.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
26 Aug 10
Hi Ravi,
I think this is what is called the "Generation Gap". The parents will always be as caring and affectionate as they were because for them, kids will be kids all long. But as we grow up our priorities change and due to this we start looking at things differently, we grow up to have our own identity and this adds to the problem. We feel that we need to think and live independently and this hurts the parents somewhere deep within. But despite all this, the fact remains that when you are in need of your parents they will be there for you - at least they are for me despite me having hurt them many times earlier.
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
27 Aug 10
It's not just parents, it applies to spouse as well. They will always choose to trust what others see or hear, rather than the truth from us. NO matter how deep trust is between two people, it's never deeper than the rumours being spread around. Much as they want to trust us, but their faith in us will tend to sway a little, even though they tells us otherwise.
If we are really innocent, we have to stand up for our rights and keep it strong, in order to prove them wrong.
@nfceleven (3)
• China
26 Aug 10
parents love their children forever
when we are the children, they care us carefully
when grown up, they also care us carefully, but we have togather at less time.
rememer from friend' thinking, she said that if we stay outside for work where is far away parents and go home once time for a year, and we only just togather with them for 10 years, then she keep clam.
in fact,they still believe in us anymore, just be in different ways,
@dccell (337)
• Indonesia
26 Aug 10
Dearest raviteja-ravi84 there is one saying in my country " if you ever want to find the purest lake in this universe it`s in your mother" " if you want to find the greatest love ever in this world it`s the love of a mother to her son and daughter"
they will still love us till the day after tommorrow or the day after that, if you ever find you parent straight to you it`s the shows of love doesn`t they don`t trust you , believe me if there were two doctor one is you and the other one is anyone out there , they will give more trust to you to cure their sickness,....
@jailo12 (332)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
it really depends on the situation ..if you have done stupid things before then your parents trust on you will decrease as you commit another mistake that would would not take effect anymore i think ..so be careful on your actions, sometimes action changes a persons thinking ..
@msabc1 (88)
• Hong Kong
26 Aug 10
I think maybe you can try to imagine this picture...
You're a good loving caring father to your children when they were kids, and now, your kids are graduating from schools. They don't tell you everything they did at school during that day like they did before...Will you still trust them? Will you still love them? Your answer you have could be the answer to your question too.
