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hi nicole. i dont think your baby boy is spoiled. it doesn't apply to 2 mos. old. Crying is just a normal thing for infants. It's their way of communicating with their mothers. They cry when they are hungry, when they need a nappy change, they also cry when they are not comfortable or they are in pain. Just tend to his needs, patience is a virtue as they say.

I don't believe that a 2 month old baby can be spoiled. Some babies need more contact with their mother than others. I'd get one of those slings that holds the baby close where he can hear your heartbeat but leaves your hands free so that you can go about your work.

Hi, Don't get yourself stress over this issue. it is pretty common for small baby to cry when we put them down. But try not to hold your baby for so long,or else, it will become a habit and you won't have free time to do other things. Get him some musical toys to play around while lying him on his cot,or let him listen to some soft music,especially for baby. If he has been crying persistent,there is possibility that his stomach feels uncomfortable,apply some ointment on his tummy and wrapped in with cloth ,it will keep him warm and his tummy will feel comfortble.

Hey, Nicole...relax,he's just a 2 months old, which mean it is his purpose to make a mother stressed. You should try to calm down, and hold him in a loving way, and don't panic or anxious. The baby can feel your feeling. So he'll be uncomfortable if you acting like that. Try to enjoy your experience as a mother, and after he reach 4-6 months old, he will start to cope in with you and cry less.

forgot if he is really upset after eating when you lay him down he could have reflux that makes it uncofertable for him. My daughter had it and I had to make sure that she sat up for 20 minutes after eating before laying her down and that helped out a lot. You could ask your doctor about it. She never really spit up but she did have pretty bad reflux.

You can not spoil a 2 month old baby. My daughter was never a big cryer but part of that was when she fussed I went in to see what she needed. In result she did not need to cry. It is a big scary world for a baby and he may just need more cuddle time than other babies. My daughter spent 3 months in the NICU (hospital) and it killed me that I couldn't hold her more. My daughter did love the little bouncy seat because she could still see me. She didn't use her swing for long as she would rather be on the floor. And at that age it is perfect they can't really go anywhere yet. But she hated being confined so the floor was the best for her. I would say at this point he is just being a baby, but if you are really tired and stressed that can make them cry more they feed of your feelings. So, and I know this can be hard, be as calm as you can and go with the flow. If you feel as though you can't get anything done you may want to try one of the slings so that you can do things and he can still be by you. Or try a toy that has a heart beat in it. That is very soothing for babies. As they get bigger they learn more and can do more but right now he needs you for everything. Good luck and know that you may have to try different things until you find one that works and they may not work every day. I know that it is frustrating but it is so worth it.

Not really, not that I have ever heard of. I remember when my great nephew and niece were two months old, and they were just babies, they would cry, but for the most part, they would just eat, sleep and poop. That's what babies do. It could be Colic, a lot of children have this. My cousin's newborn son had colic, and it was because he was a premature baby and his lungs weren't fully developed. He had a few health problems after he was born. You could take him to a doctor to see what is going on. You never know.

Oh, I have a 5 month old baby girl and she is acting exactly like your son.LOL I don't think there is such a thing as spoiled baby. They just want to be comforted and don't want to be left alone. My baby hates it when I'll put her in bed and leave her there lying alone. She'd raise hell, really. Or she's sit for awhile in her stroller but soon enough she'd start wailing again. I noticed that when I'll lay beside her she doesn't mind no matter how long we lay in bed. And if she's being talk to, she really behaves so well. No tv or sound or any toys can appease her once she starts looking for me. Just be with your son, then, he is not spoiled, he just wanted your attention completely. Babies are selfish, you know, but in and angelic way.

hi there nicole00. i remember my self when i read your discussion. I'm also a 1st time mother and my jullianne marco is now a 2 years old BIG BOY!!!.. after i gave birth to my son he stays w/ me for 2 months then because i need to go back to work so that time i transfer him to my mom's house w/c is very far from my home. my 1st two months w/ my baby is really hard but sweet times also for me. i remember that his 1st 2 months..the time he used to cry is much longer than the time he is awake. i don't even what to do that time because im alone.. all i can do is to dance and dance w/ the baby every time he cries w/c i observed not good because evry time he cries and i carry him he still don't stop crying unless i dance him and walk back and port on the whole house. can you imagine that? and i can do nothing the whole day because he knows even if he is sleeping if im going to put him down on his bed.. but when i came to my mom's house together w/ my baby at 1st ofcourse my mom also had hard time w/ my boy because of the dance step my mom needs to do also before he stop crying but little by little my mom change his attitude... from dancing step my mom change it into a lullaby song and a little top on his legs then he stop crying.. even their a little they already have attitude but it also depends on how we response to them and also how we trained them..goodluck :))

I do not think the proper word would be spoiled as I think your baby is just getting use to being held. You have to get the baby use to cry even a tad as babies are born with a very avid brain and they know since they can't speak crying will get them exactly what they want. I am not saying leave him cry for minutes on end. But perhaps as you put him down in his crib and as soon as he weeps pat him gently so he is aware you are still there.

It's perfectly fine for your baby to behave that way. I'll try to explain the entire psychology behind it. For nine months, the baby is inside you...listening to you and getting acquainted to your voice and tone. After the baby is out of your womb, he associates with you the most. For him, you are the best acquaintance. The outside world is actually new to him for quite a lot of time and you are the only one he has known and heard the most. When you are away, your baby just can't look at nothing and be normal. He needs something which can make him feel like he is not at a completely strange place. He is just two months old...so he'll need time to get acquainted to the place where he rests, sleeps or plays. He will need to get acquainted to his toys. They might amuse him at first and he might get used to them soon enough...but you need to be with him all the time so that he doesn't feel lonely. Once he accepts the things around him, he can be easier to handle. What you can do is make him rest at a place where he can see you and you can see him as well. Maybe while you are resting on the bed, you can make him lie down just beside you. When he has fallen asleep, you can put him in his swing. Get some toys which are suitable for his age and make him get acquainted to it. Play with the toy along with him. He won't take a lot of time getting used to it and next time when you put him in swing, just keep the toy with him...he'll feel better!

Training and discipline start from the day the baby is born. I hope you can get hold of the book "Baby Wise". It talks about how to build your newborn baby's feeding and sleeping routine (and more). It helped me a lot when I had my babies. One issue tackled there is on how to respond to baby's cry. If he is not hungry, not wet, not ill, then it's okay to let him cry for even up to 15 mins. If you always easily react to his cry, he will soon use crying to manipulate you/adults. That's what happen to toddlers having tantrums. They get use to getting what they want each time they cry so they grow up crying if they cannot get what they want thinking that crying will help them solve their problems. You are right in not picking him up most times. Your baby should feel content and safe even if not being entertained. Contentment comes when his basic needs are met on time, so it's important that you establish his routine; feeding, bathing, playing and sleeping. It's not easy at first but once you establish a good routine, both you and your baby will benefit from it. Remember, you are the one in control. I hope this helps. I enjoyed sleeping through the night when my babies were 2 months old onwards. I'm very thankful to my friend who have 8 children and shared her Baby Wise book to me. Blessings on your mothering role! It's a blessed calling. Enjoy it.

hello nicole sorry to say your child has arm sidrem what that is is when all you do is carry him around 24hrs so now he doesn't wont to be put down what i would do and it is kind of mean is put him in a swing and have him buckled in it and turn it on and let him cry it out for a few mins but if he is crying so hard he is going to get sick over it pick up come him down and then a few hrs latter do it agean and over time he will get used to it have you ever tried a boopy i swear by them it is a hores shoe pillow and when you are sitting on the couch put him in that and have him facing you so he can still see you in it this is something you can leave him in with out watching him though so if you have to get up you have to take him too