Do you put bandaids on your kids boo boos even when there is no scrape
@beutfulmama6701 (1718)
United States
August 26, 2010 10:41am CST
I find myself buying at LEAST 3 boxes of bandaids a month per child. There's the spider-man ones, Highschool musical tattoo ones, and Dora the Explorer ones, TWICE a month each! Each kid has there own likes and simply i feel the normal beige ones just wont do the trick.
If my 2 year old son falls down and bumps his knee even when theres no mark and it hurts and he cries he got a boo boo, i pull out the bandaids, give it a kiss an send him on his merry way. When my 9 year old gets her feelings hurt by a friend at school and tells me her heart is broken, i kiss her forehead while she talks, hold her hand, and then we put a bandaid over her broken heart, when my 2 year old daughter has a tummy ache or headache, we pull out the bandaids, ( of course after making sure it isnt anything serious.. fever etc.)we put one on her head or around her belly button, kiss and send her on her merry way.
ALL three of them feel so much better afterwards, i get kisses and hugs and even a thank you.
we will go out and its funny to watch peoples reactions when they see my two year olds sitting in the grocery carriage with bandaids, over there heads, cheeks, fingers, lip and yes even in there hair from bumping there head. I just simply keep walking.
One women stopped me the other day with a horrid look on her face. she told me i had such adorable children, i thanked her, she then looked at the kids and said, you got a lot of boo boos, what happened? my daughter replied "mommy did" the women was horrid, threatening to call the police!! i assured her that "mommy did" meant mommy gave her all the band aids after all she is only 2! you have to clarify what it is you are asking her!!! She starred at the kids for a minute or so, and i asked " do you mind?" proceeded to walking, she went in the other direction, well i was in the band aid aisle filling up on this months boxes of band aids and my kids were so excited! they started ripping off there band aids to make room for more. around the corner the women comes over to me with a sales clerk and again looked horrid. She saw my kids taking off there banda ids and to her surprise there was no marks, she gave me a nasty look and said " you just let your kids run around with band aids on for no good reason?" i started explaining that they help take away the boo boo. she said " you should really put your foot down and stop that, you make a bad impression on yourself, and it is such a waste of money" I put my new boxes of band aids in the carriage and walked away.
I'm sorry, but if putting band aids on my children make them feel safer and secure, if it helps heal there wounds, broken hearts, or simply bumps in the knee. I will continue doing so until they tell me otherwise they no longer need them. ITs my money who is she to tell me i am wasting it! and i was so almost excited for her to call the police so she could humiliate her self!! They would check out my kids an find ONE mark under ONE band aid on my daughters finger from her fingernail that she had a splinter in previously!
Seriously... some people just need to mind there own business, its not like i walked in there and my kids were all grubby and dirty , with ripped clothes and black eyes...
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7 responses
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
26 Aug 10
my friend kid is 2+ years old, they are active and bound to trip and get boo boo just scratches.I notice whenever , the kid fall down, he will look at the dad, the dad will said up up no cry cry,and dad will shake dust his own knee and hands, the kid will mimic dad and dad will said good boy go play play.Then the kid will smile and continue playing.i think dad is conditioning his kid to be tough and not cry on small stuffs.I think whenever kid fall they think they did something wrong and dad reaffirm is nothing big wrong you are tough and can continue to play.BEcause parents always said becareful don fall etc etc.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
26 Aug 10
I hate to waste a band aid when there is no reason for one. As a mother,, sometimes you have to bend this rule. if it will make my child's hurt, invisible or, not, I have been guilty of giving a band aid when i really didn't have. Only small children should be allowed to get away with this favor. Older children shouldn't have the need for band aids when there is no injury to cover.
@mama_len28 (56)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
i agree with you. i never liked the idea of putting bandaids on scrapes as small as a head of a pin eventhough my son asks me to. as much as possible i try to explain to him that it is worthless to put bandaid on small scrapes. what i do is praise him for, like, not crying even if he got a boo-boo, and he is a brave boy.
i never heard of putting bandaids on invisible boo-boos. i think what your children need is assurance that even without those bandaids on, with you around them, everything will be alright.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Sep 10
I don't typically use a band-aid for every "boo boo" that my children get. However, I will always shower those boo boos with kisses. I think that the reason that I don't use a band-aid for everything is because of the fact that band-aids were to be reserved for those accidents that involve blood. However, I am also not the kind of person that is going to judge you for the parenting decisions that you make. I just wasn't brought up to be a judgemental person either.
@aurorastorm (1131)
• United States
26 Aug 10
My son is a little older now, so I don't have to have as big a stock on band aids.
However my neighbor has twin girls. I see them almost everyday. They will always at least have two or three band aids on their arms and even more than that on their legs. Their mother buys them the kind with Princesses all over them. So I think because they have the princesses the girls like to wear them all over their body. Sometimes there is no visible wound but they will ask for a band aid anyway. So funny, but such a waste of money.
@pastigger (612)
• United States
27 Aug 10
I have a had a daycare for about 3 years and this was the first year I got the kids fun bandaids. But they all know that they have to have a real boo boo to get one. Cause if one kid gets one they all want one and I do say no or I would go broke. My daughter this year had this bug bite and insisted on a band aid well the last time I took it off about 4 band aids later her skin was irriatated from it so I said no more band aids. When they are doing harm they are not helping anymore. I have even caved a few times with the other kids to make them feel better but usually they are ready to play again by time I even get over to them, 3 seconds is just to long for them to wait LOL. I say if this is what you want to do that is your option. I would not do it and I usually just pass out a lot of kisses to make it better, around here no blood no bandaid. Hate to be harsh about it but they enjoy more toys and activities more than they do band aids and the band aids never stay on long around here anyway. It is nice that you have found something that works to make you and your kids feel better.
@lindaharding627 (1442)
• United States
27 Aug 10
I have been guilty in the past of letting my son have a bandaid even though he really did not need one. He cried that he was hurt but I could not see anywhere that he had a cut. I am currently working on getting into online sites to make an income so I have tried to cut back on the extra bandaids. I have been buying them at the dollar store with designs on them for him. I once took care of an older man who had the mind capacity of a young child and we bought bandaids special for him because he believed that they made him feel better. Unfortunately, he developed a kind of cancer and was in pain all the time. It was a small task just to get bandaids for when he was hurting. He thought that the bandaids would make the cancer feel better so we still gave them to him even though we knew that it really wasn't helping. He believed it was and helped him have a fighting chance. I miss that old man and his innocence that a bandaid would fix everything.
@ravensong62 (1)
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26 Aug 10
There is really no problem with putting bandaids on your children to heal non-visible "boo-boos." It seems a little silly for a child over three or four years old, but it's no harm. Also, If you have the money, you should spend it how you choose.
On another note, the lady in the store may have been correct to be concerned if they had several very obvious bandaids. This can be indicative of a problem, either in the parent's treatment of the child, or in the child's susceptability to injury. Also, it can be bad for uninjured skin if they are left on for a prolonged period of time. The regular, breathable bandaids are not so bad, but the plastic, cartoony ones don't allow the skin to breathe properly and so should be removed as soon as they are not needed.
I would recommend weaning them from the need for so many bandaids. My friend used the same method as you until her daughter was three. After that, she began putting a bandaid on any actual scrape or cut that needed one. If there was an emotional boo-boo or a headache or something like that, she would put a smiley face sticker on the back of her hand. At first, this was the "magic feel better sticker." Later, it just became a comfort thing that continued on into high school. The thing about a sticker on the hand is that lots of kids do it for no reason, so a kid with a sticker AND a reason goes unnoticed. The lady in the store would have thought nothing about it.
You do not need to feel self-conscious about making your children feel secure, but maybe it is time to get some stickers or other method if you are concerned. A kid covered in stickers is no worse than one covered in cartoon bandaids, and there are so many more varieties of stickers at local stores.
On a final note, though, it really depends on your kids. You may have welcomed the police coming and getting the chance to see her embarrassed, but your kids may have simply gotten confused and thought there was something bad about bandaids if the police had to look them over for marks. I hope that you and your children are well, bandaids or not!
