How to deal with negative people

@akn1961 (1034)
India
August 28, 2010 10:16am CST
Negative people can often be very mean and selfish in their remarks. The thumb rule is to learn to ignore what they say totally. 1.Before they start talking, it is a good idea to start the discussion on a positive note and avoid topics that even touch the border of any thing negative. 2.Do not make the mistake of asking them, ‘So what’s new or up?’ Chances are that there is a lump in their case and they are about to dump it all on you. 3.Emphasizing on all the good things in your life is a good way to deal with the negativity dumped by these people. 4.You are not responsible for the individual’s problems in life. Do not make them your own, even thought you are an attentive listener. Do not feel guilty about someone else’s mess. 5.If a person is hurt, chances are that he might want to see you hurt too. So, avoid falling for the net when he or she tries to get a reaction out of you by hurting/damaging you anyhow. Empathize, but be firm in telling the person that it is about time that they start being more positive in life. what is your openion/view in dealing negative people and experience?
7 responses
@TrvlArrngr (4045)
• United States
3 Sep 10
I have to deal with this every day at work. I manage a call center and have some employees that just are never happy, they are mean to others, they bring morale down, they focus on the negative and not the positive. I try to move their seat so they do not affect too many people, I talk to them to find out what they want to do in life, possibly this is not the job for them? I will tell them they need to get with the program and not be a bad influence too. I arrange fun days at work, give out prizes, provide food, etc. It's hard to keep them happy.
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• United States
3 Sep 10
I call these people - energy suckers - they remove the energy and positive forces around them.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
3 Sep 10
That is a fantastic list you have there. My experience says tha t people cannot change. THey have evolved a particular way of outlook , talk, attitude to others and whatever we say falls on deaf ears. We think thta there may be some positive effect on account of our positive interactions but they normally do not change.THe attitude must be curbed when they are young and this can be done only by parents in the child's impressionable age.
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@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
13 Sep 10
I find myself very tired when faced with negative and/or angry people. Some people are simply energy suckers, whether they are positive or negative but I find that some people who have nothing but negatives things to say drain my energy very quickly. I avoid this type of individual and behavior as much as possible. I just don't subscribe to it. I will leave the person to wallow in their self pity rather than taking it in. Never will I take on and own someone else's negative outlook. Life is far to short to be surrounded with misery.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
28 Aug 10
I would try to totally avoid them when they are negative. I don't want to come closer to anyone who try to foul mouth on me when they are sad or stressed out. I don't deserve such treatment though. I would rather stay away and try not to get any negative energy affected by them.
• India
13 Sep 10
dear akn1961 i am fully agree with you. you have written very nice article about subject how to deal with negative people is very keep it up. thank for sharing.
@jadmari (125)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
I totally agree with that. I usually don't feel responsible for the people's problem even though I'm a good listener. If my friend, for example, is too negative about things that is happening to his or her life. I would rather tell them to deal it in a positive way and see the good side of it. There are a lot of people who spread their pessimistic side. So whenever I can sense a negative vibration from the people around me, I don't go near to it because it's like a virus spreading from people to people.
8 Sep 10
I just listen to them but I did not follow their advise nor do not throw negative words to them. Because, even they are negative they worth to be respected, too.