Should I replace my children's Pediatrician?

There may be a reason for her telling you that. I'd first ask her what she meant when she said that and then go from there in deciding whether to change doctors or not. Being a doctor, she may be looking out for your best interest. Not that she's saying that you're a bad mother at all but maybe about how much your body can handle as far as another pregnancy goes. You should've asked her then so ask her when you go again then you'll know exactly what she meant and can decide accordingly.

Hi cream97. This is difficult for me to answer as I have no children but then again I can be objective about it and not too emotional. What I would do in your position is this; mention what she said the next time you see her. You are probably kicking yourself that you didn't ask her why she said this to you at the time? Is that correct? So, yes, that's what I'd do in your shoes. Or, alternatively, if it's really bothering you and you can't wait that long ring her up. Is that possible? At least you have two choices there. Good luck!

I don't think you should change pediatricians based on that comment. If that is the only thing that she has ever said or done to upset you, don't change doctors. It is very hard to find a good doctor. And I know that comment upset you, and for good reason. But if you can just let it go, I would. Take it from a person who has had to go through many doctors to find a good one. Once you find one that knows what they are doing - you want to keep them. You may have to overlook superficial things like that comment, but if she is good with your kids, you'll want to keep her.

If it was me, I'd would bring that statement up and suggest that she shouldn't judge you on how many children you have..That is between you and your Ob, not the children's doctor..If she doesn't acknowledge her statement as being "none of her business" then I would change. I changed my kids from a pediatrician to out general practitioner because of some tests they wanted to do to my kids that were not necessary..

Let's don't go second guessing or making assumptions. Ask your doctor directly about it. It is the only way to discover the real truth. One can not make judgment calls without all the truth.

Did you ask her why she said that to you? Is your daughter healthy? if you like her as your childrens dr. than I would go by your self to speak with her and than if you are still uncomf-able get another dr... good luck

You've been happy with the Pediatrician for the past 9 years. If I were in your place, I would have asked the doctor if there was a particular reason for her saying so. If there was nothing that warrants that comment, I would have taken offence to her statement. But since you've been happy with her as your kids' doctor, I'm assuming that she probably had a reason for saying it. And she probably didn't even realize that she upset you. A talk with be good and if she gets defensive and gets on you after that, you can speak to her boss about it....and choose another pediatrician.

Wait a little. Once , long back, my pediatrician also told me this when I was sick and he diagnosed that my blood pressure was on the upper side of normal.He also asked me if I had b.p during pregnacy and advised me this way. Probably she did not have any bad motive for suggesting this to you.Don't change the doctor unless she is inefficient andor ineffective.

Maybe she meant so that your toddler could get a little older and grow out of her tantrums and not having a baby would give you time to devote to the toddler's tantrums. Maybe she was worried you might rush into pregnancy and the toddler (or three year old) would not have her full time mom again. But, that's not the case at all. So she assumed wrong. You seem very capable to be a good mom. The pediatrician should not have said such a thing no matter what her assumptions. She's not your doctor. And, she's not a psychiatrist for children either. So why should she assume that your child's mental well being would suffer with the addition of a baby?

I could maybe see saying it in jest. And I could see saying it if there were a medical reason why you shouldn't have more kids. But other than that, sounds like the doc was out of line. If you like her as a doctor, I'd have a talk with her about it. If not, I'd definitely consider switching.

Hi Cream! I think this doctor's comment was uncalled for and has now caused a breech of trust which may or may not be healable. I had a similar problem with an OB many years ago. She suspected a problem with my pregnancy when I was 12 weeks pregnant and sent me downstairs for an ultrasound which indicated that the fetus had simply stopped developing since my 8 week check up. She wanted me to wait 3 weeks for a D&C and to admit me into the hospital for 2 days. I had 3 children to take care of and didn't want to wait so I called my former GYN and had the procedure done in her office two days later. I notified the OB and didn't see her again until the following year when I returned, newly pregnant with my youngest daughter. Her exact words to me were, "Are you going to go to another doctor again when you lose this one?" Needless to say, I found another OB. Your situation is different though because it involves your kids. If they are particularly close to this doctor, if they have adjustment issues and you feel that changing doctors would be stressful for them, then you're going to have to take that into consideration. One thing you might want to do is to call the office and leave a message for her to call you back. Ask her why she made that comment and let her know how it made you feel. She might not have realized that she upset you or she may have been having a bad day.

You have had a long term relationship with this doctor. If you otherwise like her, I would not replace her so hastily just because of her statement although I know it must have made you feel uncomfortable. I would probably ask her what she meant by that and let her know it made you uneasy. You might find she did not mean anything harmful.

No matter what your descision is, I think you should speak to the Doctor. If you change you should tell her why it may change how she speaks to others. But then her comment could have been meantas a compliment. You said she always tells you what a great job you are doing, she may have just meant since you are doing such a great job with the three you have you shouldn't take any chances on this changing. Granted this may have been way of line for her to say these things to you, but it is her first offense, talk with her, especially if your children like her and are comfortable with her. If you are still uncomfortable then change doctors.

HI, In the first place,get yourself cool down and only then handle this issue. It is not really a big issue and don't feel offend over the doctor's words. I believe she does not mean to hurt your feeling by asking you not to have anymore kids. As you now have 3 kids at your side,it is actually more than enough to accompany you.Maybe what she meants is that you have 3 kids now and you can consider not to give birth again since you have a wonderful family. However,since you feel unhappy with her words and you guys has been in contact for long,then you can approach her directly to get a detail of explanation on why she said that words to you.It is not wrong for you to do it since you are curious to know why she can said so. I don't see the point why you should change other doctor for your kids just because of this small issue. Let have a good chat with your doctor and get the things clarify. Takecare..

Do all of the above. Tell her boss what happened And then tell her how you felt about the statement and Then tell her goodbye. are you here in North America? If so Then go to Angie's List and report your experience so Any parents who have more than one child will be warned Not to go to her. Angie's List is a site where customers can warn others about bad service.I am livid. How dare she tell you this? I can see if Your doctor tells you with some sadness in her/his voice that because of your heath you shouldn't have any more kids but your kid's doctor? That's rud and uncalled for! Me, I Never wanted kids so I would be just as mad if a doctor told me To have kids! I think Everyone should know what happened. her boss should know, And most of all she should know how this made you feel.

I dont understand why she would say that to you if the family is all healthy. People change doctors all the time. I dont understand why its such a big deal about changing doctors. How big or small your family gets is really nobodies business except your and your husband. The only reason she should have advised you in that whay would be if your health would be at risk.

I would go with your gutt. All woman, I think, have instinctive 'gutt' instincts much as animals do. When we are in danger or something is a miss these gutt feelings start and it is up to us to either go with them or ignore them. This doctor was giving you her opinion. If you don't feel comfortable with this then I would go else where. Get a second opinion. See what other people that have gone to her feel. Did they have any similar problems with her?

I think that was pretty odd of your children's dr. to say that to you. I could see if you were at YOUR doctor and they said that, especially if there was a health issue. But for your kid's pediatrician to say that is out of line. If she is a good doctor, maybe I would ask her why she made a statement like that. Maybe the doctor was trying to make a joke and it just came out wrong. I have three kids and I remember taking the 2 younger ones to get their shots. My oldest son came with all of us in the room. He was running around like a crazy person and the two little ones were over tired as they didn't take a nap. The doctor came in and said "you aren't planning on having any more are you?" We have known him for years and so I knew he was just joking around because they kids were acting all crazy. Maybe your children's doctor was making a joke, even though it was in poor taste. I would definitely talk to her about it. Good luck.

It is up to you of course, but if you really liked her as a Pediatrician and she treats your kids the way you want a Pediatrician to me, I would give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe you complained that you were tired that day or something like that. If not I would call her and tell her you are thinking of switching because of what she said. If you are satisfied with her explanation or apology I would stay with her, but if you are not I would immediately start researching for another Pediatrician.

It seems like a very stange comment for a pediatrician to make. You are not her paietient. She is there to treat your children, since she is not your doctor it confuses me as to why she would say this. I would call and leave a message for her to call you and I would ask what it was about. If she has been your doctor for so long I wouldn't want to change but I would want an explaniation. This was an out of line comment. I hope that she will be able to call you back and clear this matter up and if not then I would find a new doctor. Possibly one in the same office. Good luck with this matter and let us know what happens.