How Long Do You Think You Could Be Generous?

ohhh my goodnessss... i know few people like that... its about a group of siblings who grew up in poverty... one of them successfully become financially well through hard work and perseverance... she supported her siglings... and when they had their families, she still supported even her nephews and her grand children... she is turning 60 this year and she is still supporting her siblings... i feel sorry for her.... i feel sorry for her siblings too... they weren't able to try to help them selves.... they learned to depend on one person to make a living for them all... i don't think i could be able to do what she did... i wouldn't want my siblings to become dependent... i don't want to be like them too.... ^_^

You're right in my family my other siblings tends to ask for help from my sister who's married and eventually rich. I know at times they get so demanding on asking for so many things that I know my sister's having a hard time.

My mum lives from social security I will ensure she'll be alright for as long as I can but if there are times where I can't support her then I am very sorry but no is no. I'll be receiving a nice sum of money and from that I am planning to buy a high end laptop and a basic laptop for my mum, so that she can decently learn how to get on the internet and enjoy herself while not being too worried about all the lunatic things that are going on in my country right now and in the future.

I am very generous sweetie. It is in most cultures that we tend to make sure your family is cared for. Today's life is hard and harsh, we can only try to help. But, i won't let them make a habit of it, though. TATA.

If I have something for a long time then that would be the longest i can be generous. If I have something then I should share what I have to those who are in need as long as that person really deserves to be helped.

while you can, because they help a family member is in trouble and out of work. Be generous and help our family and friends, but of course there is a limit, and one knows where to help, because if they are passed to the other side and try to count on our support for life, to wander and go spending money unnecessarily, to be cut, because it's how that one they are using.

it is this generosity that also pulls Filipinos down. too much of everything is not good. i believe that there has to be an end point. we also have to draw the line. like, if we are already married and has a family to support, dependence should not go on. we have to tell everybody in the family that help or support would be less frequent. if we are not decided yet to leave the responsibility, we have to stay single and not get married yet.

Ouchhh. Seriously, it is a good value instilled to us. Generosity, especially for our family. But everything I believe now must have limitation, not totally to forget them. You're right in saying, there is always in a family that will rely only for help from the other, and that was so sad. I realized now, specially when you're married, to prioritize your family with your husband. You're also building a new family, that will be your responsibility. You can still help your family before, but in important cases, but if you know that they can resolve, let them be. If you really want to help them, teach them how to be responsible. Now, if you think they really need your assistance, then that's the time for you to do so.

I don't see a time that i couldn't be generous to my family. After all, they are my family and i love them very much. i would do anything i could for them. i am sure they would do the same for me. If generosity is a fault, i am indeed guilty! Being generous does shelter me with the burdens of family issues sometimes. if i can do the task, i am willing. I always have time for family whether they are blood related or not. I guess there is no limit to how far my generosity will go with my family. I haven't come to the point of unwillingness yet.

For me as long as i have the extra money because i spent first to my self and family.

As long as I can. If I have the resource then I will help my family. If not then I cannot help them. We will just have to find other ways to help each other. So when I reach my retirement age I don't want to be a burden to anyone. That's why I'm saving now and will probably buy some plans for my retirement fund.

You are right, in Asian the ties is stronger and sometimes I want to get out of it all. I guess when my brother had taken to a wife, then he should be able to stand on his own, not relying heavily on his family to support him. What irresponsible brother I have.

I only help my family in times of need. I can give or help them with their needs not with their leasure. If they ask me some money for food okay, but for gambling, dates, or going to gym. How dare them to do that? Help those family members who are in need. It is okay to give some help but nobody should abuse one's generousity.

as long as i dont feel that they're just sucking my blood out of my veins..

Hiya candy, Don´t know really we have helped out so much but you can only give a certain amount till you begin feeling the strain of it all and this is what has happened with us as well. At the moment everyone is helping with their part thank goodness after all I gave up a good part of my life so they could work. Money can cause ruptures in Families like that and maybe the ties will be broken for ever. I really don´t know about other Families but we have taken a lot of strain and you do not get thanked for it. I am just relieved that we don´t have to do this any longer.

Our culture make us sometimes guilty and resentful. Well for me, I am for the needs of my family first rather than my relatives. Sometimes some members of my family stays in our house but it only lasted for a week and if there's some extension, well they pitch in for the expenses. Although I don't ask for it, they give it freely for they know how hard the budget these days.

I'll help a friend or a family member in their time of need, that will of course depend on my situation. If I just won the lottery, I could help quite a bit can't I?