"Are you the Kind of Person that could Forgive the Person Easily"

i would easily forgive anyone who did wrong to me and only if he or she asking for forgiveness. But for your situation, i would not do that. forgiveness is only for those who know they are really wrong and they promise will not do the same thing again. i would not keep all the bad thing people did to me in mind, but if we too easy to forgive for somebody's fault, they probably would think that they do nothing wrong.

Hi iyah10, it depends on what mistake he or she has done. Of course small matters that would happen every now and then easily in daily life, I would forget very fast. If the big mistake committed doesn't tie up with a third party. And the harm caused I still could tolerate most probably I would forgive the person if he is more than willing to make good what he has done rudely. Like the one you mentioned above is so serious for the indecent act might destroy the loving couple's happy and perfectly. If such situation happens to me I would forgive the person only if he really admits and asks for forgiveness for his malicious rumors done in front of all the people involved and promises not to recommit again Take care and happy posting

Hi, iyah10. I do forgive easily. But not so easily. If the person that has done you wrong, they should be asking for your forgiveness. If a person has not done you wrong then they don't need to ask you for your forgiveness.

Actually, forgiveness if for everyone who asked for it. Forgiveness depends also on the severity of what has been done. In your case, since it caused harm with your family relationship, it is only you who can decide for you are the one who knows this person. But since, she is not asking for an apology, even asked by your common friend, I think you should wait for her to apologize herself. If this could happened to me, well, depends on severity and my relationship with her as my friend. But...maybe I could forgive, but forget.. I'm not sure. It is real for me that if something has been broken, healing there might be, but there will still remain a scar, and this is true especially into a relationship. Another factor is trust that has been ruined.

Its very difficult to forgive. In a family, it is a must to forgive. We might find it hard to do but we dont have a choice but to forgive. It happened to me too. The person who should be asking for forgiveness is not asking for it and others have to do it for them. It happened to me and I feel like until now I havent even forgiven that person yet.

It sounds like the person who started the rumors owes you an apology, not their friend. However, depending on what the consequences were to your family, you may have a difficult time accepting their apology and forgiving them which may be why the friend is seeking the apology and not the quilty party. If you have to deal with this person, deal with them on a business type level not a personal one. Be mature enough to be civil to them but understand this does not mean they shouldn't apologize. You can forgive them without the apology, but that's up to you. Some people don't handle apologies very well. In the end, it's really not our place to forgive or not forgive, it's only our place to be responsible for our own actions and not dwell on the past. We cannot change the past, but we do create our future.

well, i think it depends on the gravity of the sin one had inflicted on another person. some mistakes are easy to forgive, some are not. and even if you say you forgive (because it is what we must be doing) you can not easily forget. the whole process of forgiving is not easy. it should start with the one who had erred you asking forgiveness.

I usually can't keep bad feelings inside me for very long. Forgiveness for another person does come easily to me. I don't like to have bitter feelings in my heart, especially for someone I care about.

For me in such i don know everything about in the bible but now I would not to hate much.

I forgive easily to those people who made mistake and who did bad things against me. However, I can understand myself, I know i forgive that person. But, I don't want to talk to that person. I am not angry anymore, but I don't want to talk to this person. It is okay to see, to be civil whenever we see around but to bring back those old times. I can't, Is that what we call forgiveness? Or Am I just being carefel? Am I still bitter?

Hi Iyah10, I think I am that person who easily forgive and forget. Most of the time I tend to forget whatever it was that made me angry in the first place even before the person who wronged me asked for forgiveness. Sometimes, I am even the one who offer my friendship back to a person who I believe would want to remain a friend but just couldn't muster the guts to approach me. I am such person because I myself when I wronged someone, I would almost immediately ask for forgiveness and I always want to keep my friend. I hate having enemies because I couldn't sleep well at night knowing I wronged somebody. It's easier to forgive than ask for forgiveness because you know easily you could give forgiveness but asking for it, you are not sure if you will be forgiven that easily. But honestly speaking, there were a few times that I can not forget a wrong doing even how much I wanted to and those times involved a grave threat to my well being, it almost killed me one time. Though I have forgiven the wrong doer, I can't ever forget what happened, yet I still want to erase that part of my memory so that it will not help if I'll keep on talking about it. For me it is better left unsaid, that way I can live my life normally now that I am no longer in the corporate world where it happened. I will not tell you to forgive as easy but I'm sure you'll find it in yourself to forgive sometime later. Friendships may not always remain but keeping a clear conscience or a peaceful thought can help you prosper into a better person in the long run because harboring anger doesn't do your health good. Have a nice day!

I am the type of person who trust a person so easily..., but when that person betrays me in any way.., I cannot forgive them that easily.., It will take time for me to learn forgiveness.., and if that time comes.., maybe I can already forgive them..but I will never forget what they had done..,and for me to be able to forgive a person.., I should be able to see that the person is sincere when he said he's sorry.., with your situation.., I don't think there is sincerity.., because the person involved is not the one asking for your forgiveness..=)

No way...unless he apologises in a decent way . For a serious problem like that u ve stated....i wont forgive unless it is sought for

I always forgive people. They might better themselves, but at least I can say I forgive.

How can you forgive someone who hasn't even asked for your forgiveness? Your friend(the one who started bad rumors) clearly needs to apologize to you. If she is that sincere, she doesn't need to ask another friend to ask forgiveness from you. You can always say "Yeah I forgive her" but it doesn't mean that you have forgotten what she did. As for me, I'm the type of person who forgives easily but I tend to keep those memories for a long time. It's not that I'm bitter. I guess this is just my personality. I forgive easily but I really find forgetting so hard. At least I have forgiven the one who asked for forgiveness. I do have learned my lesson.

People will act differently depending on the circumstances and the environment. I may or may not be able to forgive in every case, but I do always try to understand the situation and position the people are. Some times, the circumstances become so hard for the person to overcome or control. One may need more time. So, I try to understand the tough times the person may be going through !

I am a little bit soft with regards to letting people off the hook. If someone apologises to me, I will usually just accept their apology without ever asking any questions about what they did to me in the first place. Because of that, some people have got the impression that they can treat me any way that they like, and, to be honest with them, I don't blame them for having that impression of me.

Well if a person has caused a problem aswell as disagreements for you aswell as for your family,then i would never forgive them,even if they were to ask me themselves.I think that if they have caused trouble once,then they will do it again,again and again,always thinking that you will forget about it or forgive them.Do not feel guilty either,as you are not the one who is in the wrong.

No, I don't forgive a person easily. It will take time.

i love to revenge all the movies that says revenge is bad it's just a big lie it's good and helpful and no i forgive but not forget