Is it normal or its just that I don't have feelings for him anymore.

Hey Mac, Listen I Never want to tell anyone it should be over. However I am a realist my friend. Something is going on. Is there any possibility that he may be cheating or you? Im not trying to offend you but this behavior usually occurs when one is guilty of something. Also you two seem to be taking each other for granted. Why did you two marry? Out of love or something else? You need to sit down by yourself and think why you fell in love in the first place. Was it Love? I have been here and almost lost the love of my life because I was taking for granted that he'd always be here. We all get mad and say things we dont mean. NOT ALL THE TIME. I would take some personal time and really think what it is you want. No one deserves to be unhappy. YOU or HIM! If there are kids involved, dont think for one minute that they dont know something is wrong. No matter how old they are. Good luck. dl

It is normal for newly married couples. You were still at the stage of knowing each other's differences. you can never tell that you know your love one or partner unless you lived at one roof. It takes more years for you and your husband to adjust more and get used to each other. The only important thing is,let there be love always in your heart and never let anger lived with it. Talked to each other always and forgive each other too. Make fun or laughed at your mistakes and fightings instead of making it too hard or making the situation harder. Do not let small mistakes or misunderstandings go on for another day,but try to resolved when you sleep at night. you can work it out together and always pray to God that He will guide you and your husband always. Happy weekend

It is usually said that the period of adjustment in marriage is 10 years. Whewwww, in your case, probably this is impossible to meet. If you're always having a fight, hearing those mean and disgusting words uttered by both of you, your feeling is normal. But instead of asking why is is happening to your marriage, try to think how to avoid fighting. Try to analyze what makes you both that mad. Probably neither you nor him doesn't want to give in. Why not if you're in calm mood talk about it. Ask him what does make him angry, or discuss the do's and don'ts of your marriage. So you will understand each other. You're only starting and your kid is only more than one year old. I think you can still resolve it if both of you have the interest to work it out.

Uh-oh! This is the fear of any people who is into a relationship - falling out of love. I'm not saying that this cannot be fixed but there should be cooperation from both parties. The 2 of you must rekindle the love for the sake of your baby. Maybe the 2 of you are just burn out. Why not take time out? Leave the kid with your family and go out on a date to eat, talk and enjoy each other's company. Do you recall the last time you did that? Maybe it is time that you do it now before it is too late. Good luck to you both!

Maybe you are just going through the period of adjustment. And should not in any way, think that you've already lost that loving feeling. Try to talk to your husband when both of you are in a calm state, try to work things out for both you. When one is already hot headed and saying bad things, just stay silent, let him talk for as long as he wants, then tell him that you'll talk about it later in a more calm way. Don't just give up on it, I am sure newly weds and new parents go through that stage.

My point of view on this is that you both need to figure out what to do not just you or him. Have you tried couples counseling? That could sometimes help and at least you can say that you try! I myself have had a hell of a year, going through a separation, the divorce process (not fun) and now for the past 8 months after stopping the divorce, trying to work out our differences and still have been hell. I guess what I'm trying to say is, seek help cause it will only get worst, trust me! I know! When a couple start hurting each other with words it can be sometimes worst than physical abuse, it does a job on your self esteem on both sides, you need to look for a resolution to the main problem, sometimes in a marriage you feel like your not happy and want to leave and dream about a life alone with your kids with no stress, but it can turn out to be worst for you and your kids, there are thing that we dont think about at first, like how a separation or divorce affect you and your child? How would you feel if your husband quickly moves on to another relationship? How would you feel when you see another woman taking care of your child? When my husband and I separated I was feeling the same way like I was done with the arguments and wishing for a new life on my own, but didnt go as planned. Divorce or separation is not the end, is the beginning of a painful and stressful journey, trust me I know! That's why I tell everyone what I should have done, get help! And If it dont help then you move to the next step and hope to god that everything goes well, cause it's not easy at all.....

Many people go through this and as therapist, I have counselled such married couples. There is no easy solution, but one of the best things that you can do in your quiet moments is to sit down and talk about what is going on. Get rid of the idea of who's right and who's wrong - as right and wrong don't have very much to do with arguments. It is just blocked energies that are frustrating each of you. If talking is a problem, then it is good to seek out a counsellor and he/she can help you to solve your differences in a neutral environment. We don't really mean to hurt another, it's just that if something has irritated, we tend to hit back and there is no reasoning involved when we are angry. It won't always be like this if you address this difficulties now and agree to compromise on some things. There are no small things - yet everything is small when you have made up and are friends again. Good luck - _Derek

Mackenzie_jad228, People only change and evolve if there is a relevant catalysis to ignite the first step and a robust structure in place to maintain this change. If there is no catalysis, there will be no change. Even there is a change, without a structure to maintain this change, it will regress back into 'default mode'. If there is something that is affecting you, it is not something that you can resolve it by yourself. Relationship is called relationship because all problems are worked out between two parties - doing it alone is called compromising. If you decide that you wanna be 'nice' now, knowing that this will be an issue to you in the future - you are just sacrificing short term gains for long term growth. You need to talk about it - tell him honestly of the whatever that is affecting you. Don't hint to your man; a strong, obvious, blatant, shun hint is still a hint. If you are hinting, then don't expect real reply. Also, joking is not communicating. If you joke about it, then your conversation will always be cast off as a joke. Learn to talk. Learn to speak. Learn to communicate REAL feelings. Fix a date, tell him that you want to review and work on this relationship with a certain time frame to see it moving. Tell him that you want to know his expectations, ideas and feelings about this relationship, as well as you. Let him know that there is a potential issue from the way you see it. Put items on the table - make it conscious, not unconscious. Some people feel it's difficult to do a Heart-To-Heart talk because we might hurt our other half. But I can tell you that it is possible to talk real feelings tactfully. I can't guarantee that things will be better after talking, but I can assure you that it will fail if you do not or stop communicating altogether. Take care and have a nice day.

Maybe you married without few months or years of being engaged. Knowing each other better before marrying will be a big help. Its nice to be friends and be together before marriage. Or maybe you both dont love each other that much. You need to talk seriously so that you will know the weaknesses and strengths to both of you. Take more time to be togeher and communicate. Good Luck!

Hi mackenzie...I am not married so I really can't relate to this that much. If I base it on testimonies of most married couples I have talked to, some of them even married for more than 10 years...the roller-coaster ride of marriage is really normal. Or I mean, it's nothing new. Why not deal on the positive points of your husband rather than on the negative? Sometimes we do tend to dwell on our frustrations and disappointments without seeing the good areas that we already have. Nobody is perfect in this world and I'm sure your husband sees flaws in you too.Try to consider also the fact that your daughter will be very affected each time you fight. In every relationship, it is important to trust, and be faithful to each other. And most of all, have a Christ-centered relationship.

dear mackenzie_jad, how very sad it is to know of what you are experiencing at the moment. it has been two years only.. you will tend to ask yourself what has gone wrong? yes, why do you hurt each other? do you still love each other? i think a very serious talk is needed by both of you. you need to communicate in a much sober way. dont let anger prevail. and whatever you reach, you abide by it. also i think a greater help is needed, maybe spiritually? how about both of you getting into marriage encounter seminar? this is usually given by the church in your place. do find out. now is the time to do it. i wish you both well. ann

get over the pettiness of teenhood and move to where you are now... talk this out with your hubby... and if you can't meet at any middle ground at all, end the suffering... don't let your young 'un be traumatized... your baby didn't choose you for parents, give the young 'un the respect...

sorry that this is happening to you but you should say to him you dont like the way he talks with you. you are not happy with him and has been only two years already thats not a good sign. please talk with him and tell him to change his attitude bcs you are not happy like this. if he really loves you he must start to talk sweet to you and caring^^ or your marriage wont work :( please talk with him in a sweet way and tell how you feel. if he really loves you he will change his attitude^^

You have to kill the fire with water and not charcoal. The only thing that would stop anger is the soft and kind words. You have to choose the right words that wouldn't hurt both of you. So if you're about to fight, just smile and talk softly and stop using "killer phrases."

i don't know if anything that happens in life is "normal", but i know that people fight and try to hurt each other withs words like this all the time. there is nothing wrong with fighting sometimes. it's when it happens all the time over nothing that you will begin to have issues. I say sit down with him and talk openly and very honestly about how you feel. let him know that you want the fighting to stop and you want to start talking about what's going on with the two of you. I wish you the best.

Doing a little math i can tell you were pregnat when you married. I do not know how long you knew your husband before this marriage. But it sounds to me like you didnt have time to bond and be together as a couple before entering the time for baby. This would cause strerss on the whole family. Especially if there are loud arguments in front of the baby. Even if he dont understand your words he will be able to hear the tone and volume. I believe this happens to a lot of couples the start out the same way. Self included. Finding a sitter for the night and spending time as a couple could really help. Apoligizng and forgiving are good too. Try to keep the love you had at first.

Two years of marriage is far too early for love to fade. But since you always quarrel with each other it's hard for love to grow. Why things can't be simpler...why couples quarrel with such small things. I feel pity for the children. But since the love start to die you must find ways how to revive it just for the sake of the children. But then if the two of you no longer feel love then the family has already lost it's importance. Why don't you try to talk with your husband in a serious manner. Maybe love is worth saving. You have to talk to him and ask his feelings about you. Before it's too late.

Fighting in marriage is normal. In the US, research found that happily married people fight just as often as unhappily married people. So how do happy couples fight, and yet stay happy? It has to do with how you fight. You and your husband, do not know how to argue and quarrel in a good way. You both need help, and counseling on how to fight without hurting each other. If you do this, and learn to argue well, you'll have a better marriage, and a good family. If you do not, if you divorce, the research says you'll end up married 4 times. Why? Because every couple fights. You either learn how to fight well, and stay together, or you will bounce around from person to person to person. Not to mention your kids will suffer from this the rest of their lives.

All relationships are not perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. And some relationships are harder than others. You just have to remember the reasons why you married him, and put those thoughts first before you begin to fight with your husband. Maybe you can tell him this way too. And maybe look into some newly weds marriage counseling. If you really deeply know in your heart that you love him, but you're just not happy with him, then you know that you can make something work with him. But if not, then don't make yourself believe that you want him and do something better for yourself. Have a nice day!

We are also new couple, and we always quarral, but we just avoid to say rude things, and for I know his mind and his temper, he do not want to hurt me in his mind, but just cannot control himself some times, so I desided to just smile and listen to him when he is lose control, and after his is ok, I tell him why that happen, and what should we do when it happen, now I feel it is much better, to live togeter is much trouble then to love each other, but anymore, do not let these troubles change ur love pls, magnanimou is really important. Wish u happy!