is it normal to have gossipers surrounding us??
By genevy04
@genevy04 (793)
Philippines
August 29, 2010 11:57am CST
I don't know why, but why do I have this feeling that it's too normal to be surrounded by a lot of gossipers? Is it really normal at all?
Wherever I go, there will really be an instance that I notice that a person gossips a lot. I have neighbors who are like that, maybe that explains why i don't go out a lot and don't talk with them that much. Because I don't want anything to do with gossipers. But that's not all, because at my daughter's school, I've met parents, usually moms of her classmates, and mostly they also gossip a lot. They talk about somebody else s life almost every time they have the time to. So what I do is, I send her to school, and then I go home. I go back before her class ends..
Do you, myLotters experience the same as I do? Are you also surrounded by gossipers in your place?
6 responses
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
29 Aug 10
Hi dear,
There is a one time medicine for such things.
Gossip is one of the most intereting art for some people.
But if you treat them well, you can easily over come such things.
The method is so simple. Everyone can do it and make succesful very well.
The best formula is JUST IGNORE what they says.
For me it is a time tested fact and proven thing also.
When they make gossips with higher priority, I don't care only.
The main reason for making such things are to make us bothered and annoy us through their deeds. I never pay attention to such things. If it is spreading, and I am not a party to involve into it, just act as that I haven't seen or heard of anything.
And if, anyone come and ask about it, react the way you want. They will try once more again, but still you keep yor mood, they will really understand that their gossips will not be effective in front of you.
Slowly, and gradually everything will come down, at the same time they will fail for their further attempts. It is my experience. But you shoudl have the will power and courage to face whatever is come up. If you are correct and innocent, whom you cared of?? If your side is clear, let them say anything they want. They will try once, twice, thrice may be one more time. Sure, they will stop afterwards. You will succed. This is my experience.
Regards,
Thank-s
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
3 Sep 10
Hi dear,
Thanks for your response. Hope the problems got settled.
The best way to resolve such incidence are, just be busy with our own things and don't get interfere with other's issues and problems unnecessarily.
If they ask for help and if you can do, do it.
Be little possessive, sometimes it will help a lot.
Regards,
Thank-s
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
Yes my friend, IGNORING THEM would work best. I believe that. They are people who's got nothing to do with their life. They are bored, and so they talk about somebody else's lives.
I have heard some stories from someone I know, but really, I don't believe them specially if it is kinda negative. I only do listen to what they have to say because I don't want to be rude with them. It's like, their words goes in and out of my ear. I was never interested with gossips.
Thanks for sharing your experience Thank-s..
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
3 Sep 10
Hi thank-s
Yes the problem got settled already, and I don't consider it a problem anyway, it's just something that made me and my family feel irritated to hear about..
And yes, I don't mind them at all.. I get to our usual life and never ever bothered to think about them because it's worth nothing anyway..It's up to them if they have their conscience to clear the mess they built up. But nevertheless, it's not a problem for us anymore..
Thank you my friend!
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
29 Aug 10
Yes,that is normal becoz being a gossiper is an attitude/character of a person.
Same like,shy,boastful,humorous,kind,generous and the likes so we cann ot avoid gossipers too.
Just ignore those kind of people becoz the more you give them attention the more you are giving them satisfaction.
Ignore them as if they never exists.
happy weekend
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
29 Aug 10
You got the right description there jaiho. The more they get attention from us, the more they get satisfied.. If I find out that a person gossips a lot, I tend to stay away from them because I know they won't do me any good at all.. But what if a gossiper was already spreading really dirty stories about a person, and the more that person ignore that gossiper, the more that she finds out her integrity has already ruined in the eyes of the others? What do you think she can do about it? Is it still wise to ignore her, rather than confront her?
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
29 Aug 10
Only short minded person of unwise one will believe a gossiper.
I am the kind of a person who doesn't believe easily esp if the source is not credible.
Let those people believe from lies spread by those gossipers ,truth always prevails at the end,and let them eat their own words.
Only fools like those gossipers will believe them.
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
3 Sep 10
Good thing I don't cultivate relationships with gossipers. I think they'll just ruin my life sooner or later. I did have an acquaintance who was a mother of my daughter's classmate in summer class, which I can say has been close to me but then I noticed that she has a negative nature of wanting to gossip about anyone I may know, and I thought she wasn't really nice about that.
So what I did was, I distanced myself from her because I feel she isn't a very nice influence on me. I'm not plastic. I can't pretend to be a friend to somebody who has attitude I didn't like. I hate gossipers that's why.
@mlhervas (482)
• Philippines
3 Sep 10
Well, I think it is already inborn in most people that they love to hear gossips and they love to talk about other people too. Specially those who have nothing good to do in their lives, they are the one who are prone to this bad habit of gossiping. Media even promotes gossiping trough entertainment. It's everywhere, all around us.
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
3 Sep 10
Correct there mlhervas! Media really contributes a lot in the gossiping habit of people. I think it's really uncontrollable.
Talking about somebody else's life is really horrible, specially if it has become a habit already.. I guess it's a mental illness already. Gossipers feel happy talking about others and never even bother if they are affecting someone already by what they are doing. I just hope these people realize what they are up to, and think that gossiping won't even do them any good, and could lead to bad things..
Thanks for responding and happy myLotting!
@babyshei (97)
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
in the philippine setting, its very n0rmal to be surrounded with gossipers. In my place, people of s0me sort have already grown in numbers. Usually, people who gossip are those who got n0thng to do and take it as a past time. I try my best to stay away with them. So i dnt usually go out.
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
yes babyshei..do you feel that gossiping works like a virus which spreads fast and causes illness? I think that illness would be, throat and mind illness.. LOL! Actually I don't always go out in my place too. Reason is, why the hell would I go out, I don't have anything good to get from it.. I don't want to talk about somebody else's life just for the sake of my entertainment.. I mean, I can always be entertained in other ways without being bothered by a karma someday.
Thanks for responding!
@That_Guy (2)
• United States
31 Aug 10
Yes, it is normal to be surrounded by gossipers. nowhere that I go is there not a gossiper, I dont gossip, but it seems that evryone i kno just has a habit of doing it. like its an impulse or something. So dont feel alone, just be you... Thats wat i do.
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
Good thing you haven't been affected by the gossiping virus.. LOL! People gossip because it makes them happy. Happy in a way that they find out something negative about a person and they get the feeling of the need to spread it.. What a sickness!
Thanks for your advice..Yes even if I don't go out that much, even if I have no neighbors hanging out at my home, at least I get the privacy I need for me and my family.. Less talk, less rumor..
Thanks! Happy myLotting!