Should I tell or not? Your take on extramarital affairs?

I would stay out of it. You will not be helping anybody by stepping in. I would tell your friend that you want NOTHING to do with it including meeting his wife or lover.

yes it is not your business matter,but i can say that,if you were given a chance to change the situation or could help to correct which is very much wrong,then why not took that chance. You can talk with the wife or the lover who ever is much closer to you. You don't need to totally get into the scene but you can give your advice. If nothings happen,so be it,at least you knew you had done your part. Just give it a try.

Yes you dont know what going to do in this situation because it is between the two couple they have their own way of life but as you know and see his lover there is no given proof to prove them their relationship if in case you want to tell every thing you know. You can tell something you know in a nice story but do not be exaggerated in one scenario. I know that you can handle this in a good manner friend. If you feel that you are guilty of conscience not to tell to his wife about what you know then go find ways to tell in a diplomatic and nice way..Have a nice day!

If I were in your position I would talk to my friend and tell him that I know about his affair. This really depends if I am also friends with his wife. That would be the time I would tell my friend to stop the affair or I will tell his wife.

I think you should know your position in the situation. Sometimes getting involve in a situation you are not suppose to be is not good for your reputation and also as a man we should not bother others business. If your friend is happy with what he is doing then let him be but when he finally realized that he was wrong then that's the time for you to make your move. It's really painful to have this situation specially in the case of the wife of your friend who is innocent and keeps loving her husband faithfully.

try to weigh things then. what would matter in the end? would it be the friendship or their relationship as husband and wife?

If I were in your shoes, I'll just pretend that I don't know a thing. I'll zip my mouth and erase that memory of knowing someones dirty little secrets. As much as your wife's friend deserves to know the truth, its not really your business. I know feeling guilty will play a good part in your mind and heart, but if you were in the shoes of the cheater, would you want your friend to spill the bomb of your cheating ways? I don't think so. What goes around, comes around. Karma awaits for your friend. So just hope for the best for your wife's friend and probably even advice your friend to reconsider what he is doing , at least by that, he'll have an idea that someone can blow the whistle to his wife. So he'll better watch out and probably even change. Best of luck

You are indeed in a very tight situation wanting to tell the truth but afraid to do it. What if you are in the wife's situation and somebody knew about the affair of your husband yet they remain silent...how would you feel about it. There are many ways that you can alert the wife about his cheating husband. You don't have to tell her in person. Like for example you can text here and tell her about it. Or you can send letter or call the telephone...just say you are a concern friend. Maybe your being silent make this husband of her's become more a cheater each day. Think about that.

It's hard to decide if you should tell someone you know they are being cheated on. Knowing if you should have he right to interfere is not something we always know how to deal with. Sometimes our guilt of knowing is worse than the relationship of those involved. I think everyone deserves the right to know where they stand in a relationship. If you knew that someone was cheating and the person being cheated on found that you knew and said or did nothing, it could ruin your relationship with them as well. It is better to tell them about what is happening. Nothing good ever comes from hiding the truth.

I don't think you should tell his wife. Let them settle their problems. But if you really want to tell his wife then you should have an evidence. Without that it will be easy for your friend to tell your wife that you are lying. And you don't want that. So either you don't tell or tell but have an evidence.

i am facing the same problem like you yesterday my husband told me about his very good friend having an extramarital affair...and his wife is my good friend ...now i am confused and worried ...i didn;t know what to do...i don't want them to split they had two kids....though my husband tried to convince him to stop all this but we didn't know what he will do ????

diutay You need to take a cautious view in whatever you do in dealing with such tangled relationships. Your conscience will hurt you whenever you come across the involved parties and if the news breaks through other sources you might land yourself in trouble since you knew it first.

I think you should just keep quiet. The matter doesn't concern you at all. It's their problem. Let them handle their relationship problems. If one of the person involved comes to you for an advice then you can help.

just tell the truth.people have a right to know the truth even if that your friend.that person will regret to lose his/her wife/husband for the rest of his/her life.

The only time I would get involved is if it were my best friend. I would never keep a secret like that from her and would expect the same in return. Now if this is not your best friend then I wouild keep it as it is. You don't need the problems that could result.

You are in a very difficult situation diutay, because I can feel you are caught in between of telling the wife, or just ignore the whole situation. I also don't know what I will do being in the situation like you're in now.. But as a wife, I have experienced being cheated and it really hurt me so bad that it took me years to fully recover about what happened to our marriage. So I would suggest you give hints to the wife about what is going on, and the rest is up to her already.. It's up to her to find out for herself, your concern is only to give her hints that she's being cheated by her husband..

I have seen this also over the years and I don't get involved. A friend of mine got involved in a couples problems and ended up losing both of their friendship.