Do you think Starting a family at 28 years old would be a right thing to do?

Philippines
August 30, 2010 8:55am CST
Im still 21 and I was planning to build a family when i reach 28, do you think its a good decision, isn't it not too early or too late to start a family?
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18 responses
• United Arab Emirates
30 Aug 10
Yes it is absolutely ok to start a family at 28. but its too early to decide. You need to first decide of a stable career and then a family.
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
yeah, I thats why i was planning to start a family when i get 28 so that by that time i could have saved enough to give them a better life.. :) tnx
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
30 Aug 10
i don't see anything wrong with starting a family at 28. that is how old i was with my first child. Starting a family is a big decision to make. You have to do this when you are ready to take that step.
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
Yeah, im gonna do it a step at a time..
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
25 Sep 10
In my personal opinion, I believe that ages 26-32 are a prime age for having children.
@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
You're still young my dear.., setting a time table for your plans in the near future is good.., But you will never know what might take take place in between those years.., but 28 is a marrying age.., but if you become financially stable and find the right partner earlier than that.., I suggest not to wait that long.. there is actually an advantage in getting married earlier.., like at age 24.., you will bear a child earlier and with that.., you will not be too old by the time your child will reach her/his teenage years..=)
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
thnx alot. i am actually setting 28 so that i could become financially stable.. but come what may, i'll be ready for it..
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Well at 28 are you that mature to settle to a married life? It really is not about the age but the maturity that a person has which matters most when deciding to get married. There are people who are old but have the maturity of an 18 year old. No age will be too early or late as long as you are ready and mature enough to take on the responsibility of a wedded life.
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
There is no such thing as too early or too late in starting a family. Maturity doesn't come with age. I know a lot of couple separated even though they married old and I've also seen a lot of marriage being broken because they married too young. You see, it doesn't depend on age alone, it is a matter of trust, love, respect and choice to make a happy family last.
5 Sep 10
I think it all depends on your circumstances I was 28 when I got pregnant and felt it was the right time for my husband and I. We have only been together 5 years but with financial commitments etc there is a lot of stress put on the relationship and this increases when you have a child and additional responsibilities. It is definately not too late nor is it too early, depends on how ready you and your partner are.
• Canada
5 Sep 10
Honestly I think that whenever the time is right you will know, and that is the time that you should settle down and start having your family! It could be when your 28, or it could be sooner, or it could be later BUT when the time is right you will know!
@Jennlk84 (4205)
• United States
13 Sep 10
I think having goals for the future and somewhat of a plan is great. My husband and I have had a plan for our future as soon as we knew we were serious enough that we wanted to get married. I'm 26 years old right now and we're actually planning to start our family when I'm about 28. It's when we'll be in a stable home and financially doing great. We wanted to give ourselves some time to be newlyweds and to also save money. Life is different for everyone though. What's right for me might not be right for you and vice versa. If you're in a good place when you're 28 to start a family then go for it!! :-)
@jugsjugs (12967)
5 Sep 10
I do not think that there is any right or wrong age to start having children.I do not think that it is right for a person over the age of 50 to have children,as when the child is young or older that parent will not be as energetic also the parent could end up dying before the child.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 10
Hi, YOu are still young and still far away to think about marriage. But it is good that you have a goal in your life. Since you are only 21 years old now, it is time for you to set in with stable job and save money for your future. Just wondering are you still studying or working now? When I was at your age, I am still at my university and only when I was 22 years old, I graduated and started to work. The most important is start up with a good career,then only you will find a good partner and set up a family of your own. Good luck!
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
Hi! Dominic, i think 28 years old is right age to settle down already for as long as you are capable of supporting your would be family, you think you're responsible enough and mature enough. Getting married is a serious thing and you have to be prepared for the trials that may come your way. One advantage when getting married young is that, you can relate better with your children. You can take good care of them and enjoy their company for a long time. Getting married late has some advantages and disadvantages too.
@Royalty10 (196)
• Guyana
13 Sep 10
It is good to plan. However when we plan I think it is important to leave room for changes. 28, I think is a good age to start, however it is not so much about age as maturity. I think you can never really be prepared for the changes and disruption a child can bring to your life. However the more mature you are, the better able you will be to deal with the disruptions children bring to your life. When a child arrives EVERYTHING changes, believe me. The are wonderful but you will have more pleasure in their arrival if you are both mentally and physically prepared for them.
@flauee (92)
13 Sep 10
Your still young Dominic... its not wrong to have plans but just be prepared of anything that might happen ( have a plan B, C and etc..). i even plan to get married at 30 but hey got married at 27.. no regrets there... i have a son now, turning 2 yrs old this oct. pray for guidance... enjoy being young and single...
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
30 Aug 10
You are still young and it is lovely that you are trying to map your life out. However surprises are common in life. A lot might happen to you over the next few years. I think age 28 years would be an excellent time to have a first baby. Then you could have your second baby a few years after that. Then you would have been able to fit in two pregnancies before age 35 years old. One of my friends married at age 38 years old. Then she had a baby girl when she was 39 years old. Funnily enough she got pregnant again a few months after that. Her baby was born when she was 40 years old. I think she rushed a lot into just three years and she was getting old for having babies. Good luck with your future and having babies when it suits you best.
• Quezon City, Philippines
31 Aug 10
when i was 21 i planned on marrying at 25, but it didn't happen coz i wasn't financially stable. i'm 27 now and i plan to get married and have kids within 5 years *fingers crossed*. i wouldn't get married though unless my boyfriend and i are really ready. you don't want to risk coz your family could suffer. don't worry if you don't succeed marrying at 28 - i don't think it's too late. best of luck!
@Libertywu (136)
• China
30 Aug 10
Hi, Dominic, you are so young. 28 is a perfect age to build a family. But this is a long way to be 28. Of course, many things happen during 7years. Maybe plan will change.
@sjhaeki (795)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
i don't think there's nothing wrong with starting a family at 28. but financial stability would be a great factor in starting one. whether its early or late, as long as both parties are ready to start one then it's all right to have one.