Children make up stories
By kristeena
@kristeena (358)
Philippines
August 30, 2010 1:15pm CST
There are children I know who tend to make up stories just to get in. Just like the friend my daughter, she constantly tell false stories. At first, you'll get amazed when she talks and tells something that she can be proud of. But as a mother, you will know that something is wrong with this child. I'm afraid that my children will get influenced by her, so I set some limitations with them. They get angry when I tell them that their friend is a liar and as much as possible keep away from her. And then, one day they found out that everything that their friend had told them were not true. But you know, children do really have the purest hearts... they did not get angry at her. They promised to me that they will lead her to reality and remind her always to say the truth.
I don't know if this is really a psychological problem of the child because whenever she learns that someone is higher than her she doesn't feel good about it and then she'll start making stories.
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10 responses
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
30 Aug 10
It depends on the child and it sounds like this child is one that tells lies for attention. Then you have ones that make up stories because they like to and that is where authors and play-writes come from. I think it was good that your children is keeping this girl accountable for what she says...
@kristeena (358)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
You're right, she needs attention from her busy parents. She's always with her nanny whenever she goes to our place. They're still friends but as children they always say, "liars go to hell, don't forget.."
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
30 Aug 10
Children who create such lucrative stories has to do with their environment. By this I mean the people in their surrounding, TV programs they watch and well not so great other friends as well.
It is unfortunate but they begin to loose a sense of reality for a bit and truly can convince themselves they are telling the truth no matter what.
You are doing the right things by explaining to your children right form wrong this way they can make their own right choices in the future. Great job.
@kristeena (358)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
Thanks! It is better to do it right from the very start. I am also concerned with their friend whom I think needs attention from her parents.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
31 Aug 10
Yes, I think it’s a psychological problem. There are many kids just like the type you’ve mentioned. I think its mainly their parents who are responsible for this pathetic situation. For one, they unduly pressurize their kids to achieve the impossible, they compare their kids to others and make their own kids feel unworthy if they don’t achieve good marks in class…all these forces the kids to lie just in order to impress their parents and to feel good themselves. I really feel sad for such kids coz once they grow up, their habit stays with them and then others laugh at them or avoid them for being habitual liars.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
31 Aug 10
It seems to me she just has self esteem issues and that is why she is making up the stories. I get this by your last line of "someone is higher than her she doesn't fell good about it and then she'll start making stories." That makes me think that she just doesn't have many friends, or the ones she does she feels is more popular then her. I am sure she just needs to know that she is perfect in her own way and it doesn't matter what one friend might know that she doesn't or vice versa.
@laniekins (4579)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
I don't believe that all children don't lie, this one of the example that they do lie.
@pjdirect (15)
• Australia
31 Aug 10
Kristeena, I have a 13yo daughter and a 10yo boy and a 2yo daughter do not be alarmed when children tell stories it is what they see and hear from others really a parent should not talk as we lie to our kids till they are old enough to know them selves ie : santa .. easter bunny ..tooth fairy .. where do baby's come from (stalks) hmmm mum what were you and daddy doing on the bed hmmm (wrestling) lol ask my boy and he has done everything we call him(knowledge)kids are great and some kids brains wander more than others ..most of these kids grow to become brilliant due to letting there mind expand and believe that they can become and do anything
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
[b]Hi Kristeena,
This situation I think has something to do with the environment of the child, it maybe from her family and the attention she is getting. A child behavior would really reflect his/her family on how he/she acts in the public. If a child somehow behaves like you said, and you have the chance of talking to her, it's better to guide her as well to become a better child, and yes, tell her about her mistakes in a way that a child can understand, because most of the times child have different way on how they approach of how you talk to them. You have a good children because when they find out that their friend is somewhat a liar, they didn't get angry with her, in fact they wanted their friend to be a good person and they wanted to lead the way into becoming one, be proud of that, that you have children like them, and don't forget that they also need you to give them advices for their friend to become a better person....
Happy Tuesday! God bless!
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
I can say that the child needs attention.
She maybe lack of care and creating stories is her way of getting the attention that she needs.
She is still a kid as what you've written,so,she doesn't know totally that what she is doing is wrong,but,it should be corrected too so she might not get used to that kind of attitude.
You can help her so with your kids,she needs it to make her a better person as she grows.
Have a good day always
@myswirlyagelessmind (379)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
Oftentimes children make up stories as an emotional escape. If they're not happy with their lives, they try to create a version of themselves that would meet their standards. I like to think that they outgrow it at some point and I'm very careful about labeling them as liars because labeling has long-term effects on a child's psyche. However, whenever I spot a kid telling a whopper to another kid, I try to make the listener form his own conclusion about the story and help him understand what perhaps motivated the teller to say such things. When kids are guided emotionally and intellectually, they become more compassionate and eventually, they're the ones that come up with creative ways to help a child whose insecurity drives him to tell lies.
