It is Better not to love him the way I used to...

It is possible if the partners do not treat each other badly.Be it the man or woman, if one person is not allowing another person his/her personal space[everyone needs it] [the husband torutues the wife or the wife angs him]then it would beocome stifling.If your partner does not come your way and interferes in your work everyday and is a simple midned soul this staying togetehr as friends is definitely possible.Just because a person is married to another it is not required thAT the person must always think of another to the exclusion of anythiNG else.He /she can have his/her own likes and hobbies and activities that would nto intrude with the other. The love you feel in the initial stages mellows and matures into understanding, a willingness to live and let live and this is how the friendship develops.

I think your partner is right. Relationships don't last because like everything else there nothing permanent in this world. It may change from time to time but it doesn't mean that the change would be for the worse. There are successful relationships that we see everywhere and its success depends on the couple. In time they could love each other more, they could be indifferent or they could end up in separation. Relationship is a constant tug of war of emotions between the couple and at the end of the day its success or failure would depend on how much effort each couple put into their relationship. Going back to your question on whether it is possible for a couple to be just friends even if the relationship breaks up yet still be living together, i think it is. There are a lot of people doing that already. My in laws are a living example. They just stay together but the bond is no longer there. I guess it boils down to your own happiness, if either of couple won't pursue his or her own happiness then that's the best option.

hello eureka, I don't know. it seemed to be a pretty hard situation that you're into. i do remember Jano Gibbs and his wife having a roller coaster trouble in marriage. I've heard, even if they're Married, they're just acting like friends now. i don't know. i think for me, it's stupid, if am gonna have some i make sure i don't go to that level. that would hurt me a bit more.

I know several friends that can do this, I personally no matter how much I would like to know I can't. Reason is my emotions are involved therefore it would be hard for me to know his progress without him. I believe perhaps you can continue this mentality in order to satisfy some hurtful emotional feelings. Best way to know to know if this can work is if you are no longer together as being together means you have to try really hard to separate those loving emotions and how is that possible when he is still there. Good luck to you hope all works out either route you opt for.

When you love someone.. you should give it a hundred percent.. Its either you love in whole or full , or you don't love at all... If you give 50% of your love, I guarantee you that you will still get hurt.. Though we scrimp on love, our expectation overflows, thus we still hurt deeply.. I hope you get what I mean.

...i believe that is very possible, but of course, both parties should agree and there should be no hard feelings...will in your case, i'm the type of guy who give everything, I give everything i have for the sake of the one I love..if everything else fails, I lost nothing, but at least I know I give my all and tried my best...loving is always accompanied with hurting..so if you wish to love, be prepared to get hurt, no matter if the result is unfavorable to you...

it's kinda awkward for me to live in that kind of situation. for me, i rather live apart than pretend to still be in love with my spouse.

Hello eurekafemme, I can not say much here because i don't know how it is going between the both of you. But, i can only say, don't keep yourself or your partner hanging on, i mean like the future isn't sure and all that. It hurts when we don't find each other matching and if you boyfriend is saying he is not sure about the future then he is not strong with you. That sounds sad, but it is the truth. I would not tell you to leave him, but just be careful. You are hanging on, and he is keeping you hanging on. The sad thing is he is not sure himself so i would not tell you to make the first move, but let him know how you feel about this. You both have to be open to each other about this. And if you ask me about being friends, i am not sure about that. I would not want to be friends with the person i broke up with, i don't know. It would haunt me of the past.

you want to be just friends with your husband? then it means you dont love him anymore i guess. love must remain powerful no matter how many years pass by^^ both need to do things for it to last^^ but if you are not longer happy with him you should find someone else. and sure you can be friends with him. but stay in a relationship without love we must not do.

Well I think most of the relationships in general are like that. Maybe you can feel the sorrows and pain because there is so many problems that is trying to weaken your relationship as a couple. It depends on what is the problem. But one thing I assure you that good communication is the best remedy for that. You should talk to him and asking him what is the problem. But if the situation has gone into worst and you think that you can no longer hold on to the love you had for each other, letting go is the best solution. But being friend after that is so hard but is really neededbecause of the children. Their too young for their lives to be compromise by our mistakes. So we must try the best we can to make friends with the father at least you will still have a good relationship in the eyes of the children. And as what i said before, time can only heals when the hurt is too much.

It is definitely NOT worthwhile pursuing a relationship in any form where you are always on the receiving end. A true relationship is based on mutual trust and love and not just tolerance for everything and anything

well, it is really bad for couple to hurt each other, and also, you have insisted to be together although it was full of sorrows and pains, can i take it as you still love each other and do not want to give up this relationship? then, you do not need to do anything else, but just sit down, open your heart to each other and solve all the problems between you, then maybe you can get different answer. btw, i wanna say if you want to love, then please open your heart, otherwise you will never ever be happy.

well, it is really bad for couple to hurt each other, and also, you have insisted to be together although it was full of sorrows and pains, can i take it as you still love each other and do not want to give up this relationship? then, you do not need to do anything else, but just sit down, open your heart to each other and solve all the problems between you, then maybe you can get different answer. btw, i wanna say if you want to love, then please open your heart, otherwise you will never ever be happy.

well, it is really bad for couple to hurt each other, and also, you have insisted to be together although it was full of sorrows and pains, can i take it as you still love each other and do not want to give up this relationship? then, you do not need to do anything else, but just sit down, open your heart to each other and solve all the problems between you, then maybe you can get different answer. btw, i wanna say if you want to love, then please open your heart, otherwise you will never ever be happy.