Washing dirty linen in public? ?

Hi, First of all, please don't bold everything you write in here. It is disturbing. Secondly, I think this friend of yours has a disturbed mindset. She is having some serious problems in her own personal life. She is facing dilemma in making some vital decision. She is feeling insecure and unstable, and probably unsafe. I think she should consult some therapist or open up to one of her friends whom she really trusts. If this beliefs she has are traditional then she is in a bigger trouble. These ideas that she is having are all unfounded and illogical. She is superstitious and also to some extent egotist. Moreover, she is paranoid to every interference that was ever made on her personal life. What brought about such an abnormality in her, is a matter of further inspection. Thanks. God bless you

Discuss private issues, yes. But in my opinion, the only way it would have a disastrous effect on a relationship is if a person got really bad advice, and followed up. But it is up to us to weigh the value of everything that is said to us, and determine whether it makes sense in our situation. And that's true in personal friendships as well as online friendships.

Hullo Kiran! Someone had raised a similar point long back about how people tend to discuss issues that ought to be private . Now, many of us do not do this.But Kiran! I feel that we can look at this issue with a slightly sympathetic eye. Not everyone is blessed with a good confidante, a good friend, any person who she/he feels like sharing some difficult issue with. When this happens and when a person is in a dilemma, the person shares thIS here. He/she is sure of the anonymity of the person .If some person with a weird user name as AABI324 tukkabukka discusses something , who is to know whether it is Kala or Kiran, a next door neighbour or a distant cousin.If your friend does not feel like participating in some intimate issue that ought not to be discussed in public she has the choice to refrain from doing so.THere are other discussions for us to participate in. Mylot is agood forum which has given me friends. I would not have known you had not been for this forum. I am happy to have so may friends and a healthy unobtrusive friendship.

Your friend makes a very good point as many of us in are social-site infancy can accidentally mention something online which is private that comes back to haunt us at a later point. Once you've done it once and had the issue of something you said coming back to bite you, you certainly don't do it again. As for getting views from others on personal situations well I can see how it could lead to issues in relationships, but no more than getting opinions from friends offline.

I don't know about that. I've discussed several personal things in here just to see what people thought. I was still on the fence about my decision and needed to run the right memory clips in my head to reinforce my decision. The responses were well thought out, understanding and supportive. That should not have been as much of a surprise to me as it was. I am coming to trust the people in here more and more. Yea mylot!

It's up to everybody to choose if they want to share their initmate moments in life. IF she does not like it, she can choose not to respond or start any discussion regarding to that topic. Mylot is a sharing forum, whereby we are free to share what we think it's right. Since none of our offline friends are able to help with some problems, won't be it better to have some solutions from mylot? After all, it's better to have more solutions compared to none at all. We are just here to share our views and opinions, but they will only take it as an advice, and decision is entirely up to the poster.

If someone does not care about discussing their private life in Mylot then its their choice, we don't need to say anything. Some people want to get solutions for some personal problem or want to get suggestions about things. There is nothing wrong with it, its completely a personal choice. Moreover if someone don't want to use their real name they can just use any user name and discuss their personal issues, nobody will recognize them. I don't think your friend had a good point here.