Why do I need to shout???

dear bodhi, i cant stand someone who likes a loud conversation where all the rest would come staring. i find it embarrassing because its like fighting and i am at the losing end because i speak just enough.. never loud. my impression for people who are loud is that they are showy, lacking in breeding and etiquette. i would never resort to shouting or screaming kind of conversation. i would definitely stay away from those doing. have a nice day. ann

Yes Bodhisatya! This ought not to be done and is not proper etiquette. WhY should we be forced to listen to unwanted intimate stories of hitherto unknown parties? It is embarrassing. Regarding this 'shouting' to assert oneself some people think that shouting would quell a person. People like us would hesitate to shout back and this is how they think thye can get their way.THere are others who are unsure of themselves and they think that shouting would make people listen to them and they seek refuge in their own loud voices to cover their inadequacy in something. Soem people shout inn desperation to make a point heard little realising thta firmness would go a long way. I tend to use a loud voice very rarely when I am in the midst of a jolly get together where we sing in a loud voice and have fun. Otherwise I am not too bad. I do feel uncomfortable if people shout and speak in an extraordinarily loud voice. But I do not come across too many here in this place.

Hi, bodhisatya. I have been around many people that are like this. I don't like being around them at all. They are too loud and I don't want to hear what they are saying to me. Or around me. I prefer to stay as far away from them as I possibly can. I don't want to hear them yelling in my ear. These type of people tend to shame me from time to time. I don't know why they can't just lower their voice to a minimum level. I mean I am not far away. I am so close to them!

It is good education to shout when you are going to say something stupid or similar and also to not talking loud. It depends of the people...

Hi bodhisatya, I figure it is easier to pierce others' ears with high decibels, and annoyed people enough to make others turn their eyeballs towards the yeller. Many people like to talk loudly on the phone in public, we can't determine whether it's due to poor reception or they really have a loud voice. I have a colleague in the office who is always very loud, when he calls someone on the phone (in the same office), we can hear both sides of the conversation!

yup bodhisatya, i do notice the loud speakers when they are around. One can hear them a mile away before one have sight of them. Some are inherently loud and asking them to pipe down is almost akin to telling them not to talk. I notice some tour guides around town herd a certain nationality group of tourists and mine, what a din they make. At the sitting area to the eating area, sometimes they sound as if they are quarrelling. I think it is rather cultural to a certain country too besides being inherent. It would be interesting for them to go to a museum or a library to see if they do rein in their vocal prowess. Does one have to be LOUD to be HEARD?

My roommate's family is loud. I guess growing up on a farm (her mom) they had to learn to be loud. Also, they are pretty good sized folks. So, in the mornings when the roomie and I are talking, I'm always trying to make her keep it down so she doesn't wake the other roommate - tho she hits the snooze so many times I sometimes wonder why I bother...

yeah people like that really suck. calm down really am i'm listening. there's no need to yell.

hi bodjosatya oh I live in a retirement center where we have p eople from forty to ninety six, and there is a lounge in front dubbed the vistors lounge. well sad to say some are a bit deaf others just like the television on LOUD so you get visitors a nd you bring them into this cacophony of noise and find each other shouting just to be heard over the old reruns of some really noisy Western.At first its just irritating, themn you get asked a personal question and You are shouting, well I was not exactly retired I was laid off. now the old duffers are really intereested something juicy here. Hatley got fired well!!!!!so now in the interests of sanity my visitors come to my room, or we talk outdoors in the patio.

If one does it habitually, then it would be annoying to anyone who's always been with that person everytime they will be having a chat or conversation. But if one uses her loud voice to stress out a point or to convince a person, we cannot actually call it yelling or shouting, but stressing out...