It's Better to have Loved and Lost than never to have loved at all.
By incus99
@incus99 (1083)
Philippines
August 31, 2010 10:03am CST
"It's Better to have Loved and Lost than never to have loved at all".. Do you believe this Cliche? I have believed this since, every time I have doubts with love, I always go for it and make the most out of the love relationship... I made a lot of mistakes in my past, but I always give the effort to make the whole thing worth while and memorable for both of us.. Because I'm not as critical in discerning true love.. I ended up with 37 women in my lifetime.. My heart bleeds I have to hurt each one of them in each break up...the only consolation I have, I ended up with the girl of my dreams... we are married for almost 10 years now... I have always adored her as a perfect wife... What do you think? Should you go ahead on love on impulse? Is infatuation enough to drive you through all the way? Have you regretted that you haven't proceed before?
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24 responses
@BlueAngelRS (2899)
• Canada
31 Aug 10
I'm with you on that syvels I'm still in love with a man that has hurt me in more ways then I can explain but I would rather loose the good him and the man I love then to never know love.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
3 Sep 10
indeed, otherwise one will never know life -- experience and the feelings and lessons learned...
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
2 Sep 10
I also believe that it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all but as one grows and has had one’s heart broken more than once one should take more caution not to hurt and be hurt. Having said that to close off completely from love is a sad way to live and if you had done that you would not be where you are now, happy and in love! I think the bottom line is not to shut off from love altogether but to take care not to react on every impulse!
@lonmar71 (89)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
loving a person involves taking risk and getting hurt in the end if the relationship won't work but it is worth giving a try. it is not good to be always on the safe side. how would you know if the relationship is worth it unless you give it a shot and you'll save yourself from asking the question what if. so go for it.
@abitosunshine (765)
• United States
1 Sep 10
Yes, I do feel this old cliche speaks truth. And yes, I've experienced loving and losing a time or two in my life. It has been well worth the price of a broken heart and the feeling of loss, although it has also caused me not to love as easily and as deeply, I think. I'm just a bit more careful in sharing my whole self now, and that is the negative side of having loved and lost.
@Jailey (107)
• China
2 Sep 10
So happy that u have found ur true love, and about love, I still believe, and to tell the truth, the first time I lost it I really did not trust it, but after the day I met may true love, my husband, I know love is true, and only love can cure the hurt before, And I believe the lost before just because that is not my true love, Wish everyone happy everyday.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
1 Sep 10
I think I’ll agree with this partially. Its definitely sad for the person who’s never known love…it’s the most wonderfully complex relation one can experience and makes life worth living. However, I really don’t think it’s a good idea after you’ve lost your love…the memories that come back to haunt can be very disturbing and depressing. Even with infatuation, there is some connection that stays back long after the relation has ended! While I've never regretted any of my infatuations, I do sometime think of those guys...like what are they doing now, how they are...what would life had been like if I could have married any of those guys...
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
I would agree to this saying. It is better to have loved someone, truly in your heart - to value other people other than yourself or your family than not having the experience. When you have this feeling for someone, a husband, a boyfriend, you get to become another person... a better you. i always think that when people fall in love, they become someone that they never thought they can be.. like some better themselves have successfully made its way out right. :D Yeah, it should really be a good thing to fall in love, and to experience it even if it has not lasted as you would have expected.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
i think it is true to some but not to all. it's a comparison actually. but some others believe that loving someone is not the 'be all'. they believe they can be happy even without somebody to love.
as to your questions:
love on impulse is always wrong for me. love is a strong feeling developed within a span of time.
infatuation is not love. it can be the beginning. and yes if one is infatuated they can make it to the next level.
i didnt have regrets about decisions in love.
@JasperTore (1275)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
I agree with you about what you have said. I have a relationship before. But it was not a serious one like yours. We have been together for almost 50 days only. I never regretted having that relationship broken because I know there will be someone better that will be part of my life and I know that I am not the best man for her. Its better to have been loved and loved than never experience both. Life must go on no matter how painful our past has been.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
1 Sep 10
37 whoa, I have to say you have loved plenty...kidding. 
I suppose for the sake of discussion it really depends, some people are so hard nosed that they truly will say they do not need love, or is it perhaps because they are scorned somehow.
I would have to say for someone never to have loved, if even it was lost it has to be a great recollection to recall the precious moments.
As for those that say better to have never love, apparently are looking back at the bad-side of the relationships.
I suppose for the sake of discussion it really depends, some people are so hard nosed that they truly will say they do not need love, or is it perhaps because they are scorned somehow.
I would have to say for someone never to have loved, if even it was lost it has to be a great recollection to recall the precious moments.
As for those that say better to have never love, apparently are looking back at the bad-side of the relationships. 
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
...i agree, it would be better to have loved and lost than never loved at all...even in relationship...it would be best to give your all and lost something rather than not doing anything at all because of your own foolish pride...if everything will work out okay, well and good, if not, then it is still better since you give your all, you expressed your feeling, you loved..
@constantthing (36)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
its true, its better that i've experienced how it is to be love and to be in love. Despite the pain, i would prefer to be in love because with pain or mistakes, you learn from it and gain some insight about it. do i regret giving my all? perhaps at one point but that's life, like what i've said you've learn from it. each relationship is different, you deal with different man each time. but hey, its always nice to be in love and be pampered and all that. and kudos to you for finally finding that perfect one for you. hope you and wife will have a lasting marriage :)
@sjhaeki (795)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
i'm not really sure if i have a say on this, since i haven't been on a relationship as of yet. but i guess believing this saying wouldn't hurt anyone. since it's a give and take thing in a relationship, right? but i won't move on an impulse when it comes to love. well whatever it is i do, i use some thinking with it something like a habit i guess.
i still have to experience it for me to believe in that saying myself though.
@GemmaR (8517)
•
31 Aug 10
I agree that it's better to have loved and lost, but I think that some people have very vague ideas of what "love" actually is. When some people say that they're in loev with someone, they might just mean that they like the way they look or something like that. If you say you've been with 37 women, there's no way that you can have been emotionally involved with all of them to the depth of being able to use love to describe what you felt for them.
Before people get with other people, they should think about what they want, and ensure that the other person wants the same thing. If they don't do that, then people are going to end up being hurt.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
31 Aug 10
I will always believe that is better to have loved and lost. never having love is tragic and lonely. To never know love is something nobody should endure. If you can love at least once in your life you are truly blessed.
@juicekodai (1121)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
yeah... i guess it is.. i used to believe in that statement.. but now, broken as i am.. i wished i have never loved at all... 
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
31 Aug 10
One will only feel this in a crush or an infatuation.....It hurts when your heart is broken. You feel you should have never loved, when you knew it will break. But we never know that a relation would break. Atleast i didnt know that things would go wrong....
