Do you ever feel when something good happens, something bad overshadows it?

It depends on my condition at the time. I do sometimes wonder what is wrong when things are really right. I think you need to work on self esteem issues and boundaries. Kids and husbands get used to us doing things for them and when we put down our foot and stop doing it all h#ll breaks lose. Sad. It is not really your issue that your daughter is upset with you. It is hers. Stand firm and enjoy them when you can. Co-dependency is no fun and is so closely links it is hard to stand strong against it. There are some good links on line if you good for them on Co-dependency.

So happy your company has left and your son 'WOKE UP!' Now sounds like your daughter needs to WAKE UP TOO! I don't understand why children think their parents should still pay thier bills once they move out of the house. Stand up for your self and tell her to pay up. Not your responsibility unless your name is on the account. I had to play tough love with one of my girls. She had some speeding tickets and no seatbelt tickets and a good paying job. She chose not to pay the tickets and I refused to give her the money so she ended up spending some time in JAIL! When she got out, I did pay everything up so she would be legal but I made sure she paid me back....with interest because I had to put it all on my credit card! Then we bought a new stainless steel out door grill and she wanted to know how much it was causse she couldn't aford one and I told her..."we paid a lot less for that thne you paid for those speeding tickets!" She has had to borrow money since but all of it has been paid back and the two times she did it was excuseable. Good luck....

Yep sure has. But you know I keep looking for that cloud with the silver lining / lil miracle and bam it happens. Or things are not as bad as I let myself get carried away about... as I'm a "what if...." kind of girl and I drive myself nutty with worry probably more often than I should.

I've been using my PayPal MyLot earnings to pay for my (and my husband's) Pogo accounts. If your daughter has a computer, why doesn't she do the same thing? There's also survey site and places like Swagbucks that can pay into PayPal. Send her a referral link for MyLot...then the ball is in her court. And, after you do that...enjoy your peace!

Well, earlier I was going to ask when she was going to be coming back for another visit, but it doesn't sound like that will be the case at all. I would offer myself up for your son, but since I'm very happily married, I can't do that either. Now, if anything ever happens to my husband (God forbid), I might be the person for the job. That said, I think that it is wrong that your daughter send you a nastygram because you can't afford to pay for her game membership this year. Now, if there is a way that you can collect coke rewards, you can use those for Pogo memberships (my brother paid for his and my little sister's this way).

I've had my share with these experiences, probably still will lol. My most recent happened only a few days ago, the day was going great at school, just found out I got the top mark in the class for Japanese, played a good game of cards at break, and at lunch I see one of closest friends in tears.

I guess that in a way this just might be true. Because we measure good by comparing it to bad. So it stands to reason that something good happening is going to give way to something not-so-good or bad. It is how we view it.. As I Zen practioner I try my best to ride the roller-coaster of life, taking the good with the bad. It's not easy though especially where kids get involved at times. _Derek

Hi bunnybon, So sorry to hear you are having such a bad day. Things do seem to work that way, don't they? I try not to anticipate too much because then it just burns me even more when it all crashes down...and it quite often does. Instead I take the bad moments as they come and for what they are and I savor and cherish those moments when all is peaceful and drama-free in my world and no one is calling asking for this or that. Winnie the pooh had a great phylosophy about this..."No expectations means no disappointments." Hope your day gets better and do not let your daughter get to you!!

Yes, sometimes it seems like we pay for good things by suffering the bad! But again, it is your attitude that's making your day bad. You are letting your daughter have the power to make you feel bad. You know you've been good to her so why do you let her do that to you?! When things calm down a little you might want to have an honest talk with her about appreciation and how she makes people not want to help her because she doesn't seem to recognize their generosity and thinks she's entitled to things she could be doing for herself if she would manage her money better. Well, leave money management out of it, that's asking for a way! Sorry it didn't work out for your son but it's better now than after they are married or living together. Cheap lesson for your son! Now, look at your day--you're healthy, your son has been saved from a bad relationship, your daughter has probably been made to think about managing her money better and your house is your own once more with just your son there. How does it get any better?!

HI bON, I THOUGHT WHEWN MY SONS GOT FROWN I HAD IT MADE. wrong!!!When they are little they step on your toes after they get grown they step on your heart. Mine are good at raining on my parade to. Sorry u got rained on.

Hi bunnybon7, You should be dancing around with happiness, as for your daughter, you should kick her butt and my motto is if you can't pay, don't play, simple, why do you have to fork out for them? its time to be selfish, you have done enough for your children, she just have to save for it or don't play at all, take care. p.s(glad that woman and her brat has gone) Tamara

I dont know what's with people cause they tend to notice the negative things first rather than the good ones. In a certain relationship, when someone do something good for you, its feel great. But when that someone did something bad, all the good things that he did is forgotten.

Almost every day for me. I have had many circumstances like your and of course am still alive so definitly more will come. My parades sounds like this. I make $2 bucks, whoot whoot, then I get a $50 ticket the same day. I received in the mail a $25 check I did not know was coming to me Hallelujah, then I got in my car to go deposit it and my truck overheats. When will my parades have cheers.

hope it goes well with your family, now i feel bad by taking for granted my mom..and now i understand her...somehow, saying goes...you can never repay your parents if you never become a parent yourself

Oh Dear Your Daughter should appreciate you more and if she can go out and buy things she does not need then she can pay her own account to But al in all though things have worked out for the best as your Son has realised she is not the one and it is good that he has found this out now and not when it was to late Hugs

of course! one step forward, two steps back, at least the son realizes this isn't the bird for him... good riddance!

hi bunnybon hurray they are gone but sorry about your daughter and her pogo account. seems like our adult children at times just use us with no real excuse too. Oh I remember so vividly a year and a half ago when this email friend of my sons promised us she would help us by sponsoring the rent on nn apt in Antioch Ca. seems the friend's sister lived in Antioch okay the friend even took the necessary steps to write out a paper for the manager of the complex stating she would be responsible for the first three months rent okay so we had be train fare and were working on the funds to move our stuff when my son, worried about all this,emailed the manager of the new aprt. complex. good thing he did as the so called internet friend reneged of the offer, and had called the manager from England and told him to tear up the agreement. she had changed her mind.That was not just rain that was a tornado and hurricane that left us homeless. we had to bow to the horrid economy he got gov.help to getinto an apt with three other men, and I with my sons help got in here at this retirement center so I would have a roof over my bead and food and a bed. in case anyone has the idea this is a freebee no not at all my social security check and ssi check pay for my being here. some mylotter once assumed I got free cable. well look if paying 39 dollars a month for cable for internet is free okay, most of it gets paid by my monthly earnings so I only have to pay maybe six dollars out of my own pocket.

Hey bun! I don't know what to say! Does that mean that the son realized that "she" was a pain in the butt and she needs to stay in NY permanently? (Hope so for both your sake)! As for the daughter thing, can't really comment since I don't think you did anything wrong! You deserve a break already! I know how much you've done for her so when is it enough? I'm here if you want to talk! Hugs, Opal