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If this happened before out time together I cannot blame him for his past choices, but certainly will blame him he doesn't immediately take responsibility. However, if this happens during our time together than the answer to your discussion is he has got to go. I cannot excuse him for doing me wrong because see now it is about me.

I would kill him since we've been together since we were 17 and I was his first, meaning he would have had to cheat on me. xD But, if the situation was different, I'd want him to be part of his child's life. I didn't always get along with my father, but I can't imagine growing up without one either and knowing that my father knew I existed and didn't want any part of my life. Can you imagine what that would do to a child? I know several people that have had to go through that and it's not pretty. If he was stupid enough to make the mistake he should be man enough to be part of the child's life and I would support him in it, assuming that's what the mother and child wanted.

Actually I think about that quite a but. it's a possibility and he's told be this since before we were married. One of his ex-girlfriends got pregnant. He wanted the baby, he was so happy, but she said she didn't think it would work out and she didn't want to have the baby and was going to have an abortion. he told her he would take the baby if she didn't want it and she told him she couldn't have something around constantly reminding her of him. So she left and he doesn't really know if she did go through with the abortion. So I'm preparing myself for that to happen one day. We already have 2 kids, so I would encourage him to be there for the child. I can't deny that right. It will still be shocking to me, I know he can't afford to take care of it and he would be so mad at the mother for not letting him know because he would so want to be there in the child's life. I would be a little upset if it was a girl because he's only given me 2 boys and no girls as of yet but I'd still take them in and help them like they were my own if they wanted. I wouldn't leave my husband, it's not his fault.

I absolutely love children so would welcome them into our lives....I have two step grandkids....but you can leave out the step...they are my grandkids! So having someone come up with a child they didn't know about...sure wouldn't be a problem.

If it's a child, ie a minor, he was cheating on me. :D

Happened to a friend of mine's mum. Well, the guy's wife was ok and calm about it. She knew that the mother of the other daughter didn't work and was trash. So she gave money to the daughter. What happened isn't the daughter's ault after all.

I would understand if he wanted to be in the child's life, I'd understand if he and the mother were on friendly terms as parents (and only as parents), but I would watch him closely to make sure that he and the past woman could be trusted. Hubby has three ex-wives and knows about all the kids he has, and I trust him well enough, but the exes need to be watched, because they know how to press his buttons.

I would be devestated if my husband or boyfriend found out he was the father to another woman's child. I would hope that our relationship could survive it. I would like to think he would accept responsibility for what he has done. I would do everything I could to stsnd by him and try to understand how this new child affects our lives together.

What do you mean have a baby with another woman,is it before or during the time he is with me? If it was before that is fine if he never knew but if if it was during the time it was then that is a different story! I might skin him alive lol. But no matter what he has a right to be in that child's life and vice versa and no matter what you can't say he should not. If you truly love someone you would be able to embrace those who would mean to him and yes even if it hurts.

Although it sounds cruel, but I will definitely leave my husband. Because I only want to be the first and the only person to have his child. If he "did" that thing with other woman, love or just lust, I dont care. I just don't want to be with him anymore.

me too i would do same like you^^ but if he wanted me to meet his kid why not? :) he could take him to our house and i would want him to like me^^ i never judge people from their past. past is past and it was before he met me so. as long as it wasnt when he meet me is ok. also he was being honest with me so i wouldnt have any reason to just leave him. even he would need my support bcs it was a new thing to him too so couldnt leave him just like that^^

Dunno it depends if he was fitter than me if he was I would have to f*** off but if he wasn't I would have killed him. As 4 my girlfriend I would have left her