What kind of father is this?

Philippines
September 1, 2010 4:00am CST
I though I saw evil today. How can a father harm his children and drive them away from home? I went to see the father of my cousins to ask him his children are no longer living in their homes and he told me he sent them away because they are no good. I don't understand why he can say all these things when he's the one who is good for nothing - he who is jobless and a complete burden to his children? When my aunt who was the breadwinner, he would maltreat her, even until the day she died, he still maltreated her because he took the money for the burial of my aunt and spend them gambling. Even when my cousins were children, he would send them to sell things and get the money for himself. He was never good to them. I can never remember him showing love for my cousins and my aunt. A few weeks ago, he tried to stab one of my cousins, kicked another, and threatened the others to kill them. And now, he says they are good for nothing even when the children are the ones feeding him, taking care of him? And he has the gall to say the children spent my aunt's pension even he spent them by gambling? What kind of a father is he?
6 responses
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
He isn't a father. He doesn't deserve to have kids!!! I was so pissed of my husband so many times because he was hardly making time for his children even if he's at home.And I couldn't why it was impossible for him to devout a little of his time for them just like good fathers do. But this man is worse than my husband. Far worse than him!!! This keeps my blood boiling to the highest degree. Poor kids... God help them...
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
Yes, I agree with you. I am mad at him for what he is doing to his children. I don't think he is acting like a man at all. I pray God will enlighten him before it is too late.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
There are some people who is cruel in nature. And this particular father here is a bit devilish in nature and should never be a role model to anyone. Good thing he cast away his children so that they may never see more of his evil ways. It's really bad for the moral of the children to feel abuses by the father. They may learn to hate him in the end. Bad natured people is generally not bad because when we were young and just like a baby we are a blank canvass. We just learn the ways of life through our parents and other people around us. maybe something bad happened along the way that triggered the bad nature of this man or make him what he is today.
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
Yes, I think you are right. Even I wonder what kind of bringing up he was given by this parents when he was young. But I met his father when they were just married with my aunt (I was in high school then). HIs father I think was a good man. I don't know.
@emarie (5442)
• United States
1 Sep 10
screw what kind of father, what kind of rational human being would be like that! If he lived near me or was in my family, I would have turned him over to the police A LONG time ago. All I would care about are those children. Where did he send them and how old are they? The main concern is that the children get the help they need because obviously they had a hard childhood and the chance of them repeating the same mistakes their father made is high if they don't start getting a positive role model in their life. I hope all the best for your cousins and I hope they are all right. That ba$t@rd of a father should just be left alone in his own evils and thoughts without the help of the family. He may put in his genetics to make those kids, but he has no right calling himself their father if that's how he is.
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
I do not think there is a reason to put grievances on him. From the way he said things, he's merely following what his instinct tells him to do. In fact, he all reminds me of some women who just take care of their own needs and neglect the things men have the right to have because those women only follow their instinct to beautify/support themselves and completely ignore whatever problems that aren't their own. And because all humans follow their instinct most of the time, he's not exempted from the practice.
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
He is not a father. He's just a biological parent. Fathers love their children and take care of them. I say the children are better off without him. It's best if you would look after them or someone else in your clan. Report him to the police because he hurts the children. That's abuse. The police can take him away and you could ask the courts to draw up a restraining order against him so that he will not be able to come near to his children again. Then the kids will be safer and maybe even have a normal life.
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
Yes, I accompanied my cousins to the police yesterday because I can no longer bear to see my cousins abused all their lives. And I pity my niece and nephew who are also now harassed by their grandfather. I know he is an old man now, 64 years old but he does not behave that way, he has no remorse for all the things that he did to his children. I hope God will understand why I am helping his children. Please pray that God will help us. Thank you.
• India
1 Sep 10
well.. thinking that the information you provided is 100% true.. i think he is definitely misguided person.. and certainly his bad deeds are being accounted for his hereafter life.. i pray almighty Allah for your cousins to lead a happy and rightful life
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
Thank you. Please pray the he will realize that he had done bad deeds and that he will repent for all the things he did.