Are you still friends with your Ex?

Yes we are, actually we're the best of friends. For me, it's just a matter of acceptance and besides we've been friends for so many years, so I think that is also the reason why we are still connected. We could not get over with the friendship we have for so many years than we have as lovers. If we recall of our relationship as lovers, it's just a recollection of memories but no more feeling involve. Acceptance is the key. We believe that if it is us meant to be, it could have been happen before, but we meant to be friends, that's what we believe in.

I think it depends on the situation, and what caused you to separate in the first place. I'm very good friends with my ex and it's not a problem at all. :) We were together for a very long time and after it not working out I think we can both see that we are different people now than when we first got together. However, because we were so close for so long, we're happy being friends still.

Yes, my Ex and I are still friends many years after we split up. We weren't exactly friends in the beginning, when we first split up, but time has healed a lot of the old wounds and we have forgiven each other. It's all water under the bridge now, and we get on well if we happen to meet by chance. We don't exactly go looking for each other though. _Derek

That depends if I should really be friends with him or not. If befriending him means he will still try to get back when I do not want him anymore then I'd say no. If we're on good terms and he's way over me as i am with him then it's cool to be friends. But if he has done me so much wrong lol well I can forgive but I won't stay near him at all.

no. I do not want to have anything to do with him anymore. We parted in a very bad way. I do not wish to be friends with him anymore.Ever! I do not think I can forgive him anymore.

i dated two guys in the past. the first one i'm friends with, but the second one i'm not. i can't say one relationship differed from the other, or that one break up was handled differently from the other because they were fairly equally treated. for me at least, it all comes down to the guy's present girlfriend. my first ex's gf is cool and even talks to me,but my second ex's gf, omg is she a freak! i know i must have been wrong in talking to guy#2 so soon after the break-up, but i realized it must be ok since it hasn't even been two weeks since our break up that they started officially seeing each other. i expected the same civility as guy#1's gf from guy#2's gf, but after messaging him on FB if everything was alright with him, i receive a msg from his gf accusing me of "stealing" his boyfriend. um, we broke up weeks before. obvs i wasn't gonna "rob" her of a boyfriend. but i understand such a reaction was natural despite how irrational.. so i guess, aside from yourself, it also depends on the people in the relationship. for my first ex, i can say i'm friends with him and his gf, but for the second couple it's pretty much confronting a bit-- ...er, storm ^^

You're right. It depends on yourself. On how you dealt with the break-up and the break-up itself. As of experience, NO. Me and my ex that I dated for more than 5 years are not friends anymore. We're like strangers. Strangers but with a past. It's kinda sad come to think of it. But I'd rather label it that way, it could be worse. The break-up and what happened after is just terrible. There is no 3rd party involved though but I guess not being friends with my ex helps me in making my life peaceful and less stressful. After I dated another guy after him, when I broke up with the guy, it hurts but at least it was a mutual break-up. We're good friends now unlike my first ex. It's just different. So you're right, it really depends on you on how you deal with it. If you're just open-minded and just wish for the best for that person , then it will be easier for you to become friends with your ex. But if not, it certainly is difficult.

the question is would your ex want to be your friend. it takes two to tango and only matured people can rise above the failed relationship and be friends again.

you know,some happened before and maybe for some reason, they are parted.It is a hard thing to forget. you may miss him or her. but you don't want to get close to her.It has left sad memory for you as you expericed the phychological fight in your mind.so you may choose to live far away and forget the thing. For most people it is hard to make friends again. as one says" friendship can turn into love but love is hard to change into friendship.May,it is true for you. how do you think???

if we loved someone very deeply then we can't loose them at any cost...... Am also having such ex girlfriend..... now some times she is calling me.... am some time i used to see her..... i think i can't forget her at any cost ...... she was my all...... i can't separate her from my life....... am still loving her.... now she is a wife of some one else .... i know it is bad to love one's wife..... but .. i need time to get back.......

it's depend on you :). For me , if my ex is a good person i will be friend with him :) . I'll move on and i have a friend is my EX

No I could never be frinds with ym ex. We have a child together but we dont have a friendship, its called a mutual agree between two people that doesnt involve friendship but aquaintances when it comes to our child thats it. As far as being friends No way.

well i'm divided in this. i'm friends with my 1st ex but not with the 2nd. Although i've already forgiven my 2nd ex, there's no chance that we can be friends not like my 1st ex since me and 1st ex are in the same peer group. I think its healthy if you're friends with your ex as long you both move on already and forgive and forget the past. :)

It really depends on the situation. Sometimes you just have to accept the facts that everything that has happened will never heal anything, let alone make another relationship such as friendships. But if the reasons why you broke are mutually decided, then you can be friends and share another dimension of talking and chatting.

yes.. all of them but i no longer have contact to all of them. we parted just fine. we talked about separating and became friends shortly after. they're all from my city except one who's out of the country. but few years ago i left town so we no longer see each other. it's good when you're still friends with them you know. considering every/all moments you have had with each other..

there's nothing wrong with being friends with your exes. the first real relationship i had was very tragic, i was the one who fooled around... she forgave me already and since then, we've been very close... closer than before. i was invited to her wedding and her daughter calls me Uncle. :) her hubby doesn't know of course... and my girlfriend. we're not doing anything wrong like you know what... whenever i need someone to talk to with just about anything, she'll always be there for me and vice versa. best friends is what i define our relationship now. :)

Hi! I think it depends on how you broke up with him. I mean if you did broke up with him without any deep hurt feelings,maybe yes,you can be friends. But if you broke up with him because he did something really hurtful like cheated on you,or anything like that,then no. He might take your friendship a different meaning. Better live your own life without him if that would be the case.

hi ktmatunog, i have tried to be friends with my exes but unfortunately have never been able to. i think one of the reasons that we could not be friends was that the relationship was never that good to begin with, so keeping them as friends would have been a bad idea. it is like keeping someone around who has been a negative influence in one's life. yuck!

I usually move on..staying friends with them if you were really into them or even loved them is ridiculous if you ask me. Some people do it but not me. The guys usually end up disliking me anyways. LOL

In life no one is in a business of making enemies especially with those you loved and shared special times with. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being friends with your ex and in fact that might be your next stepping stone into being a better you in your next relationship. HOW??? You might ask. From time to time when you talk discuss on all the bad things he/she disliked while you were dating and make an effort not to repeat them in your current or next relationship.